2007-01-28 03:16:08 · 18 answers · asked by dzvina 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
For me, no. But i'm working on it.
For example, me and my mother lived with a guy when I was about 8, and he was a nasty piece of work, he was an alcoholic, and I have my suspicions that he was on drugs, and he chucked us out of his house, and threw tables and chairs at us, and we still don't know why. Now, as a kid, that was a) scary and b) made me think that most every guy was totally evil. But, now, at 17, I know that he was obviously mentally ill, he needed help and i'm certainly not upset about it anymore, I simply hope that is okay, since I have not seen him since, that he is able to get back on his feet, give up the drink and live a happy and fulfilling life.
I've managed to do this with most people from my childhood that hurt or abused me.
About a year back, I met a guy who was also very horrible. He isn't the sort of person who I would choose to associate with - he's a drug dealer, he beats his girlfriend, he's very violent and very impolite and intollerant. However, we had a mutual friend, so I used to see him from time to time at that persons house. One day, a close female friend of mine went to our friends house on his own, and this guy hit her, stole her phone and then tormented her about her looks until she broke down and ran away (she had had surgery to fix her chin, which jutted forward slightly, although to my mind, she was always beautiful). Now, I was angry at him, very, very, angry at him, in fact, until a few months ago, when I saw another mutual friend of ours, and he said 'He's a lot better than he used to be'. At that point I realised he wasn't all bad, something clicked inside and I thought 'Hey, he's human, he might have had a rough life, I don't know what led him to be this way, but I hope he's okay, and I hope he finds true happiness in life'.
However, if that other friend hadn't have said what he said, I may never have forgiven him.
That said, my boyfriend told me 9 months ago that he was in love with someone else, and I still havn't forgiven him for that. So, you know, sometimes it's just hard to let stuff go.
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2007-01-28 03:25:56 · answer #1 · answered by Pebbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its easy to forgive, but not so easy to forget.
If one truly forgives another, they would forget what that person did or said about them. Many claim they forgive, but hold grudges against that person. Is that true forgiving? No, its that easy to say.. from the mouth, but not that easy from the heart.
2007-01-28 11:24:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Overall, yes. But I will admit that there's a flaw in me that, should certain things happen, I'm not entirely sure I could forgive it. I would love to say that I can follow my religion as well as the Amish did after that horrible school massacre - that I could forgive the shooter and even reach out to his family, but the truth is, I don't know. I'm not sure I would forgive someone who shot and killed my daughter.
2007-01-28 11:26:11 · answer #3 · answered by happyhomeschooler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving is often different than forgeting.
Loving the person, despite the offense is easy. Totally forgeting can be really hard.
2007-01-28 11:32:16 · answer #4 · answered by Mike A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately forgiveness is one of my weaknesses. To the very few people that have hurt me in my life I can't forgive them. I guess I don't know the meaning of forgiveness, but some people don't deserve it from me.
Blessed Be.
2007-01-28 11:30:52 · answer #5 · answered by Maria Isabel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i find it very easy to forgive but not as easy to forget. it wasnt always so easy. it took me coming to the realization that all people are human and that everyone makes mistakes. then forgiveness became easy because i learned to roll my eyes and say whatever. remember that forgiving someone doesnt mean they automatically become your best friend. it just means that you understand that they arent losing sleep due to their actions and that you arent going to let them continue to bother you by causing yourself emotional distress.
DID YOU KNOW THAT MOST PEOPLE DONT THINK THEY HAVE DONE ANYTHING WRONG? meaning you only hurt yourself.
2007-01-28 11:36:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the most part yes... but it is always a work in progress..
meaning... as in life some things take a little more effort.. because different hurts effect us differently.. But the more you forgive the easier it is!
2007-01-28 23:01:54 · answer #7 · answered by Esther J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and no.it is easy to forgive but is difficult to forget.i feel bad if i don't forgive someone!forgiveness comes from God and to can forgive is the biggest gift from Him.He forgave all the world and you can not forgive few persons?think at this paradox!
2007-01-28 11:32:17 · answer #8 · answered by Cristina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I forgive too easily too quickly. That might have something to do with Attention Deficit Disorder. Many times I have admonished myself for forgiving too easily, especially my wife's financial indiscretions.
2007-01-28 11:21:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah with GOD's help!Realizing that I am a sinner and GOD not only forgive me but even saved me through JESUS CHRIST.It's easier to forgive when we focus on GOD's goodness and mercy to us and by relying on HIM,not to our own limited strength.
2007-01-28 11:23:07 · answer #10 · answered by ranya j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋