I finally got up the courage to start talking to him again last night on aim. We were IM'ing eachother for a few hours and the last time we talked was in November!!! He was like,"I wasnt talking to you cuz I thought you hated me!" And I thought the exact same thing!!! Well this guy asked me out on Thursday, and I dont think we'll be going out for too long... and my ex says he still likes me, but what if my ex asks me out? I like my ex more than this other guy!!!
2007-01-28 04:43:53 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
good for you go out with him
2007-01-28 04:47:02 · answer #1 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, almost the same timetable as my situation. I finally got the courage to as my ex gf to go have dinner with me last thursday. I was so happy to be sitting across the table with her, but I kept it light and did not say much. We did not discuss much about us, rather just general stuff. It is almost like I am courting her again. I sent a follow up email to tell her how pretty she looked and how much i enjoyed her company. I haven't received anything back...so my heart is somewhat broken by this chain of events. You sound lucky though in that you both seem to have missed eachother and are excited about the prospects of rekindling. I wish I could be so lucky and that there was more mutual interest as you seem to have. I say give him another try. I mean you know eachother and all. so many of my happy married friends went through multiple break ups while dating their current spouse. No one says the dating process which leads to a long term relationship is a smooth linear process. Don't worry about the new guy...go ahead and go out for the heck of it. Maybe it'll make you apreciate your ex that much more. I hope your ex does ask you out and if he does, be respectful of what it took for him to get to that point, even if he kind of freezes up when you are together. cut him some slack. Congratulations! To hell with these people who say "move on." Moving on is what we all eventually HAVE to do if something we have passion for does not work out...work, dreams, relationships. Don't move on until there is no choice is the way I look at it. You will naturally move on if things don't work, but I just get sickened by people who give up so easily on things they care about. It's the new culture I guess. Good luck to you my friend.
2007-01-28 05:41:50 · answer #2 · answered by keepingitgoing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question I have for you is did he break up with you, you with him or what it a mutual decision? If he broke up with you...forget about him! I have an ex who did the same thing and it's just annoying to have explain to people that you are together again and why. However, if you broke up with him then he still may be harboring those feelings because they never went away. If it was mutual...it's the same thing as if you broke up with him.
The important thing is to trust your instincts and if you feel like you like him still then go out with him again...however if you don't...then don't. Don't get pulled back in to prove him wrong about not hating him...it just keeps getting more and more complicated until you guys get pushed away from each other again...
2007-01-28 04:56:12 · answer #3 · answered by Lola 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sameeeee thinggggg happened to me! i got the courage to IM my guy a while back too, and he thought i hated him! its so funny how this happened to you, anyway, i say you go out on a few dates with your -ex and see if he has changed for the better, after all you two did break up for a reason, if everything seems great, why not get back with him! it seems like you miss him and you two obviously have chemistry together! gd luck on your new relationship! i know everything will work itself out!!
2007-01-28 04:48:17 · answer #4 · answered by Ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for the ex.
2007-01-28 04:48:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋