They send home notes and talk to me as if I'm not aware of his needs and not caring for him properly. They don't call unless they need me to pick him up. I work full time and I'm a single mom with 2 other teenagers. Help!
2007-01-28 04:14:56 · 10 answers · asked by Debi 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
This is a two way road, you say that they don't call unless you need to pick them up, when are you calling them? Writing is better anyway, because it is easier to keep copies of who said what and when. Any autistic child will do better if care and teaching are standardized across school and home because they learn more quickly when they know what to expect. This should be addressed in his IEP, as well as daily communication notebook.
Most parents would appreciate that the school cares enough to tell you what is going on in his day, and their opinions of what would help him. Maybe you're taking it personally because you think they are criticizing your choices. Maybe they don't understand your choices. In fact, they most likely aren't, they are just trying to be a team working with you.
Whether the notes are ugly in nature, or if they are just trying to be helpful, either way you need to call an IEP meeting, discuss some of these issues and standardize both sides expectations.
having a child with autism is a lot of work, I have two myself. It's like a fulltime job anyway, and you can most likely use family leave to handle the IEP time, but it sounds like you need to have one soon. We scheduled monthly meetings so that we could talk about what was going on, how we could better help my children, and develop our sense of being a team. We had our meetings before school, so that I didn't miss my day, and my daughter's parapro could watch the kids.
Don't let bad blood build up, Take some time now to address these issues.
2007-01-28 05:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there any way for you to get him involved in courses and counseling that deal specifically with autistic children. Helping him learn how to deal and cope with everyday life. People take for granted that all children learn social skills at an early age, however autistic children do not learn the social skills needed in order to interact with others. If you could research or even ask the school to help you find a program that helps deal with this and other everyday functions that he will need as he gets older. It will make the school realize that yes, you are willing to help find a way to cooperate with them as well as including them in what you probably both realize are some of the skills he needs to improve on. Hopefully the both of you working together will put an ease on both of you so you are not feeling so worn out and needing to feel confrontational and defensive every time you hear from them.
2007-01-28 05:22:38 · answer #2 · answered by amc_065 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The autistic little ones in my college are separated into particular instructions yet we nonetheless contain them in my college accepted. there became this one time even as my college invited ninety 4.9, a huge bay area hip-hop station, to play song for us at lunch. between the DJs presented a making a song contest and requested for volunteers. This junior, who's a making a song prodigy at my college, volunteered. because she became up there, no one else advanced because all and sundry knew they couldn't stand a threat adverse to her. without caution, an autistic pupil marches up there. The junior sings "If I ain't were given you" acoustic type and does an excellent job. the college is going WILD screaming for her. Then the autistic pupil starts to sing "twinkle twinkle little action picture star" and the team is cheering as loud if no longer louder for her. Then, the DJ presented the both one in all them winners and gave them free tickets to a live performance. It became one the most remarkable issues i have seen in my life and that i'm enlightened through it popular. *authentic tale i swear.
2016-10-16 05:27:16 · answer #3 · answered by vergeer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them how you're feeling. Set up a conference with them and talk to them about your concerns. Or try to talk to them over the phone once a week to talk about his progress and any concerns that may have arisen.
Lots of open communication is the best way to address this situation.
Good luck.
2007-01-28 04:22:40 · answer #4 · answered by ambr123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i had problems with child protecive serives because my baby has a birth defect and one ofthe nurses wanted me to have a volenteer group come in to my house 2 times a week and care for my baby i told her i want interested and cps showed up so i got a note from my dr saying that the baby is being taken care of and cps closed my case so i would recomend getting a note from your dr maybe the school will ease up
2007-01-28 04:20:03 · answer #5 · answered by mommyofanangel06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU call them up and ask for a meeting. They are the teachers there and they are responsible for him at THAT place. You are responsible for him at home. I see it is rough for you but someone isnt doing there job. You can get to the bottom of this, give them a call, show some interest so they dont think you are ignoring them.
2007-01-28 05:03:18 · answer #6 · answered by nikogal2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless you are abusing your child or significantly not meeting his needs, there is nothing that the school can say about it. i work with special needs students and one in particular has a lot of problems because she isn't discipline at home. we can't say anything, however, because it's not our place. i would suggest setting a meeting with everyone that is involved with his care to see why they feel this way.
2007-01-28 04:57:16 · answer #7 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set up a conference, explain just like you did here, stay calm because we all know they can push buttons, be confident, good luck, you are doing a good job, i think they forget how much we need to hear that,
2007-01-28 04:31:52 · answer #8 · answered by melissa s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take him to a special school for children with needs or see a theripist
2007-01-28 05:35:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the other kids should help too
2007-01-28 04:36:40 · answer #10 · answered by Nikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋