I am in very tight family situation where it is mandatory that i get married in Feb 2007. She had postponed dates like this 6 times before. Can I trust her now. I understand she wants her elders to be married before her. But I have to get married in Feb 2007. Please suggest.
2007-01-28 03:03:26 · 25 answers · asked by sandy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
SHE HAS GENUINE PROBLEM YOU WILL HAVE TO TRUST AND WAIT.
2007-01-28 03:12:14 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok well since February is only a week or so away I think that you are asking for a bit much. If she has postponed the wedding that many times, there may be some hesitation on her part to get married to you.
I t appears as if in her culture she needs to wait until everyone else gets married. I say respect her parents and others wishes and wait.
You mentioned that you had to get married by a certain date. Do you think that maybe she is feeling pressured to marry you? When someone feels pressured, they usually back off, and allow some space.
If the reason you need to be married by a certain time is for financial reasons (ie- old uncle bill said you couldnt have his millions unless you married by age 21) then i suggest you run out and find someone who didnt care.
If the reason is you need health care- i say go apply at the local county.
If the reason is just because you made that day yourself to be married by, you need to step back and see what is more important to you. If you love that woman you would respect her wishes and marry her when she is ready.
2007-01-28 03:15:54 · answer #2 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It is possible that her elders could get married only after five or ten years. Can you wait for such a long time. It is better to marry some other girl as arranged by your parents or you can postpone your marriage plans for some time, start loving another girl and get married to her by Feb 2008.
2007-01-28 05:12:51 · answer #3 · answered by spiritual healer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you HAVE to get married in Feb '07?
Frankly, she's postponed it 6 times before. She sounds like she is putting other people before you, and that to me is not a good thing~!
I'd tell her "If you do not marry me Feb *day* 2007, the wedding is off".
2007-01-28 07:27:09 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u r engaged for 3 years but she postponed dates 6 times due to her social responsibilities towards her elders.have she ever made it clear to u that she marry u only after her elder's marriage or was it u every time preparing for marriage with out her consent,think about it.if u have every time asked her before fixing a date then what was in her mind every time that made her to say yes .was she afraid from losing u or she was expecting a miracle so that her elders got married before proposed date each time.
if u haven't ask her ever before fixing a date then it's a total ur fault .u r talking about some deadline ,is it some thing related to astrology?then u should made it clear to her properly & persuade her for a court marriage with her parent's consent(this will also take care of her social responsibility).this will be good for both of u ,if u two really love each other.
if she won't settle down even for this then u should not hesitate in leaving her(if deadline more important then ur 3 years love).this will save both of u from stress that right now u 2 r facing.beside this u should also think about ur own folks before making any decision.take ur time ,,just be u ,think properly & then made any decision, after of all it's a matter of life time.ALL THE BEST.
2007-01-28 04:50:58 · answer #5 · answered by SHOBHIT J 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
properly initially, i do not ignore that you won't be able to "flow ON" so easily because you're financially stuck. you may be a unmarried mom with 4 youngsters. yet meaning you would possibly want to wish to end residing above your ability. in case you may't have the funds for a house and also you mentally won't be able to take this difficulty anymore, move an house. make youngsters similar in age or gender share a bedroom. heavily. they are going to come across information on a thanks to deal. in this economy everybody has to make really hard sacrifices. as for him. you want to inform him precisely that. "i don't experience like I actually have a more acceptable 1/2 in my existence" go away marriage out of it once you should. yet merely communicate about the relationship. that is the way it is going to improve. marriage received't fix it in any case so for now end specializing in that and merely concentration and chatting with him and attempting to augment the relationship so that you may have a more acceptable 1/2 lower back. finally. what's marriage in any case? i mean really. its attractive and it can make a pair experience really surprising. yet you both were there executed that. all marriage technically is is a piece of paper and a pair earrings telling you your married. and also you adult males do not want a piece of paper telling you that you'll continuously be jointly and dedicated. nonetheless want the earrings? purchase them! why no longer? perhaps its the tremendous party you want, notwithstanding it would not appear like thats an truly good economic flow both in the present day. as well. in historic cases, they did no longer have earrings and information to coach a wedding ceremony valid in any case. p.s. he would not have fricking proposed if he wasn't waiting.
2016-12-03 03:47:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take this as a sign that she's not ready regardless of your family situation.
Please be aware however, that since February is only a few days away, either way, you're screwed. If you dumped this dingbat now, there's NO way you could find a person to marry you in just a few weeks.......
2007-01-28 05:16:32 · answer #7 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You cannot force someone to marry you. Simple as that, this is the year 2007, not the dark ages.
2007-01-28 21:34:17 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, As she wants her elders to be married before her, It means this is her social responsibility, and regarding to the dates given to u at several times it is due to Ur pressure to marry soon. Just go forward to her parents and elders and ask their permission to marry.
2007-01-28 03:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by AVANISH JI 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chances are she doesn't understand how set in stone that you have to be married February 07. But look hun, it IS almost February 07. Do you honestly expect to plan a wedding and be married by then if it's not even definite?
2007-01-28 03:13:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I can't imagine why you would need to be married by that date, but if you do, and she knows it, perhaps she wonders if you're getting married for reasons other than wanting to be married to her. If she's postponed that many times, she's definitely sending you a message that she's uncomfortable with the forced date. The fact that she's remained with youi tells me she does care, but perhaps is wondering about your motives.
2007-01-28 03:08:46 · answer #11 · answered by lma0814 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋