Is being a MOTHER really-REALLY tough? Are you proud and happy to become a MOTHER? MOTHER and DAUGHTER...?

Question

Is being a MOTHER really-REALLY tough? Are you proud and happy to become a MOTHER? How do you LOVE your DAUGHTER?

I'm 19 years old now and I always want to have a child... well, two actually. A daughter and a son, I wish. My mom has passed away during my childhood, that's why I can't never get her answer for this very kind of question.... I miss her, really miss her.... But I believe somewhere over the rainbow, she's truly out there, keeps watching and taking a good care of me....

This is for all mother out there, what should a DAUGHTER do to make her MOTHER really proud and happy of her? What should I do to make my mom really proud and happy of me?

Answer 1

I'm certain that your mother has watched over you all along and that's why you still feel such a strong bond with her. Yes, being a mother is really, really tough some times, but the tender and special moments of motherhood outweigh any perception of bad. In time you will find a person to whom you'll feel drawn to in a way that is different from all others. You'll almost instinctively know that this person will be the father of your children. I have two daughter's who have no clue right now what it would be like to be in your shoes. Sometimes, they take me for granted and ignore my rules and/or are very disrepectful towards me. All I want for them, and I've told them many times, is for them to find a way to be self-sufficient and in control of their lives. I want for them to find "happiness" and learn to manage those times of sadness and sorrow. A mother really doesn't want her children to do anything for her, but a good mother will want to know that her children have been raised properly and can take on the world on thier own. There is a book that a friend of my husband wrote that I recommend for you. It's available on Amazon.com. The title is "Mother watches me from Heaven", it's very inspirational, I think you might like it.

Answer 2

Okay being a mother is tough, but that is why God gave that job to a woman, no man could handle that part of parenting. I am a mother of three daughters, they are grown now and I miss my babies. I have been hounding them for grandchildren, to no avail, but I still love them and know everything in time. As for your Mom watching over you, she is and she is very proud of you, she left you on this earth, and while I know you had family and friends around, she has always been there when you needed her most, an earthly presence isn't always necessary and I do believe that a mother's love breaks ALL boundaries. You have many attributes of your mother and I am sure that many people always say, oh you are just like your mother, even some types of thinking can be linked to genetics, so just know that your mother is always with you and that little voice that tells you what is right and what is wrong, well listen to it more closely next time, it might be a familiar voice. God Bless.

Answer 3

I call being a mother an adventure in one of the toughest jobs on earth. Us moms we have to be a mom, a couselor, a teacher, a cook, a guide, and a chauffer all rolled into one. That's a pretty tough role to play. The best thing to do is to put a smile on your face and carry on. That's how I look at it, now in my case its sans the chauffer duties as I don't drive, but the rest still applies. Also may I say when you have the need to cry do so. Sometimes a good healthy cry releases pressure and clears the way. After the cry you are ready to face more of those adventures. Something else that must be mentioned is a good healthy attitude towards it all goes a very long ways. In ending I want to say that someway, somehow your mom is watching over you, she's still with you, too, how do I know? Any memory of her you always will carry in your heart where it is safely locked away.

Answer 4

I love being a mother. I wouldn't trade it for anything in this world. It is tough being a mom sometimes but the good times outweigh the bad anyday. I have two daughters and one son and they are all very precious to me. I'm sure your mother also loved you very much and is smiling down on you from heaven. I think to make your mother proud you just have to be yourself and do the best you can with your life. We all know the difference between right and wrong and I think as long as we do what is right in our hearts we have nothing to be sorry for and that would make your mother very proud. I think every parent wants to know that they did a good job of raising their children and that they turn out to be someone of whom we can be proud to call our daughter or son.
So in answer to your question I think if you live your life to your fullest potential and work hard at the things you want to accomplish your mother would be very proud but I'm sure she is happy and proud just having you for a daughter. When you become a mom you'll find out that as soon as you see your newborn child your love for them is unconditional and that there is no greater love than a mother for her child.

Answer 5

Well Bless Your Heart Honey !!! You sound to me as if you have a pretty level head on your shoulders and know right from wrong . Your Mother would be proud to know that she brought into this world a loving and caring daughter . Just make certain that you stay true to your heart and always know that she is watching over you . Good or Bad , Right or Wrong , A mother always Loves , That is the hard part .

Answer 6

I bet your mum is already proud of you. Just be yourself and if you think you are ready to have a child then go ahead. I had my first child at the age of 19 and it was really hard. I have four kids now and I am proud of all of them.My children are my life. My oldest is 19 now and in uni. My second son is joining the army on the 10 march, my other two are still at school. I lost my mum 8 months ago and it has been very hard for me as we were always together but sweetie I am sure our mothers are watching over us from the beautiful kingdom of heaven.God Bless you

Answer 7

Of course it's tough, but the rewards outweigh the difficulties. I have a 3 year old daughter and she is the best thing in my life. I had her when I was 40, and for the longest time I thought I would not ever have any children. I feel so lucky that after all these years, I was finally blessed with a child.

To answer your question, I hope that my daughter always tries her best (but doesn't have to be the best), learns to be independent, and strives to always be honest and kind. But no matter what, I will always love her and stand by her.

Answer 8

Yes, being a mother is the toughest job there can be. Being a father is tough, also. But I am proud and happy to say I am a mother and I love my two daughters unconditionally. To make me proud I expected them to do and be the best they could be. I expected the same respect from them that I showed to them. You have a very special guardian angel. Your mother is always watching out for you. Make yourself proud and in turn you will be making her proud.

Answer 9

I am very proud to be a mother. I have one living, one dead, and one on the way. I don't think I have an answer for your question but I think that you should do the best that you can in your life, and your mother will be proud of you. No matter where you are in the world or wherever she is, She always been PROUD of her daughter. The pain you may still from her lost, I sympathize with you. I lost my unborn daughter last summer, and even though she didn't really live nor experience her life in the outside world and that she wasn't here in this world long, I AM STILL PROUD OF HER. Even though your mom wasn't here in your life physically, she is still here spiritually. Right next to you. YOUR MOM HAS, IS, AND ALWAYS WILL BE PROUD OF HER BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

Sure, being a mother is tough, but aren't all the good things in life? Since you're mother has passed on, I think the best thing you can do to honor her memory is to be the best person you can be. I'd probably wait to have kids til you're settled with a man that can be a good father and husband, but that's me. Having a *good* husband has helped me a lot.

As to "how" to love your child, well, you just do. When you do become a mommy, it pretty much comes naturally. I'm sure you'll be fine. Just stay away from drugs and abusive relationships, and everything else works itself out.

The fact that you're worried about it shows that you're probably a pretty good person and that you want to honor you mom. You're halfway there already, just by caring what she would think.