when your mom is your problem ??

Question

i am a guy brought up by my mother as my father stays away she hates the girl i love i am really scared of her coz she can go to any extent of emotional blackmail like killing herself and eating pills if i dont listen to her i have been brought up in that kinda enviorment if i dont study i felt scare that my mom will comit sucide for everything her weapon is she will try to kill herself my prob is she keeps on spying me and keeps a track of my phone calls and everything i am hating this what shouild i do i get am having mental problems with this which i cant explain to anyone please give me a good solution

Answer 1

Boy you do have a problem? I take it your love your Mom cos you wouldn't be putting up with this behavior. You have to get your mom to seek professional help because this is too much to deal with on your own. I don't know how old you are and you may be too young to take this on your own.

You need to reason with your mom and get her involved in what you do. say if your out for lunch with your girlfriend maybe you could ask your mom to join you. She must of had a hard up bring too and needs to have you with her. you seem to be an only child? you cant call her bluff in case she follows through and then that's too much of a guilt to be carrying around. I truly wish you well with this one my friend. seek professional advice. Good luck

Answer 2

It's no wonder why your father stays away. My guess is that she's bluffing for some sick reason. If you're a minor, go to someone in the legal system for help: child protective services or maybe a guidance councelor at school. If you're 18, your solution is obvious. This sort of thing can ruin you in future ways that you don't realize. Seeking professional help may seem like a hard choice, but not seeking help could ruin your whole life. There are all kinds of people in this world with all shades of good and evil. There are plenty of us good folks who are glad to help someone in your position. But it's up to you to ask for help. And don't stop asking for help until you have a solution, some people you'll talk to could be in some kind of denial and not want to help.

I'm also getting the sense that you think if you could just be a better son, then you'll fix your mom. Whatever she is, sick, ill, mean, evil...you're are not the source nor are you the cure. But you are in no way stuck in this situation.

Answer 3

Sit your mom down and explain to her that she has been playing this game your whole life and that while you love her an appreciate her opinions she has to sometime let you grow up and that using suicide or hurting herself everytime you don't do something she wants is controlling and not right. If she attempts it I wouldn't hesitate to call 911 and they will take her to the mental ward of the hospital and put her under a watchful eye.
She's being manipulative and putting tons of pressure on you which is unfair. Explain to her how it makes you feel to be spyed on and watched constantly. Tell her that she raised you, and that you know right from wrong and that you are going to do the right thing no matter what.
Don't give her any reason not to trust you and keep open communication with her. She'll eventually let up.
But make sure you tell her that her little game like threatening to commit suicide aren't going to work anymore. She doesn't need to do that to get you to listen to her.
She can't choose who you love anymore than you can choose who she loves. She just has to trust that you'll make the right decision.

Answer 4

Oh Bobby you certainly have a problem here. Your mother is jealous for one and that is why she hates your gf. It's not your gf in general that she doesn't like it's because you are your mothers only son and she feels she's going to lose you because of your gf. Your mother has and I hate to say this,since I don't know your mother, but she has a type of mental illness. She needs some professional help immediately. Your mother is afraid that once she loses you she will be alone and that is what scares her. I don't know how old you are but I'm assuming you are high school age. If you are concerned of your own health due to your mother you have the right to get some counseling for yourself. If you have a Youth Advocate group in your town they can assist you right away and help in various programs and your mother too.Also Catholic Charities has professionals to assist with counseling at little or no cost and you don't have to be Catholic for them to assist you. Can you talk to your counselor at school? I know sometimes you can't but ck on that. Can you afford a cell phone or a track phone so your mother can't pry into your private phone calls? I hate to go behind your mom's back but there is a fine red line here. Can you talk to your dad or is that way out of reach here? Maybe he can help in some way? Your mom is becoming paranoid and this isn't a good thing.This can develop into something much worse.If it hasn't already. Can you and your mom have a civil conversation together or is this out of the question? The bottom line is...is that your mom needs professional help because emotionally she's becoming irrate and abusing you in alot of ways.You need to talk to someone professionally and who can help you as well as your mom. One more question...will your mother actually commit suicide or is this a scare tactic she uses on you?

Answer 5

You are in an abusive relationship. Your mom definately has some emotional and mental problems that need attention. I don't know how old you are, but you need to be taken out of this home., before more damage is done. Tell another family member. Grandparents? Aunts, Uncles. You even have the right to turn your mom in for abuse. Social Services will help with that. But then you will have to go to Foster Care. Is your Dad an option? You need to get out of that enviornment fast. Do what ever you can to make that happen.

Answer 6

No that is no longer approximately your being a teenaager , incredibly that's some mom being terrified of this international and what would desire to happen . She is terrified for you her daughter with the aid of fact she loves you . She seems to have a reason to be afraid for you . You pronounced on the commencing up which you have been a teenager with a wild social existence . That even frightens me . That wild social existence is why I completely agree including your mom , She is familiar with what would desire to happen to you in case you nonetheless have a wild existence form. would no longer be precisely what you had to pay attention I purely it facilitates you already know why your mom feels the way she does sturdy success and God bless

Answer 7

You are not the one who has mental problems. I'm very sorry this is happening to you..... but because you have to deal with a mother who has a mental problem and you can't force her to see a professional- maybe you should see one. You will be adviced to bring her along at one point, because it's her, who is the source of your problems.
My brother committed suicide and therefore I know it's very cruel to threaten with it. He never told anyone about his intentions..... but the fact that your Mom is telling you about thoughts of suicide is a hint that your mom is suffering from depression, which she should have seen a professional for long time ago- instead of using it to control you. Should she really commit suicide one day.... it's because she should have seeked professional help, not because of you.

Answer 8

Your mom needs some serious counseling.

As far as anything, tell her that you feel like she may be invading your privacy. Try calmly letting her know that. She sounds, though, as if she is an "I hate all men" divorcee and wants to take it out on all men.

Maybe you can tell her you don't like that she says she'll commit suicide and that it scares you because you care. Calmly let her know you want to help her. I think this problem can only be resolved if you help her first.

Answer 9

Ever watched the Water Boy with Adam Sandler? You're just going to have to tell her that you like this girl and that you are not going to be placed in the middle and she needs to be considerate of your girlfriend if she wants to keep the relationship that she has with you.

Answer 10

how old are you? ur mother has a problem maybe she is scared that she will loose you...but then ago maybe sh is just crazy...no offence....you need to get away from her and start living your own life if yo live with her u need to move out on ur own,..and if your not old enough you need to move wit a family member because ur mom is possibly nuts....seriously and get her some help she needs therapy or somethin