We both going out for more than 3 years and love each other a lot! We wanted to get married. But recently according to some situations we both are kinda busy and we meet up once in a week or so! But i'm just bothered about having not enough time to go out or talk...i keep thinking about him! It's like i'm addicted to him! When i get up i talk to him on the phone, when i eat i talk, when i go to sleep i talk, when i go out/on the bus i talk...always talk talk talk and i feel he kinda getting upset & annoyed i know i shouldn't do that! i should give him a own space! So, what are the things i could do beside always thinking of him and bothering him? I mean we both have a lot of things to do! But it's just hard to stay without talking to him every hr or so! Did it ever happen to u guys! I used to think what lovers talk always, they always find something to and they talk day & night! After i fell in love, i realized it doesn't matter what we talk, we just like to hear each others voice!
2007-01-28 03:28:09 · 7 answers · asked by Girl 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
hes probably annoyed cuz he's busy trying to get stuff done too, and you keep calling him!!! lol!!! i try to completely concentrate on something else. unfortunately, that doesnt work too often. Just for the record... i dont always practice what i preach.... (the stop calling thing-thats just a chick thing. impossible to stop, unless he breaks up with you.)
2007-01-28 03:37:28 · answer #1 · answered by sunshine 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Never put all your eggs in one basket honey.
Save some for yourself so that your world will not revolve around him. Sounds like you worship this guy and nothing wrong with that. But, by making him your whole world, now your worrying about what to do because he isn't there for you as much. Don't make this mistake again if you can help it. Men need space and someitmes lots of it. If he truley loves you than he'll return all a new, but if he doesn't the world has not come to an end. As I tell my daughter, if you chase guys they are going to run, just that simple.
2007-01-28 12:57:48 · answer #2 · answered by docie555@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all perfectly NORMAL---it is your survival instinct.
Basically, the only reason any of us now living are here, is because our ancestors mated successfully. All the other people, not interested in sex or love, died out. The successfully surviving people/humans over millions of years, were obsessed with mating---so, we are the result.
There is another angle to this, the successfully reproducing woman---she is much more obsessed about it than a man, because she is looking to reproduce in a certain way, and that is all she wants sex for. Scientists have theorized that women of the past innately, instinctively learned that to be successful sending out themselves into the far future (as "us", collectively, the present people on earth), they needed to have a "sexy son"---this son was not only ready to reproduce, he was darned attractive to women, so that he had a much greater chance of getting women to have children with him. So, even if we are not conscious of it at all, the woman inside us is driving us to birth that "sexy son", and the most efficient way of doing this is having a child with a man who is very attractive to ALL females. This instinct is very powerful---it is life or death for our genes surviving into the future. We are sort of on "auto-pilot" to have children by the most appealing man we can find.
Women who can control their urges, and who are not ruled by this instinct so powerfully that they have babies, are "drop-outs" in the genetic race of survival. Their life may make perfect sense in the present world, but they will not have representatives in the future if the instinct isn't followed.
2007-01-28 11:51:39 · answer #3 · answered by papyrusbtl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you both have seperate lives and you both need to live those lives. How bout you tell him how you feel. Tell him you feel like you are bothering him and comprimise. Tell him you'll talk in the morning when you wake up and at night before you go to sleep. If he's ok with that than great! If he doesn't like it then...comprimise some more! Bottom line: Talk to him and tell him how you feel. He'll understand if he loves you.
2007-01-28 11:35:02 · answer #4 · answered by rigby88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a hobby that interests you as much as he does.
If you keep needing to talk to him all the time, it is likely that you will push him away. It's nice to have someone you love that much, but you need to continue to have individual lives as well.
2007-01-28 11:33:18 · answer #5 · answered by ambr123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i personally think that it's OK to think about someone but not all the time.. my advice is that you will get an hobby and keep yourself busy and you will get it trough :) good luck
2007-01-28 12:20:16 · answer #6 · answered by lirlir16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get married
so that when you are living together
you will at least see him a few moments a day.
2007-01-28 11:36:25 · answer #7 · answered by Wicked 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋