this is a very serious problem i need help with?

Question

if almost everyone in my family absolutley hates my boyfrined,, but i love him more than anything and cant fucntcion properly without him, sould i listen to my heart or listen to my family, wwe have been together for a year and for many to come, what would you do.also we are only 16 so the hatred makes it an obstacle everytime we want to hang out, should we stick it out until we are of age to live together

Answer 1

Lexi it sounds like the old story of going around and asking 100 people their opinion and 99% say the opposite of what you want to hear but 1% say what it is you want to hear. Lots of people would go with that 1% because they can then try and justify it by saying well so and so agrees with it. But in reality can 99% of the people be wrong. Usually not I would suggest. So although your heart may be telling you to stick it out with your boyfriend the reality is that at your age he will probably not be involved in your life forever but your family will be. It is hard being a teenager and believing that your going to spend the rest of your life with this person. But honestly Lexi you will probably have a couple of more relationships before you settle down with one man. Sorry for sounding so old (but I am) and don't want to see you damage your relationship with your family. Best of luck in making a mature decision.

Answer 2

Hi dear

What's up? I know u r passing from a very stern hitch. But apart from all this, u should not be that speedy b'coz this is a decision which would have the grey picture of your future. Please think thousands of time about this situation and take the step ahead.

And come on… u r just 16 yaar!!! U are not mature enough to think such belongings in this age. This is the age to enjoy your life, to prepare the basement for your career & to feel all the goodies. Please yaar concentrate on your studies. Why don't u think about the only gift God has give us i.e PARENTS. U just don't think that your parents are against u & your boy friend. They too have seen the dreams about u. They too must have thought something which would make your life better. They are your well wisher dear… Try to understand them!!! 

And let me tell u something very true about your love, if he loves u vigorously & accurately he will wait for u until u complete your studies and equipped for your career. Tell him to wait till then dear. Till that time, I think, he will also have a good capability of earning and living a married life better.

Please don't depress the heart of your mom & dad. If u will do so, they will just break into pieces. They have spent their years in fulfilling all your dreams… how can u just break all the bonds of love with your parents and think more interestingly about your partner whose relation with you is not more than 5 year even… think on this point… when u will turn your self into a more mature person into few years, u will then yourself recognize this situation as an idiotic circumstance…

All the best & God Bless
Your well wisher 
sur

Answer 3

hello, its apparent from your question that your family is aware of this ongoing relationship between you and your boyfriend. It is worth finding out by way of discussions with your family as to what makes them hate so much to your boyfriend. Quite possible that they may have a valid reason which you might have overlooked. Secondly, this is the age you must seriously consider looking at your career and the same stands equally true for your boyfriend. Its good to hope for a better future together if your boyfriend also understands the importance of this critical age and time.
Believe me, if he is right for you, he will be around when its the right time to decide on who to spend life with..
Cheers!!
bobby

Answer 4

Of course everything seems very serious at this age. I don't say it is puppy love, but it may be infatuation. Wait for two or three years,then you will be sure what sort of love is this. Again, if you are going to marry the boy should support you isn't it ? So he or at least you should have a job to stand on your foot. So wait until that time.

Answer 5

If u love him to much to function properly. I think what you should do is take a break from each other for a little while and see what happens. If you two love each other as much as you say you do then you'll be able to handle anything. Hopefully everything works out you will be able to be together and move in with each other. Good Luck!

Answer 6

hey kid, if you are really 16 - as you said, it really suggests your passion towards your young love. and its nearly impossible to take denial in a positive stride at this age. and more so bcoz its your first love - if am not wrong. what i would suggest is give in to your parents for some months and see if your love lasts this test of seperation. it will also help you decide if your love is true or just an infatuation. All the best. Patience pays.

Answer 7

I think you should just mellow down the discussion about ur boyfriend in ur house. Dont part, but just dont let the discussion pop up in ur family. You are 16, so just give urself and him some time.. With time, god willingly ur bf would be mature and start on with nlife on his own and once he has the ability to prove himself then again introduce him in ur family.. Be steady with him for now and maintain a low profile on the topic.. Good Luck and god bless... Celebrate love

Answer 8

your family is just looking out for you. If you and your boyfriend can hang on till you're both 18 then that will prove to your family that he's not as bad as they thought he was. Try talking to your family one at a time and ask them why they don't like him. They may or may not have a good reason to dislike him. Communication is the first step.

Answer 9

HI MY DEAR FRIEND,
yes,this is an age that makes love with an oppossite sex for their kindly approach,it is not a mistake of you,it is because of the harmones of this age you feel like that,i hope your family is a traditional one.So come out of selfishnes and think of your family mates and the love possessed by them on you ,i will sure that you will get smooth relation with your
family.Also this is not an age to take decision of yourself ok?Thank you friend,Have a clear mind&clear life.

Answer 10

U r too young, Regarding the hatred towards ur boy-friend, let him too grow and be independent/earning one.

Then only the feelings towards him wil change.

Just listen 2 ur family till then.