if you were me, should i contact or reply to answer and ask how she is? As i `m now considering her my friend,i should be kind and not to rude,isn`t it? What you all out there can say about it?
2007-01-28 02:41:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should do nothing.. You shouldn't answer... If it was you who broke things off.. then you made that decision for a reason, so you should stick to it... If it was her that broke up with you.. then... what does she want now??? I guess you already had all these thoughts in your mind... I'm just tryin' to help... I believe that "What's done is done"... Things change for the better... You might not like the outcome now, but after a while, you'll see that it was for your own good... You never know what's around the corner.. But you already know how things will be with her.. (Yes, there were good times, but there were also bad ones)... The decision is up to you though...... Think twice before making up your mind... Good luck!!!!
2007-01-28 02:52:18 · answer #1 · answered by Olga F1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st thing 1st my bro! Was that msg meant for you cuz she might have send it by error. If it's for real then i'll say reply back a friendly msg like " Morning, I'm fine, thanx for asking"....cuz like you said, she's still a friend of yours. But somehow i'll advise you to be wary of EX-girlfriend cuz if they r gd then it wld not be EX. So maybe, just maybe they are back to get some advantage from you. Of cuz if you're single now what i said above applies well, but if you're attached then just reply what i typed above and stay faithful.
2007-01-28 10:50:15 · answer #2 · answered by Ignatius corleone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will reply as it's just an casual question. I will probably keep the messages short and to the point. Nothing more.
2007-01-28 10:48:50 · answer #3 · answered by th1608 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our cultures do not give people true perspectives on thoughts, emotions, and experiences on love. Many people facing problems in love find themselves cheated by their own lack of understanding. They feel terribly frustrated and angry, since no one seems to understand them and their most heart felt needs. Being in love can bring out many negative emotions if love is repressed. The person may manifest sadness, numbness, and guilt conscious or even jealousy. With time and patient understanding the emotions slowly subside and return the person to the ground of serenity, calm and sanity. Most of religious teachings tell us that we should live our lives peacefully, without grasping, longing and attachments. This cannot happen if any unfinished business of a lifetime is not cleared. Usually unfinished expression is the result of blocked communications. When a person lives harboring guilt or bad feelings towards others, those who are around him also suffer with him. It is never too late; even after enormous pain and abuse, people can find a way to forgive each other. Even at the very end of life, the mistakes of a life can be undone. . We should help the person not to repress but rather communicate his or her feelings of love.
The most essential thing in life is to establish a fearless heartfelt communication with others and it is never more important than with a person in love. So don’t feel anything extraordinary is going to happen, just be natural and relaxed, be yourself. Often people in love do not say what they want or mean, and the beloved does not know what to say or do. It is hard to find out what they might be trying to say, or even what they might be hiding. So the first essential thing is to relax any tension in the atmosphere in whatever way comes most easily and naturally. Once trust and confidence have been established, the atmosphere becomes relaxed and this will allow the lover to bring up the things he or she really wants to talk about. Encourage the person warmly to feel as free as possible to express innermost feelings, thoughts, fear, and emotions. This honest and unshrinking baring of emotion is central to any possible transformation of coming to terms with confession of love. And you must allow the person complete freedom, and give your full permission to say whatever he or she wants.
When the person is finally communicating his or her most private feelings, do not interrupt, deny or diminish what the person is saying.
Learn to listen, and learn to receive in silence. An open calm silence that makes the other person feels accepted. Be as relaxed as you can, be at ease; sit there with your person as if you had nothing more important or enjoyable to do. As in all difficult situations in life humor has a marvelous way of lightening the atmosphere. Use humor as skillfully and as gently as you can. Sometime you may be tempted to preach your lover, or give them your own formula of life. Avoid this temptation completely.
For real communication to be established, you must make a determined effort to see the person in terms of his or her own life, character, background and history and to accept the person unreservedly.When you feel that you have been loved and you were loved genuinely and when you know the person who made you feel worthy of love and really lovable then let your heart open. Let love flow from it. Extend this love. Open up your heart to him or her. Open up your relationship and give it a new and richer meaning.
Reply back always as quietly, as kindly, as sensitively and as skillfully as you can. Lack of honesty on your part will make him or her feel only more anxious and more isolated. I believe it is essential to tell the person the truth. He or she deserves at least that much. If they are not told the truth, how can they prepare themselves for their future? How can they carry the relationships of their lives to a true conclusion? How can they take care of the many practical issues they must resolve? I believe that love is a great opportunity for people to come to terms with life.
2007-01-28 11:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a plain, simple, polite reply but try not to be too friendly. And if she's getting intense, ignore her.
2007-01-28 10:47:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She said, Good Morning. You say, Good Morning.
But otherwise, stay aloof -- whether or not you want to resume the relationship -- which apparently you do not. Or, do you?
2007-01-28 10:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by jackbutler5555 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you can answer her politely since you only consider her as a Friend.
2007-01-28 18:47:31 · answer #7 · answered by fong p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wants to clear things up. give hr a chance. she admitted in a way that she wants you back
2007-01-28 10:47:15 · answer #8 · answered by кιяѕтү ;; 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has just been "kicked to the curb" by someone else and is licking her wounds. I'd leave her alone.
2007-01-28 10:45:55 · answer #9 · answered by dreamgirl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are friends now, why not answer and catch up?
2007-01-28 10:46:43 · answer #10 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋