I'm kinda enduring an awkward situation at work. One of my closest guy friends works at the same place as I do and I began to develop feelings for him though he's in a long-term long-distance relationship. I told him I liked him and that it was best that we ignore each other for awhile so I can get over him. Anyway he asked me if I wanted to hook up with him, i said i did, but then he said i should do it with another guy I like. Anyway during all of this, I got mad at him for jerking my feelings around and I ended up calling him a dog, but then I apologized. I said all of this via text. The next day I wrote him a letter saying how sorry I was for how I acted, and that it was better that we treat each other as professionals since he has a gf and I need to move on. The thing is he's ignoring me and has been for the past 4 weeks. Last week, was my birthday and I got a card from some coworkers. He wrote Happy Birthday, but didn't sign his name and he's still not talking to me.
2007-01-28 04:27:52 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well maybe he is doing what you asked and is keeping it professionally. I think you just need to completly forget about him. The fact that he messed with your feelings was unfair of him and just shows he doesn't really care about you.
I say, don't even bother with him, if work permits you two to have to speak then so be it but apart from that just get on with your life. You don't need a guy like that in it. But you have to respect his ability to stay faithful to his girlfriend. He could have easily struck up a relationship with youbut he didn't. Just pity his girlfriend or having a such a inconsiderate boyfriend!
Good Luck
2007-01-28 04:34:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should not have started in the first place since he is away from his gf at times he might have been nice to you becoz he might have felt alone and missing his gf.
Dont let him pull ur emotions down, clearly he was just making use and experiemnting with emotions by using urs. The fact is, he has a gf and even if someday he agrees you should not even think abt accepting him. Imagine if you had a bf and some other gal asking him to be with him n he says yes.
To be fair for him and urself, you need to get over it. He is definately a jerk for playing with ur feelings and his gf's. Trust me you dont need a guy like him. You have already apologize and its up to him now wether or not start talking to you. He is just acting like a big head now so that you would go for him more.
Please know that you have a much higher reputation and dignity than him. Do not push him further becoz its gonn make him feel more great that a gal is all over him.
Now its ur turn to start ignoring him. You are a great gal and definately a greather guy is there for u somewhere. Definately u deserve better.
2007-01-28 12:41:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anne H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he will talk to you if you ask him a question then tell him that all this weirdness has to go. That you want to be friends like you used to. That you want all the bulls*** to be in the past. If his answers is yes then talk to him at work, but only your normal "Hello's" & "Hows it been" don't take it to the next level anymore. This is just to break the ice and for you to feel more comfortable at work.
If you feel that he would not talk to you then don't bother with him. If you see him a lot at work the just say "Good Morning" or "Good Afternoon" so he can see that you got over everything.
Move on. Don't stick to him specially since he has a girlfriend. Go out more with friends you will soon meet the guy of your dreams.
I had my first bf when I was 19.......I am 23 and I'm still with him. I am happy to say that I waited all the time.
Good Luck!
2007-01-28 12:43:40 · answer #3 · answered by PiZzA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough one. Everything in life happens for a reason, there was a reason you started falling for him and there is a reason why you two can't have each other. He was meant to be taken. You see his true colours now. And if he was a true friend to begin with he would respect you even more for having shared the truth about your feelings with him. Just act professional and all will work out the way it was planned to. We all ultimately attract back in the world what we give out, give respect love and happiness and you will attract that back in return. Keep your head up!
2007-01-28 12:41:45 · answer #4 · answered by jillybean 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's look at this from his point of view. He is in a relationship, and you know about that. You are supposed to be his friend, yet you come on to him and try to tempt him away from what is honorable in his other relationship. Then he slips, is temporarily tempted to hook up with you, but catches himself in time and suggests you redirect your attentions to yet another guy you like. You get mad at being rejected, call him names, grovel, tell him you want to be professioonal and now you're mad because he's treating you like a professional? Talk about sending mixed messages to the poor guy! You're how we women get a reputation for screwing with a man's mind! Figure out what you want from a guy, be direct, and then accept it graciously if he's not interested!
2007-01-28 12:40:15 · answer #5 · answered by Abigail 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing you can do is to find something or someone else to devote your attention to. He has a girlfriend and for you to pursue him should be against your value system.
Maintain professional boundaries. Let him get on with his personal life and you turn your head in another direction.
2007-01-28 12:38:22 · answer #6 · answered by T esira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the risk of sounding cliche....which i'm going to (but it's the truth)....1) never **** where you eat (no matter how hot he is) 2) this too shall pass 3) ignore him ( the more he sees it getting to you the more satisfaction he gets from it). clearly he's an *** and not worth your time., this of course is all easier said then done. if you are old enough to remember ally mcbeal then you can recall tracey ulman (one of the best characters on the show) playing the character of her nutty shrink.....anyway she told her told have a theme song to play in her head. get yourself one that always makes you feel important, happy....whatever it takes to get over this a**hole and move forward girl. good luck!
2007-01-28 12:35:49 · answer #7 · answered by bella36 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let this go, you did the right thing in saying your sorry. And now it is up to him to reconnect. You go back to the way you were before, upbeat and just being a friend. It is his issue that he is not accepting your apology. Not yours. I also think that your relationship is changed now, but know that it is his loss.
2007-01-28 12:35:28 · answer #8 · answered by lippi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just know that you are in 100% control of your feelings and emotions. No one in this world has magic powers that can make you feel any way.
You can convince yourself that they do and that is a choice you have made, but the true reality is you give this power to people which they do not have.
It's all about how you choose to think and feel. It's all about you not them. ~
2007-01-28 12:33:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk it out with him..face to face.u need to sort out your feelings.what do u want?u want to be friends with him?then u should have control over your feelings..be strong and brave.Don't let him hurt your feelings.perhaps he's confused by your behaviour too.take it easy.life is beautiful.good luck:)
2007-01-28 12:34:10 · answer #10 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋