I'm kinda enduring an awkward situation at work. One of my closest guy friends works at the same place as I do and I began to develop feelings for him though he's in a long-term long-distance relationship. I told him I liked him and that it was best that we ignore each other for awhile so I can get over him. Anyway he asked me if I wanted to hook up with him, i said i did, but then he said i should do it with another guy I like. Anyway during all of this, I got mad at him for jerking my feelings around and I ended up calling him a dog, but then I apologized. I said all of this via text. The next day I wrote him a letter saying how sorry I was for how I acted, and that it was better that we treat each other as professionals since he has a gf and I need to move on. The thing is he's ignoring me and has been for the past 4 weeks. Last week, was my birthday and I got a card from some coworkers. He wrote Happy Birthday in it, but didn't sign his name and he's till not talking to me.
2007-01-28 03:48:53 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, you did suggest that he let you move on and get over him...you should.
2007-01-28 03:55:46 · answer #1 · answered by KookyPookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to deal with this situation is to stop putting so much energy and time into thinking about what you did wrong and what he's thinking. You were right to feel he was a dog he treated you as if your feelings were a joke. There was no need to apologize in the first place and you sort of went overboard with it..sending texts and writing a letter. He pretty much had you right where he wanted you with very little effort. I hope you realize from all of this, he is not REALLY your friend. Particulary not a CLOSE friend as you mentioned. You shouldn't feel awkward at all you followed your heart and rejection happens to the best of us and of course it's not an easy thing to deal with. Best thing you to do is to continue as if it never happened. Believe that you are smart and worthy of any guy that is in your life and with him it was simply not meant to be. Be the change you want to see. If you want to have a professional relationship with him, keep it professional. When and if he approaches with with anything other than that let him know where he stands in your life. You don't have to be rude or have an attitude but just let him know how he handled the situation revealed something to you about his character and you're not interested in being friends with him anymore but would like to maintain a level of professionality and respect because you still work together and simply walk away. He'll end up feeling like the jerk he is. For the future respect boundaries and know that if someone is in a relationship that is where they want to be no matter how far the distance is.
2007-01-28 12:09:11 · answer #2 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if his relationship is long distance--he still has a girlfriend. Get over him cuz if he'd cheat on her, he'd cheat on you
2007-01-28 12:03:04 · answer #3 · answered by jobs1012003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋