We have been together 6 years.
3 months ago she came to me and said i am not as happy as i used to be i think I'm sick of waiting to get married. We took a break she came back and said i can't live without you. We got back together and fought 2 more times since and when fighting she said i don't want a boyfriend anymore i just want to hang out. When i want to chill with guys again i will call you. We stayed together and for almost a month now we haven't fought about it. We talk all the time and hang out 2 or 3 times a week. She is always busy with school and work and only has Sunday off. Now i ask her when do you want to hang out she says i don't know what i want to do yet like i am not a priority anymore. It used to be i'm coming over at this time. It was never a question whether or not we would hang out. Now i feel lucky to see her she says when we hang out it's never my choice anymore. Will she grow out of this phase or is she changed for good?
2007-01-28 04:54:15 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We were in high school and we are now 21 and 20
2007-01-28 05:02:26 · update #1
People tend to outgrow each other. Sad but true. Cut your losses and move on.
2007-01-28 05:07:12 · answer #1 · answered by kc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not really for certain, if her circumstances don't change, then she won't grow out of it. But if something does change in her daily life, she just might break out of it. Why don't you help her with her work? Just as a "friend", that might just change her view on boyfriends and it might make her grow out of it. I wish you good luck, I know how painful it is (my girlfriend and I have broken up once, but we're back together again, thank God). Once again, I wish you the best of luck.
2007-01-28 13:02:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does sound like you are not a proirity anymore but if you think you can live that then do it. maybe you just need to have the conversation where you figure out where this relationship is or where it is going because you dont know and it is eating away at you.
2007-01-28 13:02:04 · answer #3 · answered by OB the Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be her friend. Now you need to get married only when you want to, do not let any one force you, because it will not work. Unless you do not like how things are, then only you can make that decision!
2007-01-28 13:01:48 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think it is important to understand both your ages to answer this question, as if you started dating in highschool or college, it may be that she hasn't had enough freedom to experience other things and feels trapped. Please provide more information...I'd love to answer this, but let us know how old the two of you were when you first started going out.
2007-01-28 13:00:15 · answer #5 · answered by Keep It Sane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋