i have a boyfriend of two years. But ive been getting very close with another boy (I'm 16, the new boy is 18) my boyfriend it my age.
I talk to him every day. we tell eachother we like eachother. And i feel SO bad for that. i know i sound like a horrible person. And all the responces to this will say "you cant love him that much"
or "you shouldnt be tied down at 16". But im so happy with him. (My boyfriend) i do truly love him with all of my heart. And there is no way in the world i would even 'go out' with the other boy. i just like him an awful lot. he gives me a buzz which ive never experienced before.
Is anyonelse going through the same thing??
please help me
2007-01-28 03:12:34 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry.. i meant *you
2007-01-28 03:17:16 · update #1
In General.... the 18 year old should be messing with women is own age.. please BELIEVE ME.. He has one thing on his mind... and that is to be inbetween your leggs.. once he has accomplished that he is gone... stick with yoru BF and leave the 18 year old loser alone.....
2007-01-28 03:18:24 · answer #1 · answered by ibjuscoolin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am confused with your Q.
is it the new b/f that makes you happy or the one of 2 years relationship? I can't figure that from what you are saying.
Answer is: stay with the one you love. You may be 16 but you sound mature. Can you wait two more years and move along with these boys without having sex.? It will do you awful lot of good and you will look back when you reach 18 and thank yourself for not having gone all the way with any of them.
Trust me when I say this. You may not understand it now / or think you do but later on down the road, you definitely will.
2007-01-28 11:21:46 · answer #2 · answered by Nightrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with caring for someone that much at any age unless sex is involved and it shouldn't be. As you do grow older though, you may both lose interest or find others more interesting and that is just part of life. You may end up growing old with your boyfriend or you may find someone who has the best things about both of these guys in one person the only good advice we can give is to enjoy being that young and don't make your life any more serious than you have to since that will ccome too fast and last too long.
2007-01-28 11:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Buzz you are feeling is your bodys natural response to this other guy. He is probably hot, and he is showing you attention which you like. You are young and it would be very rare if your bf now was the one you were going to spend the rest of your life with. I know you have strong feelings for him, but at this age your emotions are all over the place. Its okay to look at other guys, but never in lust when you are in a committed relationship. If you are truly In Love with your bf, then turn away from this other guy and focus all your attention him. Can you honestly say your bf is your life mate?????
2007-01-28 11:28:12 · answer #4 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE 16 and the new interest is 18. You would be the one to blame for any tensions, break up, hurt feelings or distrust by your 16 year old boyfriend and could get the 18 year old thrown in jail.
2007-01-28 11:23:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't consider it cheating at this point, but you two get any closer and you might wanna back off. I'm 16 and my boyfriend and I have been together 9 months, but I have 2 really good guy friends I tell almost everything too. Just because you tell some guy everything doesn't mean your cheating, just friends.
2007-01-28 11:18:27 · answer #6 · answered by lovelylittlelady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! it is cheating. You have to decide whether you want this relationship; and if you want it to be serious. If you decide that it's not going to be a serious relationship anymore, then let your bf know. Your bf might be open to the idea of an open relationship. IF that is the case then you can continue to flirt with this new guy. Or else it is wrong to do this to a guy you say you love
2007-01-28 11:22:16 · answer #7 · answered by Kk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i personally would never do that to my boyfriend, im 17 and my bf is 18, we have been together for 2 years also and i know what he expects of me, and i expect the same of him, a faithful honost relationship where i can talk to him about anything. i know my bf would not appreciate me talking to another guy, and i would not like the same if he did that to me. i adore my boyfriend and i know that that would hurt him so i wont do it. basiclly you are putting yourself on the line, the temptation is there and it is the wrong situation to be in if you are in love. maybe you should consider breaking up with your boyfriend if you want to talk to other guys so he can talk to other girls too, that would be fair wouldnt it....?
2007-01-28 11:20:00 · answer #8 · answered by Ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you like someone else an awful lot it's not cheating but I think you should take a break from your boyfriend. I don't see how you can be in love with someone and be attracted to, and like someone else.
P.S. I don't think it's fair to your boyfriend either so maybe you should let him know.
2007-01-28 11:18:58 · answer #9 · answered by AshesToAshes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you are coming from. I think that you like this new guy because he's the "new guy" there's something about him that excites you, something that you obviously like. This isn't cheating ------- but it certainly is the road that could lead to cheating. I'd advice you to drop this other guy. If you're beginning to like him then you may not be able to control yourself around him. How do you think your BF would feel if you cheated on him?
2007-01-28 11:24:23 · answer #10 · answered by Fefe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your bf found out about the other boy, how do you think he would feel? If you love him as much as you say you do then either tell him about the other boy and be up front or leave him alone.
2007-01-28 11:18:45 · answer #11 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋