Is it a sin to have sex fantasies about a married person, even if you have no intention of acting on them?

Question

Also, if you are married, is it a sin to fantasize about someone other than your spouse? Even if you have no intention of acting on your fantasy?

What if you are a single person? Is it a sin to fantasize about someone who is married? For example, would it be a sin for a high school student to fantazise about a married teacher, even if the student had no intention of acting on it?

Answer 1

I'm not too into the concept of sin. It seems to fall under the definition of lust though.

What I do know is that it is not a good idea. Fantasizing leads to thoughts of wanting more than fantasy, which can lead a person to make poor choices.

If you're single, fantasize about someone who is within your reach, or outside the bounds of possibility altogether (like Brad Pitt -- someone you're never going to even meet.)

If you're married I guess fantasizing about a celebrity would be okay as well, just don't neglect your spouse in favor of your fantasy life. If you spend too much time fantasizing about someone else, it's probably a sign that things are not well in your relationship and perhaps it needs some work. Escapism will not be useful.

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Answer 2

that is my answer. If a spouse advised her husband that she become having such innovations about their infant, no count number even if she concept she might want to ever act upon them, i imagine she ought to there and then get into some extreme treatment. That way of wondering is neither widely used or healthy. And if she refuses too, the husband can and could take the youngsters from her to guard them. "the concept is be sure to the Deed". If she become became on sexually at the same time as wondering that way - you're saying she become masturbating - then that is an truly authentic difficulty that ought to be addressed immediately. Many a pedophile would not "intend" to act on those emotions, to create a sufferer, till the prospect can provide itself, and the temptation is permitted to be there at the same time. the daddy has a duty to guard the youngster/children, even from their own mom.

Answer 3

God sees our whish,our soul,so they must be conform the rulles of God for not be a sin.Is a rulle of God 'not whish which is not yours'
The sin can be the death of the soul.
To spend time with something which we whish ,meens that we feel good and whant that thing. All facts begin with an whish in mind, is a bed thing because can became mature and when the evil give to you an situation to be alone with that persone,only the Help of Jesus can save you.
Don't live in ilusions,live your reality,your present,
Mens have instincts and temperaments, which the educations must discipline them, and form in us an nice character which respect some rulles , about what we can or what we can't do.

Answer 4

Dreaming is one thing.
We have little control over that.
However, fantasies are controllable and should be controlled.
Matthew 5:28 has Jesus saying:
"...everyone that keeps on looking at a woman so as to have a passion for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. . ."
What we dwell upon is often eventually what we do.
Jeremiah 17:9 says the heart is treacherous.
One must keep a tight control over it ....like riding a wild horse.

Answer 5

However, the odds of a real romance developing with that charming teacher or sensual singer are about nil. Obviously, then, any love felt for such distant figures is rooted more in fantasy than reality. No wonder that, according to The Individual, Marriage, and the Family, such infatuations tend to be “rather short-lived”! Or as ’Teen magazine put it: “For most teens, crushes are as common as colds.” Some youths, though, persist in their fantasies, insisting they feel real love.

Crushes—Harmless or Harmful?

‘But if almost everyone experiences crushes,’ you ask, ‘what’s the harm?’ Well, ‘almost everyone’ has also had the measles. The fact is, crushes can be harmful.

For one thing, many objects of teenage affection are not worthy of a Christian’s esteem. A wise man said: “Foolishness has been put in many high positions.” (Ecclesiastes 10:6) Thus a singer is idolized because he has a smooth voice or striking looks. But what are his morals? Is not the life-style of many rock idols one of foolishness? The Bible also warns Christians: “Friendship with the world is enmity with God.” (James 4:4) Would it not jeopardize your friendship with God if you set your heart on a person whose conduct God condemns? It is also wrong to harbor amorous feelings for someone married.—Proverbs 5:15-18.

Further, the Bible says: “Guard yourselves from idols.” (1 John 5:21) This is true even when the idolized one leads a reasonably acceptable life. What do you call it when a youth’s room is decorated wall to wall with pictures of a beloved singing star? Is it not dangerously akin to idolatry? “I don’t idolize him at all,” claims one young girl of her favorite singer. But she also admits: “I am always thinking about this particular person . . . I have to get this person out of my mind.”

Indeed, some allow their fantasies to override reason. Writes another girl of her infatuation with a popular singer: ‘I want him to be my boyfriend, and I have prayed that it come true! I used to sleep with his album because that was the closest I could get to him. I’m at the point where if I can’t have him, I’ll kill myself.’ Could such mindless passion be pleasing to God, who commands us to serve him with “a sound mind”?—Romans 12:3.

Says the Bible at Proverbs 13:12: “Expectation postponed is making the heart sick.” Cultivating romantic ‘expectations’ for an impossible relationship can literally make you sick. Unrequited love is cited by doctors as a cause of “depression, anxiety, and general distress . . . sleeplessness or lethargy, chest pains or breathlessness.”

Think, too, of the havoc you wreak when you allow a fantasy to dominate your life. Dr. Lawrence Bauman observes that one of the first evidences of a runaway crush is “slackening off of school effort.” Isolation from friends and family is another common result of being caught in a crush. (Compare Proverbs 18:1.) “Even my family was upset about my behavior,” confesses one young girl who “loved” a popular singer to the neglect of everyone else.

Even where no dire consequences result, there is also the humiliation of making a fool of oneself. “I’m embarrassed to admit this,” says writer Gil Schwartz, “but I behaved like a buffoon during my crush on Judy.” Long after the crush has dissipated, memories of your following someone around or perhaps making a scene in public can linger.

Fortunately, like the adults mentioned at the outset, most youths simply outgrow their crushes. And a future article will help those who do not. In the meantime, the best advice is to recognize a crush for what it is—a youthful fantasy.

Perhaps there may be some redeeming value in ‘having loved and lost.’ However, never let a hopeless infatuation gain control of your life or waste your emotions. Writer Gil Schwartz recalls just how futile this is. “For all the passion and plotting I invested in Judy,” he recalls, “I’ll bet she never gave me a second thought.”

Answer 6

As a married person,I don't think it would be a good thing. Why make yourself want something that will just lead to trouble if you pursue it? And it's very disrespectful to your spouse to think like that.

Answer 7

(Matt.5:28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. )

same applies to women

Answer 8

The tenth commandment was not to covet your neighbour's wife's ***. also Jesus said whoever 'looks' at a woman has as good as committed adultery in his heart. ( same goes for unfaithful wives)

Answer 9

Unfortunately we are also judged by our thoughts.
We think that because no one sees or hears or will ever know, there is still God. And He knows what is in your heart. Yep.

Answer 10

no it is not a sin, in fact it is perfectly healthy and natural. as long as you aren't acting it out and i wouldn't recommend sharing with your partner.