Did my mom overpunish my sister?

Question

My sister was grounded for the past two weeks for cussing at mom. She's 11.
All week long she was kissing up to mom to get out of her last day of grounding but mom wouldn't give in.

So my sister snuck out of her window and went to a basketball game, my little brother ratted her out to mom just to get her in trouble. Which she did.

I'm still in shock that mom actually put her across her knee
and spanked her, my mom never spanked any of us, she
popped us on the butt but nothing like what my sister got.
Besides the spanking mom grounded Heather for 1 month!

I know what my sister did was wrong, but if mom would of
let her go to the game she would of never sneaked out.
All this could of been avoided.

Don't you think thats too much punishment for my sister?
Should I speak to mom and try to get the grounding down to
2 weeks?

I'm mad at my brother to for ratting her out.

When mom grounds us she takes away the internet, tv, phone and ipod.

Answer 1

You sister did the crime to get grounded for 2 weeks..2 weeks is 2 weeks..your mom was right in not giving in that last day. Yours sister was wrong for sneaking out and got what she deserved. If i was 11 and snuck out of the house i would nt be sitting probably to this day. I would have been put over my dad's knee and spanked with a paddle or belt and grounded for pobably longer than a month. your sister could have een kidknapped, raped or worse..your mom was right to be upset--she probably spanked like that out of both fear and anger..i am willing to bet that your sister wont sneak out again. If thats what it takes to teach her than thats what it takes. Your brother was right to rat her out. she could have been in danger and he would have had to live with the fact he didnt say anything if he didnt rat her out. besides it is a siblings duty to get the other one in trouble.


YOUR MOM WAS RIGHT IN WHAT SHE DID!!!

Answer 2

As a mother, NO your mother did not over punish her. And yes it all could have been avoided by your sister having respect for your mom and not cussing at her. And you should keep your nose out of it, it is between your sister and your mom. And your little brother did the right thing by ratting out your sister. It was her last day of being grounded she should have just finished it out. Your sister needs to learn that your Mom is the BOSS!

Answer 3

It is worth admirable the concern you are giving to your sister, likewise, try not to be mean to your little brother. Sometimes, our parents, especially our Moms tends to loose their control and become physical. The idea of talking to your Mom is good but do not push her into decisions. If you do, make it in the most modest way you can. Perhaps your Mom's has a problem but that should not be a reason for her to be physical to your sister. If you are the eldest, you must be a good example to your brother and sister. Be an example of obedience, modesty, submissiveness, temperance, and understanding. Sure, I am not perfect. I am in my mid-twenties now but I am becoming a good person in the process. I am used to be like neither your sister or brother. When I'm still a little bit younger, I'm also a nuts but with my elders constant understanding and guidance, I became a better person. Sure, your Mom regret the hurting, she might not just showing it because she wants you to see and think she's firm in her decisions, so that she may look credible in giving any one of you punishments should anyone of you wrong her but believe me she's in great pain everytime she's hurting any one of you if and only if neither one of you commit mistakes. Prayers can help.

Answer 4

I don't believe your mom was in the wrong. All children have to learn boundries during their developmental ages. Your sister was in the wrong for sneaking out. Being grounded means being grounded for the ENTIRE time of the grounding. If your Mom were to give in on that, then your sister would have thought she could get away with it anytime. I wish I could agree with you for thinking your Mom went over board, but she is just trying to teach your sister that she has to respect her word or there will be consequences.

Answer 5

No, if your sister respected your mother's authority over her, it would not have happened. Your sister willfully defied your mother's rules. I'd have done the very same thing your mom did. And, she'd still be on lock down until she got her attitude adjusted.

Stay out of it. First off, it's none of your business. Secondly, your mom is the one in charge. Thirdly, take a hint from what's happening with your sister and don't repeat her mistakes. Us parents crack down harder and faster with successive children.

If your sister can show she's willing to cooperate and be part of the family unit instead of an independent entity, your mom may reduce her sentence. That will be your mom's decision, though, not yours.

Answer 6

Thank God.About time a parent instilled some good old fashioned discipline.
First the punishment was not excessive.Although physical it was not tantamount to abuse.
Second the spanking was not for the original misdemeanor but for
disobeying the first punishment.
Its how kids learn how to obey the rules and don't become delinquents in later life.

Answer 7

As a parent, I think the punishment is appropriate. Your sister not only disobeyed your mom, but she also disrespected her authority. When we set rules, we have to stand our ground, otherwise the kids will run all over us because we let up for one day! Pick up a parenting book and read it, you will understand everything your mother is putting in place. It is for her own good. This shows how much your mother loves you guys!

Answer 8

The spanking may be just what she needs, Your mom may be just fed up, and don't know what else to do. It could have been very scary, if something had happened to her, and things do happen at times,, I agree with your mom, she needs to be stern with your sister, this is going to help her, Your mom only wants the best for her children, and you should not be mad at your brother, the one who you should place your concern with is your sister, talk to her, and tell her she should try and do the right things.

Answer 9

Nope not too severe. What you mean if she had let her go sis wouldn't have snuck out? That's like a burgler saying that if you didn't lock yor door he wouldn't have broken in! Your sis did wrong, but her butt beat a little, and then re-grounded... sounds like your mom is being a good parent, after all she does not enjoy punishing you guys you know.

Answer 10

Your brother should not have ratted on her...

BUT, your sister knew that she was grounded and why she was grounded...but she chose to screw up again. If your mother overlooked her second screw up that would have made further efforts to teach your sister to be more responsible for her action less than effective. Side with you Mom...and get over being mad at your brother.