my grandpa died this morning, and i miss him. what can i do to keep my mind off of him and to stop crying? my mom is a wreck and it hurts to see her so upset. please help.
2007-01-28 05:25:09 · 11 answers · asked by kk~jones 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i know people keep asking if he was ill and here's the answer:
~he has been sick for a while and has been in the hospital off and on for years. this time he had pneumonia and congestive heart failure. thanks for your concern. i love you all
2007-01-28 05:38:49 · update #1
I'm so sorry for your loss. That's how I felt when my dad died. I couldn't think of anything else for days and days. I'm afraid my own kids sort of took a back seat for a while there. It doesn't matter if he was sick for years, or got hit by a car. A loss is a loss. The only thing I can tell you is life will go on. You will always miss him. Remember what a great person he was, what he gave you and just talk to him. He's with you. He'll come in your dreams sooner or later. Talking really does help. Peace be with you love.
2007-02-01 06:48:32 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. It is the wrong thing to keep your mind off your grandpa...this will not help you get through this. What you need to do is remember....remember all the good things, the fun you had with him, how much you love him...these are the memories...and memories never die so you need to think about them. I also believe that when you think about a person after they are gone...the good times together it keeps them closer to you. It would be impossible to keep your mind off it right now...so why not just think about the happy and not the sad...in time, it will get better but something like this takes time. As far as your mom goes...share those good memories with her...as it will help her also.
2007-01-28 13:31:09 · answer #2 · answered by natashainka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear of your grandpa's passing and I hope he didn't have to suffer too much and just left this earth peacefully. You may very well have mixed up feeling and emotions for a little while as you grieve the loss of this man who meant so much to your life. Try and celebrate his life rather then feeling sorry for your loss. He would be proud of you and not want you to be upset for a long time. You may also go through all the stages of grieving and this is very normal and healthy. You and your mom will continue to feel upset and may cry unexpectedly for a while but this will lessen with time. Show your respect to your grandpa and make him proud of you as you age also. In addition once he has been buried please do not forget about him but rather go and visit his grave as often as possible. You may even want to go and talk with him (whether he can he you or not I do not know) as this can be very helpful therapy. I know I go and visit my dad's grave and just inform him when things are going either bad or good and it helps me immensely. Again sorry to hear of your granddads passing and best of luck to your family in dealing with this loss.
2007-01-28 13:35:49 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss. It is so hard. You aren't really going to be able to forget. Maybe if you and your mom spent some time together...remembering, crying, going through pics, talking about times with him... it would help you both. Had your Grandpa been ill? I know it doesnt reallly help but to know that the loved one isn't suffering anymore is a little comfort.
2007-01-28 13:33:17 · answer #4 · answered by paula0005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your grandfather. Only time will heal the pain. I will post something for you, you don't have to believe god to read this. I hope you are not offended.
Footprints
author: Mary Stevenson
One night a man had a dream. He dreamed he was walking along the beach with the Lord. Across the sky flashed scenes from his life. For each scene, he noticed two sets of footprints in the sand; one belonging to him, and the other to the Lord.
When the last scene of his life flashed before him, he looked back at the footprints in the sand. He noticed that at many times along the path of his life there was only one set of footprints. He also noticed that it happened at the very lowest and saddest times in his life.
This really bothered him and he questioned the Lord about it. " Lord... you said that once I decided to follow You, You'd walk with me all the way. But I have noticed that during the most troublesome times in my life, there is only one set of footprints. I do not understand why You'd leave me when I needed You the most."
The Lord replied, "My precious, precious child, I love you and I would never leave you. During your times of trial and suffering, when you see only one set of footprints, it was then that I carried you.
Take care,
2007-01-28 13:35:07 · answer #5 · answered by Paul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you probllay dont want to hear this, but only time will heal wounds. im sorry for your loss. i know its hard to handle your mom right now, but she might really need you. if she has brothers/sisters/husband or someone else to help her get through this, this might be a good time to turn to friends to help get your mind off of it, and to keep you busy, or just try spending some time alone, take some walks, go get involved in an activity. again, sorry for your families loss
2007-01-28 13:30:41 · answer #6 · answered by amana5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fight the tears and try to only remember the good times, in a positive way not emotional,..and be strong for your mother,....death is but a moment in time, we shall all see clearly someday after pain has calmed that this is a natural course and he is resting now,...resting in peace.
2007-01-28 13:31:15 · answer #7 · answered by iroc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh im so sorry! If he has something left, a sweater, a heirloom, bring it to your mom and remind her to not dwell on sadness but on good memories, tell her your grandpa would've wanted you to be happy.
2007-01-28 13:29:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm very sorry to hear that....i wish God opens the doors of heaven for him, and i wish you, your mother, and your whole family good luck...you can always think of the happy times you had together, think of all the good things he did, always think positive, never think negative... make him alive again, let him live inside you and your family....for you as a female, it's very easy for you to be upset, females were made emotional, it might be alittle hard for you to get over it, but trust me, you'll get over it soon (at least someday!), and i hope you recover soon....
good luck! :)
2007-01-28 13:37:51 · answer #9 · answered by Valencianista 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't be able to keep your mind off of it. It's ok to be upset and it's healthy to cry. It has to come out sometime...so just let it out now. Try to talk\think about happy memories of him, and what you appreciated about him. Focus on his life, not his death.
2007-01-28 13:35:55 · answer #10 · answered by Tamara N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋