to a buy a dress that is way more expensive than the brides?
My niece is getting married and has found a very lovely gown for herself (2nd hand). She began planning her wedding 2 weeks ago. All of her brides maids have stressed that they are on a budgetthe cost of the attire presented to them by the bride is $350.. This is more than double what she has paid. To top it off the wedding is in three months and they need to place their order within a week.
These young girls are all highschool or college age. I have one daughter in the wedding and my sister has two, This is an awful lot of money to come up with in a week.
Because the brides budget is minimal herself (She is screaming poverty), I feel that she should come up with something a little less expensive for the ladies who are in no better shape than she is. You can have something nice without going "all out". Some have even said that they would have to decline because of the expense. Now she's mad. Your thoughts?
2007-01-28 05:20:25 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My bridesmaids did buy there dresses, but they were about 1/8th the cost, or less, of mine. I would have never expected them to buy anything expensive. One was in college, and one was just 10! I don't think she should expect them to buy it if it is going to cost that much. She should try to help out if those are the dresses she really wants, but I see that that isn't much of an option. If she really expects those dresses, she also needs to expect a few maids to decline to be in the wedding. That will effect both her and them. I think a possible solution would be for all of you to get together and explain it to her. I know it would be hard to upset the bride, but if she wants maids, it might need to happen. Good luck.
2007-01-28 05:31:34 · answer #1 · answered by Brandiibaby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The bride is being selfish. Yes, the wedding day is the bride and groom's day but the situation she has engineered is ridiculous. Someone needs to tell this bride to get real and start thinking of others instead of herself.
You "feel that she should come up with something a little less expensive for the ladies" - change "little" to "lot". I think those people considering declining because of the expense are right.
2007-01-28 05:34:33 · answer #2 · answered by Alex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that what the bride is asking of her bridesmaids is ridiculous. I am planning my wedding and I would never expect my bridesmaids to shell out that kind of money for a dress they will only wear once. If she really expects them to pay $350 without any problems she needs a reality check. If people cannot pay that money, and she wants them in specific dresses she should at least pay for half or change the dresses.
2007-01-28 10:05:54 · answer #3 · answered by UhOH! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't afford the dress back out now so that she can find someone else. And she should be a shamed of herself. She should be looking for an economical dress for you all since the bridesmaids pay for their own gowns. Or she should at least offer to help off set the cost.
2007-01-29 02:34:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with those that declined. If she is not willing to allow them to chooses a less expensive option and is not willing to pay for at least half of the cost I'd advise the bridesmaids to decline as well. You can't expect people to go into debt just to look pretty on your wedding day. Sounds like she is being very selfish and unreasonable. Has anyone expressed their feelings regarding the cost directly to her ? Does she know how you all feel ?
Good Luck !
2007-01-28 06:20:31 · answer #5 · answered by mailersky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is alot of money! She should have thought this out more throughly in all of the girls are young and really don't have alot of money. But, IT IS HER DAY though! Maybe, everyone should get together and let her know that you all don't have that kind of money and to pick other attire! My bridesmaid dresses were from David's Bridal and were $165.00. The shoes were clear and half off. I found the jewerly at Claire's for $10.00 a set. Necklace and earrings. I bought the jewerly. The bras were from David's and were like $89.00 or something, but you can't find that type of bra anywhere else! Their hair was like $30.00 done by someone I know. She came to my house and did all of us!
2007-01-28 10:06:00 · answer #6 · answered by jacksonblonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is WAY too much for a bridesmaid dress, unless the bride were paying for them herself. There are thousands of beautiful dresses out there for 100 and less! Let her be mad; talk to her mom.
2007-01-28 13:26:35 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that the bride is overstepping boundaries, this is by deciding what they are going to wear number one:
1) Whoever is paying for the dress should decide
My suggestion is that girls/bride should go on an outing to a local dress shop and browse to see what they can find something within their price range. It is not an attack on the bride, the bridemaids can't afford the dresses
2007-01-28 05:29:58 · answer #8 · answered by Emily L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do i think the price is outrageous, No. Prom gowns can cost that. Do i think that it is ridiculous to ask someone to come up with that much money that quickly, YES. If she wanted a gown that expensive she should have given you advance warning. I am in college and my bridesmaid dresses will be around 2-300 but I am telling all my friends a year in advance so they can plan, and they have all aproved the dress saying they can wear it again.
2007-01-28 07:07:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think the bredes maids should take stuff like that into consideration when they are asked. weddings are expensive for everyone, not just the B&G, but maybe the bride should have told you the cost of the dressed sooner so yu haad time to save
2007-01-28 06:15:21 · answer #10 · answered by zimmzimm 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋