I'll probably get thundering thumbs down for this, especially from women, but hear me out:
They like a bumbling slacker who poses as a career chaser so they can "mother" and nag them, and feel they are the reason the guy does anything in life. But pretend he is a great and accomplished guy to all her friends so she can feel she's really got someone great, and say phrases like, "I like a man with Ambition". It also feed her ego so she can continue to believe the myths that all men are lazy fools who need a woman to clean up they're act.
I probably sound like a slacker guy who went through this, but I'm actually a career chaser (actually I have a great career, and happily married), I just like to observe these things that happen.
Most women these days are afriad of being with a guy who's "truly" smart and has big things going for them because then she feels less of a "strong Independant" woman. They're ego's are too crushed by the idea that a man could actually be anything but the myth and stereotypes that todays society floods in the media.
If anyone doubts what I'm saying, I read an article the other day about how more women are not into dating guys with big careers, and more are dating guys with either regular jobs or guys seeking to find regular jobs. A lot of women will say "I like career chasers", but whens the last time a women actually truly meant exactly what they say about the men they like?
2007-01-28 04:01:53
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answered by Anonymous
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Personally I think they are similar. I would much prefer someone who has succeeded in being successful. It shows that they are capable of making things happen. But if I only had a slacker or a career chaser to choose from I would pick the slacker. He would have much more time for me instead of chasing dreams that he can't make happen. I would get discouraged and lonely if I were in a relationship with a man that was always chasing a career or dream and not making it reality. I'm a realist and would much rather spend my days with the man who has excepted who he is and is content and happy. I'm not a person who thinks money makes a person happy. That's hogwash. I would much rather spend my days with a wonderful man that loves me whom I love ... living in a shack opposed to living with a man who is always gone making a "dollar" and in a mansion.
2007-01-28 12:08:20
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answered by Anonymous
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I'll speak for myself as I think this question is open to bad generalizations, but I would rather a 'career chaser'. It depends on the kind of woman, if she is independent and career-minded herself, she'll most likely look for a similar mate. Girlfriends of mine that seem to fall for slackers are usually the more free-spirited characters that are very lovable, but not very bright or with very high self-esteem.
2007-01-28 12:03:08
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answered by ? 3
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I grew up thinking they wanted the career chaser. When younger I just had jobs....and I dated a lot of women. Then I started my own business....and as the years went on, I saw the women dropping off like dead flies.
Today if I say I am a business owner, its almost like I said curse words. Being single still, and at my age, I really have thought of selling the biz, taking a "normal job" just to meet women again.
and whats sad....I'm not ugly, easily rate a 7 or 8 and I have a toned body due to speed skating and no gray. it just baffles me.
2007-01-28 12:02:46
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answered by Anonymous
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Depends on the age of the woman. If she is under 25 she prefers the slacker because A)he usually has lots of time to devote to her B) they tend to be insecure and don't want to feel "outclassed". Over 25 they want someone that has their crap wired tight.
2007-01-28 12:07:04
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answered by solitas777 3
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It depends on the woman and what suits her needs. I personally prefer to date a person who is a go-getter and has career success like I do.
I don't want someone blowing up my cell phone every 30 minutes while I'm taking care of business, because he has nothing to do but sit on the couch.
2007-01-28 12:02:04
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answered by anosey1 4
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well me personally i would prefer a man with a job not someone whos going to lay around the house and collect dust all day i refuse to support anyone me and my man both have jobs we share the bills 50/50 but to a point i do not pay his credit card bills why cause there not mine and i do not use them i have my own we share the rent and the food bills and cable, But there are some women out there who dont mind supporting a man (this is a small percentage of woman i might add)
2007-01-28 12:05:38
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answered by ~Lisa~ 3
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Well, I like a man with ambition. If he doesn't have some sort of direction, then how can I build a relationship with him? Never been a huge fan of the "slacker", I dated two of them but they tricked me into believing that they were ambitous. Haha, they were so full of it!
2007-01-28 12:01:17
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answered by rosie768 3
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I personally liked slackers when I was young and stupid, but as I've grown I realize how sexy it is to be a go-getter, you know someone who can get off their butts and try to accomplish.... SOMETHING
2007-01-28 12:00:40
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answered by Heather 3
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Slackers are OUT !!
2007-01-28 12:01:03
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answered by Anonymous
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