And i aint talking doing the nazzty....i saw oprah this week and these ladies (all over 35) were single and were having trouble findig a mate. One was a doctor, one attorney, the other a single mom with 4 kids. Anyway..they all seemed like they were "missing" something in their life. But would a man really fulfill this? dont they need to be happy with themsleves first?
2007-01-28 04:12:06 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Fufillment comes from within, one can never truly be happy if they aren't happy with who they are independent of another person. This includes a mate and or children. If one cannot define themselves for themselves they become something or nothing depending who comes in out of their lives. No one person should have this power or responsibility to another. I didn't really feel like any of them had something missing but felt they have to rearrange their fantasy of what they thought their life would be and start thinking more in terms of reality of what they had to offer themselves and could experience in life outside of this. This is very difficult especially if you spend you entire life with a goal and you never quite reach it, you bound to think something is wrong with you or you're not quite as whole as you would like to be. But the the truth is it's the total opposite. There is no deadline to be married nor is life this perfect set of circumstances. God has us exactly where he wants us to be, we all have a destiny.
2007-01-28 04:22:22 · answer #1 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Women could live a life without men, yes, but I highly doubt that it would be fulfilling. As shown genetically and socially, human beings are supposed to have a partner. Anything less than that, and it won't meet the widely accepted criteria and standard of what is regarded as 'fulfilling'.
2016-03-29 06:26:28 · answer #2 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I watched the show too... I believe they are satisfied with who they are, but as a human being it is a part of nature to feel connected to someone else.
I think it is completely okay to desire the need for a significant other in your life, but your life should not collapse or take a stand still because you don't have anyone special to share it with.
Everyone else around these 30-something old women are married and starting families. Plus women are constantly being reminded that their "time clock" for still looking pretty or having children is ticking away, and as people marry they don't have time for single friends anymore.
It must be really hard to witness and not be able to share that experience, because they can't find the right person to love.
So in my opinion, life can be fulfilling for some women who choose not to marry or have children, but not for the ones that really want to have a husband and children.
2007-01-28 04:28:44 · answer #3 · answered by anosey1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure a person can have a fulfilling life without a mate. But it depends on whether that person can make the best of singlehood, and it appears those women profiled on Oprah cannot.
Oprah needs to have a show where there are women who have found a fulfilling life without marriage and/or children to show it's possible!
2007-01-28 04:23:29 · answer #4 · answered by idahdespida 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be happy with yourself first.
The reality is, men still die before women. So, even if you find the man of dreams and get married, statistically you're going to spend the last years of your life without him. That's assuming you make it through the 50%+ divorce rate, and do the "happily ever after" bit.
There are people who have to be a "couple". I have a girlfriend that way, and since her husband died a couple years ago has gotten back into the dating scene. Personally, I've been re-single for a long time, and I have no interest in changing that. But I like me. I enjoy my own company. I have no qualms about going out by myself or trying new things. I'm always busy, and my social life is way more active than I prefer.
Men fulfill nothing. You have to find it within first, and then you stand a chance of being happy WITH someone.
2007-01-28 04:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by Kaia 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm really NOT into the whole "Battle of the Sexes" trend but I do believe that people need to make themselves happy before they can make anyone else happy. If someone believes that other people can make or break their life, then they haven't really understood the concept of "life" yet. As a result, people usually end up making others miserable too.
Its a crazy downward spiral but for those who can find their own individuality along with being productive in someone else's life then they should feel truly accomplished.
2007-01-28 04:24:23 · answer #6 · answered by rosie768 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, at any age we're always learning. learning how to love ourselves, how to accept the world the way it is, if we have kids learning how to take them though the right path, to enjoy life with them.....there's always alot to learn.
and YES we can have a fulfilling life without a man. if the one of our choice comes along, that's an added plus.
I am 41 with a 7year old daughter and I am the boss here. when ever we want to go out chill and have fun we just get dressed and go!!! jajajaj ain't no stoppin us!!!
I do have a boyfriend now but....wow! he met us the way we are and has accepted us the way we are.
so yeah, I think having kids has more than fullfilled my life for me and like I said before....a mate is an added plus for me; not something mandatory. I've lived long enough; and I'm working on being happy with the life that I'm living...with the love of my life that is my daughter.
men come and go....but children and a career are for ever!!!
2007-01-28 04:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by alizelatina41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn t sense that these women all felt like they were missing something. The one seemed pretty happy with herself. Anyway a woman definately can be fulfilled without a man but everyone needs companionship. If you dont have a man, get a dog.
2007-01-28 04:18:28 · answer #8 · answered by Candy C 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sure she can. Tons of women do. Our lives can be more than fulfilled with careers, hobbies, friends, and the other stuff that makes us independent women. If anything, men would just distract us from all that. The women on that show don't seem to have any notion of this.
2007-01-28 04:31:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men & Women are two halves of a whole..
They are meant to be lovers, best friends and companions
through life..
Some few women can live a reasonably happy & fulfilling life
without a mate and they get used to the lonliness...
Seldom is this deliberate and by choice...
2007-01-28 04:19:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋