So I am with this guy that I love, I am pregnant, he is the father. He doesn't want kids. He lied and said that he did when I got pregnant. Now all he does is lay around the house all day and acts like he is sick. I am scared to death of being a single mom. He ignores me too, last night I put on some lingere and tried giving him a nice evening, he acted like he was sick until I went out to the couch, then he was better (imagine that) I want him to be the man he was when I first met him, and I am not getting an abortion. This is a miracle child (I wasn't supposed to be able to get prego) and I am keeping it. He said he was going to propose to me the other day and then he figured out I was keeping the kid. I think he is afraid to leave because he knows he will have to pay child support. He doesn't want a kid because he wants to travel and do other thigns first...what do I do?! Please help!
2007-01-28 05:42:51 · 11 answers · asked by J B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You want it. You decide to keep it. You raise it. It sucks you'd have to do it alone but he obviously doesnt want anything to do with you or the kid now.
I think that even though it takes two to make a child, if a woman decides to keep it then it is her responsibility and hers alone.
2007-01-28 05:55:02 · answer #1 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your entire situation, but if I was in a similar position, I would move back in with my parents for a while to give us both time to think about things. You can't force your guy to be an active part of your life or your child's life. You both need some time alone to figure out what you're going to do. It's very possible that you will be a single mom, and perhaps it will only be temporary, if at all. But you should face that possibility and not cling to him merely because you're afraid to be alone. Get some help through the state if finances are an issue. Don't be ashamed to do so. Just work your way out as you can. Everything will be okay if you will listen to your gut. Think about the decisions you have ahead of you, and choose the solution that feels right for you, with respect to your child.
2007-01-28 13:58:26 · answer #2 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really a tough situation,it's pretty messed up how soome MEN can act! I am just so proud of you for keeping your spirit high,and for keeping your little one!
I'm 24 years old,and have three little girls my self~ and let me tell you my third daughter was a compleate surprise. I didn't think I could handle a third! But here I am a Momma of three , and I couldn't even imagine my life right now with out all three of them. Babies are a gift from GOD, and they will make you sit there and cry happy tears!
That Man of yours needs to be talked to by another young father perhaps,about the feeling that a baby makes you experience it's a very strong feeling and ,to be crusing around instead of bonding with your baby , will never full fill your heart more than spending time with your own child!
Congradulations to your pregnancy! I hope everything go'es well for you and your precious little life inside you! There is no other feeling in the WORLD that can replace the feeling of being a mother and holding your baby!
2007-01-28 14:03:46 · answer #3 · answered by ~*meli$sa*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest sweety you can't force a guy to be a man. He's not the man for you and you have to realize a.s.a.p. What man would not acknowledge a woman carrying his child? Get rid of this looser and send him on his way. Its okay to be a single mother as long as you can provide for your child and i'm pretty sure u can. Would you rather have your kid grow up in a household where he's not wanted by the father and his mother keeps trying to get the father to give the child some attention. Just think about that for a minute. Your life is going to be like the Bundy's if you don't get it togther and get rid of this looser. You have to think about your child. Good Luck!
2007-01-28 13:57:22 · answer #4 · answered by step b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down with him and have a reall heart to heart. Having a child is a great, wonderful but also very scary thing for two people to share. He unfortuatly is at the scared portion of the program while you have moved on from being scared about the pregnacy to being scared abotu how he is reacting to your pregnancy. Unfortuantly he is will probly never be the man that you he was when you first met, because face it we all put on our bets faces when we are first going out with someone, right. I hate to say this, but do you want to be with somone who doesn't want to have a child? Because ultimatly you want what is best for your child in the long run. But like I sugjested, have a heart to heart with him and use I messages only, both you and him so no one gets blamed for anything and no accusations are made in heat of the moment. I hope everything works out for you and congats on the pregency!
2007-01-28 13:58:36 · answer #5 · answered by friendly_future_cop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry to hear of your situation. It seems as if he is pushing you away. I know this must be really hard, but if he won't be there for you, you can't force him. It makes me sick to think he doesn't want to be there for you because that is wrong. Unfortunately a child is not going to make the relationship any stronger. Congratulations to being pregnant and do what is best for you and your child. If that means being a single mom, be the best you can be. It might be scary but you will come out so much stronger. Good luck to you!
2007-01-28 13:53:00 · answer #6 · answered by Jess_DH13 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honey you might need to accept the facts that you are going to be a single mother. becasue is doesnt not look well for this relationship right now. it looks like he resents for keeping the child, doesnt not find you acttractive, and he is ingoring you. thoses are not good signs in a relationship especail on with a child on the way. i would say start planning now so there are not surprises when he disappears.
2007-01-28 13:52:21 · answer #7 · answered by OB the Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE should have thought about that before y'all did the deed. YOU should have thought about not using protection.
1) Give the baby up for adoption if you are afraid of being a single Mom.
2) Dump your boyfriend. He's a selfish jerk.
2007-01-28 14:24:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should confront him about how you feel about him acting this way...if he still does not change let him know that you need time off from the relationship...honestly hes a jerk if hes behaving this way when he should be supporting you at this time...
2007-01-28 13:50:34 · answer #9 · answered by devilz advocate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this guy is gonna have to show some responsibility here. so lf your pregnant tell him to smart up. cause lf he wants to strand you then you can go after him for child support payments lf he at all dumps you. you can make his life so miserable. so tell him to think about lt for a minute.
2007-01-28 13:50:36 · answer #10 · answered by pamela d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋