Alright, so I've been going out with my gf since summer, and the relationship is getting pretty stale. I've been bored out of my mind! Well we used to party all kinds and the sex was great, but now everything is just boring. I have an extremely short attention span and rarely go out with people, I prefer just hooking up, so maybe it's my old habits kicking in. Anyway, one of my friends on the swim team had a party and i met this girl who is like everything I want in my gf and current relationship. Me and the new girl are currently hooking up every time we see each other and I feel guilty, yet I can't decide what to do, because they both have traits that like, and it's to hard to choose! Both are damn hot so neither can beat the other by looks. BTW I'm 15 and in high school
2007-01-28 05:39:01 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And the new girl knows that i have a gf, and doesn't care
2007-01-28 05:59:04 · update #1
and 15 is not to young for sex, I'm smart about it and use protection
2007-01-28 06:00:11 · update #2
You need not be in a serious relationship if you can't make it an exclusive faithful relationship. You should tell the old girl that you like her and blah blah, but that you are interested in seeing other people. Keep on seeing the new girl and maybe the old girl too--if she wants to see you.
2007-01-28 05:44:08 · answer #1 · answered by CyndiDrum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you think cheating is okay? Cheating is never okay and if you continue to your just setting yourself up for failure. Your only 15 give yourself time to grow but I know that's hard for a 15 year old to hear, but its true. How would you feel if you found out your girlfriend is doing the same thing with another guy? Is that cheating? of course it is! Be wise and just be friends with both of the girls. You may think your playing your girlfriend but she's probably playing you and that's why your bored. Your still young so you wouldn't get that!
2007-01-28 05:45:53 · answer #2 · answered by step b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you're 15 and in this kind of lifestyle? Maybe that's why you are getting "bored" so easily. It sounds like you aren't interested in these girls for who they are, so you aren't going to be happy with either of them in the long term. If you're in a relationship for sex then it will get mundane. Hopefully you find a girl that you can have a meaningful relationship with. When you care about her then you're not going to be bored with yourself, but interested in her.
As far as your question goes...it is NEVER okay to cheat. You have to make a decision. In fact, it sounds like you already have. You've been cheating on her already, so it is only fair that you tell her. She deserves to know what you are exposing her to. Then, she will get to make the decision. You should tell her about what you've been doing so she can take the steps she needs to take to stay healthy if that's a concern for her. If you want to continue to fool around with other girls then you should break up with the one you have instead of cheat. Nobody needs a relationship with someone that won't be faithful to them.
It's a good sign that you feel guilty about it, though. That's probably your conscious telling you to do something about it. Good luck.
2007-01-28 05:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by Woman 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, first off, cheating is NEVER acceptable. Secondly, you shouldn't be having sex at age 15. But if you honestly want to hook up with this new girl, than dump the old one because if they both find out that you've been cheating on them then you won't have either of them.
2007-01-28 05:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is never okay. Ask yourself .... Would it be okay if a girl did that to me? Could I respect/trust her? No. It is unfair to both girls.
Nor, are you doing yourself any favors. In everyone's best interest, I hope that you are using protection. It would also be unfair and cruel to bring an innocent baby into the situation.
You should really concentrate on your schoolwork and your future career first. Fifteen is too early to commit to a relationship. You have proved that point already. You are not ready for it, nor should you be.
2007-01-28 05:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lol, its questionable which types of girls these are since they seem so promiscuous for 15. But honestly, have the decency to end it with one girl before running off with another - I dont care how great they both seem, if you're old enough to be having adult relationships you're old enough to have the responsibility of either ending the first one or not letting the second one happen.
2007-01-28 05:43:48 · answer #6 · answered by radiancia 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand the problem, you have outgrown your current relationship and it no longer does anything for you. That's part of life; relationships end.
It's never right to cheat because there's a real simple way to avoid doing it and that's by breaking up! Grow a pair and handle your business!
2007-01-28 05:46:13 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it is never OK in any situation. If you are going to be that disrespectful then you do not need to have any girls. Break up with the first girl and then go for the second, if it is that hard for you then maybe you shouldn't be with either. It is better than playing them both.
2007-01-28 05:44:43 · answer #8 · answered by melody g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no cheating is not ok in any situation you are only 15 and it shows you will probably breask the poor girls heart if not pass n something nasty if you having sex with both!!!! dump one or the other and if your gonna be old enough to have sex and girlfriends try growing up and acting like it or dump both and be on your own but someone is gonna get hurt whatever you do but i suggest you do it quick before you get found out and get hurt yourself!!!!
2007-01-28 05:45:50 · answer #9 · answered by hayley d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 17 and haven't taken it that far. I'll tell you what: Concentrate on school, get a life and then "hook up".
And cheating is NEVER ok, unless your gf has told you "Yeah, you can hook up with whoever you want; I'll do the same"
2007-01-28 05:45:14 · answer #10 · answered by moulin.rouge 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋