me and my ex were together just under 2 years we done everything together.he lived with me he works with my dad and we went on holiday together twice.i done everything for him i was the only one he could talk to.he says there wont be an us again but im sure he hasnt got a clue what he want,im worried that he wouldnt get back with me becuase of his work situation.i feel as if he is trying to aviod me and not speak to me beacuse he is confused.we alwAYS talked about kids getting married and we planed to get our own place.i no he is only young but i no that i want him back and i will do anything to get him back...you carnt just stop loving someone like that can you!there must be something ican do!do he need his own space.?please help
2007-01-28 02:12:19 · 23 answers · asked by princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's what an "ex" is...so don't be surprised by that.
2007-01-28 02:16:15 · answer #1 · answered by Jason 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him some space.. Like you said, you can't just stop loving a person like that. If he loves you, do you think he can stop just like that? He can't, guys are not made to be any stronger when it comes to relationship. But indeed they do need lots of space for themselves. As you said, you and him did everything together. He probably didn't have his own space and maybe there's something about him which you are neglecting. Or maybe it's not your fault and it's just him. Anyway, it's not time to analyse and argue now. Learn to give him some space. I know you're desperated and you're worried but cool yourself down and be your best as a person. So if one day when he 'wakes up', he'll see the same old you again there for him. And he'll know you're what he wants. Guys won't reject true love. If you truly love him, give him some time. Keep chasing after him is being selfish because you only wanna solve your problem without thinking for him. You assume that you are close and therefore you gotta know everything, which is wrong. I mean, yea, you love him but try present it in a way that he can appreciate it. That way he will present his love in a way that can touch your heart also :) It's not easy I know. Do what you can and be positive. Prayers always help. Take care.
2007-01-28 10:31:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give it time. You said you were young and so is he. Maybe he's bored of the same thing and wants to explore his options. What do you expect? Of course he needs a breather if you're already having discussions about marriage. You're expecting too much, putting to much pressure on the relationship and where it should lead. If he's your ex, then its over. He ended it and you should get the picture. Go find another guy to build castles in the sky with. Remember, you're young too and there are lots of options.
2007-01-28 10:24:13 · answer #3 · answered by maya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says it's over then it's probable over. Give him the space he needs. Don't call him, and don't make up an excuse too. It's hard to let someone you love go, but if he does'nt love you anymore then what are you holding on to? Don't you want someone who will love you just as much as you love them? Don't settle for anything less then you deserve. If you love him let him go, if he truly loves you he will come back, just give him time. It will all work out in the end. Promise.
2007-01-28 10:30:28 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says he doesnt want to be with you anymore the there is no point in forcing the issue. Why would you want to be with someone that doesnt want to be with you? If you leave him be for the time being he may come to realise that he does want you back and things may work out. But if he doesn't change his mind then forcing the issue will simply push him further away from you. Give him time but if he doesnt come back then move on. You are sure to find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
2007-01-28 10:24:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he is your ex-,then you already know his feelings!
You obviously need to understand that it takes two people with similar feelings to be in a relationship.
Im not trying to be mean , but if he dosent feel the same way as you,then no matter how much you give of yourself to him it wont work!
I suggest you give him his space,and some for yourself!
If you love him let him go!If he loves you he will come back!
2007-01-28 10:24:14 · answer #6 · answered by kyle s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very confused.It is not your EX that does'nt know what he wants it you that does'nt know.If he is your ex that is what he is..He is finished with you and you need to accept that fact and move on.He has been honest with you and told you he does'nt want to be with you anymore he cannot be any clearer..You need to let him go.Just because you still love him does not mean he is going to love you back in fact he has made it clear he does not love you anymore.Move on before you hurt yourself anymore.There is nothing that you can do to get him back you cannot force someone to want to be with you and you cannot force someone to love you he is your ex for a reason leave it that way and start over.Good luck ..
2007-01-28 10:25:41 · answer #7 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be hard right now, but why would you want someone, who does not want you. You said he is young, so may be he wants to just play the field right now, so you have to give him his space. Take this time to work on you, read books on self esteem, and find new friends to go out with, and have some fun.
2007-01-28 10:19:58 · answer #8 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has made up his mind that he wants to do different things with his life.
Please respect him and his decision it might be very hard but, things happen for a reason and maybe you two together was not meant to be.
Talk to him and find out what he wants and why he wants it.
Good Luck
2007-01-28 10:22:42 · answer #9 · answered by zen522 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him all the space that he wants. You will be lot better off this way then trying to drag a horse to the water that isn't thirsty.
2007-01-28 10:19:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am hoping you mean your BOYFRIEND doesn't want you anymore, therefore he is your ex. If he really is your ex then thats really why they call it an EX.....he isn't supposed to want you. You cannot make someone love you and if he needs his space you have no choice but to give it to him, no matter how bad you want him back.
2007-01-28 10:18:10 · answer #11 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋