Well there is this guy I like. He was talking to my friend over IM and she told him that I liked him. He said he might ask me out sometime in the next few feeks, but he would have to see how much we had in common first. After we talked on IM for about 3 and a half hours, we both agreed that we had so much in common and my friend had told him to ask me out on Valentine's Day. Then after we talked he told my friend that he didn't know if he could wait until then. So you would probably think "Oh, that's great!" and all, but I'm worried about my reputation. I know you would think that it doesn't matter what other people think, and I agree. But I'm also concerned because of another problem. This problem had happened to me before, in a way. I found out this really weird guy liked me, and I always lied to my friends and said I hated him and all, when really I had somewhat serious feelings for him. He asked me out, but then I had to break up soon after because it didn't feel right. Help me.
2007-01-28 04:11:53 · 17 answers · asked by luvguitar432 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you say you like this guy. Go for it. your friends will still be your friends, if not, they werent in the first place. Dont use people and play with their hearts, what you did to the last boy was wrong. Maybe you should tell this new boy that you arent mature enough to handle dating him right now.
2007-01-28 04:16:35 · answer #1 · answered by Candy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be really confused. The PURPOSE of a date (or of dating!) is to find out if it is "right". ITs not something you can know going in, if you tink you can, then you need seroius help.
Waiting for Valentine's day is soooo LAME. Lets say you two are soul mates - why the heck should you be waiting? Lets say he turns out to be Hanibal Lector - why would you want to make it sooo special ? So you can think of how you escaped the Great Valentine's Day Date for the rest of your life?!? Lets say (most likely) he turns out to be a normal guy not great but ok, so why did you go out with him on VD? You are confusing fantasy (Prince Charming and Love at first sight) with reality - real guys who are wondering what the heck is going to happen on the one day of the year for Lovers (not first dates!). Should he bring a condom, whats going on? I say de-escalate and get together asap to see how things go. Casual not with all sorts of mixed signals. Yes ask him out, but I'd cancel the VD plans until you've had several (more casual) dates with him.
2007-01-28 12:25:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh...young love! First, communicate with this guy on your own...you don't need your Friend to step in and arrange for him to know you like him and to ask you out and to instruct him when to ask you out....unless you are 12...and if that is the case just stop reading my response now. As far as the other guy that you said you had serious feelings for but trashed him to your Friends verbally because he was weird...shame on you! Those are not your real friends if they would not have accepted you for who you are and for who you liked. As far as your reputation goes...it is not like you are out there dating every guy in the world...I would be more worried about your reputation for being shallow in how you treated the "weird guy"...that is just wrong!
2007-01-28 12:18:23 · answer #3 · answered by chick33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop talking and explaining so much to your friends. Concentrate on school, and then you will have plenty of time for the guys. What you need to do is just be friends, so you can get to know a person, then after that, then you can take the relationship to another level!
2007-01-28 12:21:01 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What in the world does a person's reputation have to do with getting a great education................................
You're in school to learn NOT to get a reputation!
Leave the guys alone and focus on why you're in school.
Schools are great for 'socialization' skills and that only means that you can get along with others well. It has nothing to do with creating a reputation!
Employers do NOT hire according to reputations! Employers want to hire people with a good education and a great work ethic.
They also want people who are eager to learn more and take advantage of advancement opportunities.
2007-01-28 12:20:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have only talked on line. I would not committ to spend my Valentines Day with this guy. Talk on the phone with him, meet him for Lunch or Coffee first. Have you even seen him?? Don't set yourself up for dissappointment. How about the two of you going out with another couple? Not on Valentines Day!. If things go bad , it will always be remembered on that day! Its suppose to be The Love Day. Its better to do nothing on that day than to spoil it with negetive memories.
2007-01-28 12:20:34 · answer #6 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep your relationship on low profile. Don't let your friends know. That's the easiest thing to do. Create a new email or something for only him to use, and just make sure that no one finds out. If you really like him though, you should probably share it with a close friend.
2007-01-28 12:18:09 · answer #7 · answered by Hoofle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how dating before Valentine's Day is going to negatively affect your reputation. I would think that a couple of dates BEFORE Valentine's Day would be appropriate. Valentine's Day is kind of an awkward first date.
2007-01-28 12:16:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was in the past. Don't do anything you'll be ashamed of and don't care what people think or say. As long as you know you're a good person, that's all that matters.
2007-01-28 12:16:17 · answer #9 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are u worried about your rep? Because you are telling people you only like this guy at the moment and you know he likes you. I don't mean to be rude, but is there something you are leaving out?
2007-01-28 12:18:00 · answer #10 · answered by someone ha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋