Sometimes people say stuff about me and the decisions I made in my life that hurt my feelings. For example, I got married young and I admit it, and people said stuff about this behind my back. I mean, I learned a lot about myself during the time so I don't regret it but I'm going to wait a while before having children. Now people are commenting about that too and saying that I should have kids soon. I'm just in my early twenties and I'm finishing off school so I'm very young and I haven't settled everything in my life yet. Some of the things people say hurt my feelings, how do I not let it get to me?
2007-01-28 02:43:08 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Try not to encourage folks to tell you what others are saying behind your back. Whatever you do people are going to fall on one side or the other and criticize you. You said you married young and people criticized; well if you had waited to get old to get married people would say that nobody wanted you. Let me try to give you an example. I worked for a mining company, but when it rained the company could not mine, but since farmers were in the area it suited them when rain fell. The point is that when rain fell, the mining company was unhappy, but the farmers were happy and vice-versa. If God cannot please all of us, by his decisions, how can we expect to please others by our decisions. Just be sure that your heart tells you that what you do is the right thing. Good luck.
2007-01-28 02:57:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen, I married young-ish, and had children young... But once you're in your thirties, it doesn't matter. People become a lot more accepting. Because of a "grown-up grandfather clause"?? Whatever. And then in your forties you'll be "done". And then you will be an admired mentor in your fifties.
Don't be afraid of blazing your own trail.
Stay off others' Life Scripts!!!
You're doing GREAT!! :)
2007-01-28 10:53:20 · answer #2 · answered by emilsignia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only things you can do is first, choose better pe0ople to call friends, because a true "friend" will not backstab you and talk trash behind you. Second, remember to consider the source... if someone is that kind of person, you can't do anything about it other than remember they're a jerk and just "consider the source" - blow em off mentally.
2007-01-28 10:46:50 · answer #3 · answered by barefoot_always 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean...completely.
It's hard but you have to also realizes the comments are not really about you...just about your social identies...women aren't really respected, young people aren't really respected, etc etc so thus they think they can critique
It's helped me to see that even if I don't gossip about others, I critique in my head too...I'm sure we all do...there's something to criticize about EVERYONE in this world...on a superficial basis or about their judgment.
Listen from construcive criticism though don't take it to heart. If there is something that you can learn and change for the better, do so.
2007-01-28 12:56:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finish school, have children if you want and don't let other people's comments bother you. I find if I just look at them (with the expression of "what a dumb comment") and change the subject, they usually talk about something else.
2007-01-28 10:48:12 · answer #5 · answered by Mary G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question would be, are you really comfortable with what you have done in your life. we all live our lives differently, if you are comfortable with the choices you make then you won't worry so much about what others are saying. maybe you are questioning yourself though, are you making the right choice? that's definitely worth looking at. If you are normally a confident person, then maybe you need to reevaluate your choices. If your not, maybe some therapy would help to make you more confident in yourself.
2007-01-28 10:48:39 · answer #6 · answered by bosco6159 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak up. They are talking about things that are none of their business. Just say, "Thank you very much but when I want your opinion I will ask for it." You are an adult and they are treating you like a child. Don't stand for it.
2007-01-28 11:02:57 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember this:
Do not conform to other peoples opinion. Meaning other peoples opinion should not affect you unless it is one in which you agree. You must learn to seal your spirit the mind is powerful. Affirm things about yourself that you know are true. Just think in your head "I AM NOT OTHER PEOPLES OPINION"
Thats been helpful to me in my current situation and can be helpful in many. You dont meddle in their life they should mind their own and stop trying to run yours. Do whats best for you and prove evryone else wrong in the end. Good luck!
2007-01-28 10:58:05 · answer #8 · answered by charli_red1218 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully one day you'll wake up and realize only you can live your life.
You're still young and some people think they need to "guide" you....it's human nature but those people aren't you.
Remember one other things.....all of those people have their own cr*p...you just don't know what it is.
2007-01-28 10:48:21 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its the comments that bother you that you have to ignore or dont take to much to heart and the ones that you like that you should remember the same if not more than the bad ones
2007-01-28 10:47:25 · answer #10 · answered by Dside666 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋