how can i forgive?

Question

whats the good way to forgive and forget?
forgive those who wronged me?
and those wo did, or do it intentionaly?

thanks!

Answer 1

I don't know a way to forgive, for me it was always so easy. I think, however, the best way to forgive is to understand.
Try to love and forgive yourself first and then the others...

Answer 2

Try looking at it this way.

What will happen to YOU, if you do not forgive and forget?
Sometimes we can be so caught up in being wronged - and sometimes for good reason, but it doesn't do us any good to harbour resentment. This can manifest in many horrible ways within our bodies much the same way as stress can cause disorders.
What's done is done. It's the past. The best thing to do is to let it go and look forward with a positive outlook. You will have learned by this experience and you will know how to avoid it in the future, or to do things differently.

So rise above it and forgive. You will feel so much more in control of yourself. It's very empowering.
Don't dwell on it as it won't do you any good. Put your head up, shoulders back and smile...then say I forgive you...and MEAN it!

good luck.

Answer 3

1.) Make sure the situation is completed.

>If the person is STILL hurting you- this cannot move on until they stop.
2.)Understand WHY you harbor feelings about this person after the event.
>Is it the injustice of the event?

3.)Understand where you stand now.
Come to know what you have taken away from the event- what have you learned about yourself and other people- don't throw away any good life lessons.

4.)Understand that they are still hurting you while you hate them. They are poisoning your soul still.
You have the power to cut the ties to that event, to look at it like an observer, seeing only the event, but not the emotions behind it.

One way that people use, is to make is a sort of ceremony.
Just say "I am done." and mentally cut the imaginary ties that tie you to the event.

You will do this several times to cement it in your mind.
Push it away like a boat on the river and see it leave.

You say in essence- "you no longer own me. I am free of you."

If you feel the anger come back- do this again.

Answer 4

As long as we don't forgive, we carry our pain and anger within us, and it occupies entirely too much of our time and consciousness. We dwell on the unforgiven and the behavior of the unforgiven. One wonders whether not forgiving allows us to enjoy the pleasures of righteous indignation and the opinion of ourselves as suffering martyrs.

The good news about forgiveness is that it frees us from the domination of these things. Once we forgive, we release the obsession with the harm, whether that harm be imagined or real, and we can then go on with our own lives, cheerful in the knowledge of our freedom.

Forgiving is good for your health.

Answer 5

just know that you are the better man in the end when you forgive, a bitter heart can eat you alive. forgive and move on, i am positive you know that many times we will be wronged by people in life, forgive them and move on, plus that does not mean to put yourself in the same situation next time, you can be more cautious around that person or move on, just dont let it carry on to others who havent done anyting give them a fair chance. i always had a motto, you can do me wrong one time, i will forgive you 100% but i will know for next time to be more cautious around that person. The ultimate thing is have we been forgiven yet, we have a savior that died for us on the cross named Jesus and he was buried and rose from the dead and is sitting in heaven in power and glory and is offering us to be forgiven of our sins if we just accept him. hope this helps.

Answer 6

Holding on to anger and hurt is harmful to yourself, moreso than others.

Forgiveness to me doesn't mean you say that what the person did is "ok," it's just that you stop carrying around the negative emotions. Also, you release them from any debt to you, basically - they don't owe you an "I'm sorry" and you no longer require that they do anything to make it right. It's just over in your heart and mind.

Once you can do that, your attitude may or may not soften toward the person who harmed you. But you'll be free from the hurt and anger that have been holding you down.

Answer 7

God forgives us all the time- just ask, so we all should forgive also..You can forgive and it don't mean you have to forget. people wrong God all the time and yet he will still forgive us if we ask him to. Stay away from harms way...

Answer 8

It is not always easy. I start by praying for them. I ask God for the grace, strength, and power to do it when I cannot do it on my own. Soon the sun starts shining in my heart and the bitterness is gone...If the feelings linger, I repeat the procedure until I receive the desired result.

Answer 9

i dont think u can actually forgive and forget. when people say to do this i think they mean not to do something drastic or just dont let that person get to u to the point that u want to hurt them or wish bad things upon them. when someone has wronged u dont think about revenge becuz karma comes full circle

Answer 10

If someone is sorry it's easy to forgive. If they're not you have to realize they might not be in a good place in their life and you can let it go.