2007-01-28 02:07:50 · 37 answers · asked by peedee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no of course not, so many couples now prefer an older partner.good luck.
2007-01-28 02:12:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may be 'awkward' but it's not specifically bad. Just think, in the older years he will die presumably more than 20 years before you (because women live longer, I've heard). You'll be widowed, and I'm not sure if you'll want to remarry at that time.
Also, if you want children then you'll have to make sure that he's not too old to have children. I actually don't think that's possible - but whilst he can BE the father, can he actually FATHER? Can he look after the children at an old age? Will the kids want a daddy who is considerably old?
Another concern is money. You may be the only person earning if he retires or quits his job. I suppose you can live off the pension if he gets one, in addition to your job, but will that be enough to provide for the children as well? If you don't want children then money's not too much of a concern but it's yet another point.
Though, you can't meddle with affairs of the heart. Just take these points into consideration and weigh at against your love.
Hope this helps!!
MaybeLater_x
2007-01-28 02:15:17 · answer #2 · answered by Deconstitutionalization 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 18, there is nothing illegal about it. I mean, if you really "love" this man and want to have kids someday, this could potentially cause a problem. And you may get some weird looks from people if the two of you go out, but that all depends on if you care or not what others think. Best wishes...
2007-01-28 02:18:37 · answer #3 · answered by Annoy1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was with a man 20 years older for quite a while and it was fine...up to a point. i realised that i would never have any of the 'firsts' with him, and that he had had all his firsts with someone else. also, he had children and an ex wife and became very complicated until I could not put up with all of the games and things that were a part of his life and began to affect our relationship. my point is, it depends on his past, his connections and things may start off well but there is always the chance things could get complicated. But no, it's not bad. Just be aware of the challenges you could face.
2007-01-28 02:13:09 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all! I'm in love with a man who is 16 years older than me, we've been together for nearly 5 years with a 16 month old baby. Older men are much more mature and wise than lads my age. Go for it!
2007-01-28 02:15:22 · answer #5 · answered by suckaslug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not really, but the younger girl-older man thing can get to be a bit much simply because soe of those older guys know alot more sexually and are prone to manipulate(just an isolated observation) I wold not recommend it for my daughter, sister, cousin, if it is something you want, go for it. Only you will have to reap the benefits or suffer the cnsequences... Good Luck
2007-01-28 02:46:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on your age , it is very easy for a 35 year old to impress a 15 yr old or even a 45 yr old to impress a 25 yr old . i was obsessed with a 35 year old when i was 14 , by the time i reached 17 I'd born him 2 kids , it took me until i was 35 to realise that i was nothing more than property as far as he was concerned and i had allowed him to rule my life in much the same way as a father might a child . i would never allow my daughter to ever make the same mistake .
2007-01-28 02:20:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
Not if you're a man, but if you are in Love with him, take life a bit easier than you would ordinarily do, and make love easy, his heart would appreciate an easy time of it, Is he fit and well, I hope so, but Love him with all of your heart, Yes it's ok to lave a man from the Generation before yours..... good luck tho' Tony M
2007-01-28 02:21:08 · answer #8 · answered by tony m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think so at the end of the day its how u feel and if ur in love with him gr8. i must say i like older men too....its a bit of a turn on. im only in my 20s but if john taylor from duran duran (the bassist) made me an offer id simply have to accept it lol!
2007-01-28 04:29:38 · answer #9 · answered by michaelas920 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're an adult, there's nothing bad about it.
Love is not about a number. it's about finding someone who respects you. someone who makes you feel whole, someone you trust, can respect and would want to spend the rest of your life with.
If you've just met him, take it slowly; As sometimes, crush, or lust can be confused with love. So, take it a step at a time and you'll soon know where you stand.
Good luck hun.xx
2007-01-28 02:24:35 · answer #10 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends upon many things which you have to consider. If you are under 21, iit is bad because he has lived a lot of his life and that is still in front of you, a package that you have yet to open.
If you are over 21, you have to consider are you willing to live like a 40 year old person, or does he live like one your age.
It isn't necessarily bad unless you don't think ahead as to what is going to be required to mantain the relationship regardless of age.
2007-01-28 02:17:11 · answer #11 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋