My bf broke up with me three days ago and I'm still hoping that we can work things out. When I ask him he'll say things like "I can't answer that right now" or "I'll take that into consideration."
Then day after we broke up I got a very strange message on MYSPACE from a girl who claims to be with my man since summer. I've never met this girl and have absolutely no idea how she knows me or knows about my page. My bf doesn't do MYSPACE.
The thing is, I don't know if I should believe her or not. But this morning, I drove by his place on the way hom eand his car wasn't in the driveway... now I'm wondering if she was telling the truth and if he's actually with her. (Even though he's been known to stay over a friend's house after a club).
And seeing that me and my bf broke up three days ago, it's hard to communicate as it is. I'd really like to work things out between us, but I don't want to be nieve and stupid. Can someone tell me what I should do?
2007-01-28 02:02:34 · 20 answers · asked by SEXY LOVE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If that's what it takes for you to be able to drop the subject, then find out for sure. If finding out won't stop you from wanting to go out with him again, then why find out? Just forget about it. The best thing to do would be to leave him, especially if he's saying stuff like "I'll take that under consideration." It doesn't sound like he want to work things out. Why did you guys fight anyways? I think you are being naive and stupid. Just leave him alone. Find a hobby or something.
2007-01-28 02:13:17 · answer #1 · answered by maya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He broke up with you. It's over. He's shagging the other woman. The sooner you realise that it's over the sooner you'll progress to the anger stage. It's so much more fun than denial. You get to have your revenge, if you're that way inclined. If not, then it's the perfect time to find a man who will love you and not betray you. Don't wait for him to fill in the blanks. He's just brushing you off and no longer cares about how it affects you. The best revenge is to move on and be happy. It's more plausible than you can imagine right now.
Remember, trust your insticts. If you have a gut feeling that the other woman may be telling the truth, don't ignore it. She's probably wanting to make herself feel better by relieving her guilt and telling you. Cut them both from your life and enjoy that unique freedom associated with being young and single. Take time out to learn what you really want in a partner. Have lots of casual sex so that you can hone your radar. You'll soon learn how to spot a loser before you become emotionally involved. Stay strong, and remember that you have untapped resources of power within you. You just have to go through some crappy stuff to find out how strong you really are. If you get through this without allowing weak emotions which stem from low self esteem (such as jealousy) get the better of you, just imagine how proud you'll be entitled to be of yourself. You have the power to resist petty, self-destructive emotions. Use it.
2007-01-28 10:26:53 · answer #2 · answered by AussieGrrrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This a very hard one to answer. I've been there before. You need to keep a distance from him. If he calls talk to him , don't be hateful. Some guys have to see what they are about to lose in order for them to grow up. Let him know by your actions that you are only going to be a friend. And, if he can't treat you with respect don't even be that. On the other-hand, if he seems to be growing up and really is making an effort to be a good man....give him a chance....but take it SLOW..........don't give him a chance to be a FULL part of your life until you know it's right.
2007-01-28 10:16:45 · answer #3 · answered by rhonda y 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i really dont understand men myself, but give it some time, like a week, then try to talk to him, see what he says. And make sure u tell him u want the truth , u can handle it. Honesty is always best, yah it hurts sometimes(this i know) but better to know up front and not be played. If he wont talk or u get a weird vibe go with that. Hun there are plenty of fish out there, dont dwell on the past, take time heal and move on when u r ready.
2007-01-28 10:09:05 · answer #4 · answered by jojo69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, i assume you meant naive. LEARN TO TYPE, PEOPLE!!!
how can you be sure he didn't have a myspace account? there are pseudonyms you know?
why would a girl take the trouble to look you up and tell you about him if it wasn't true? what does she have to gain? when he said he stayed at a friend's are you sure it was a guy friend? anyway, if you guys broke up, you shouldn't care about the girl or anything else, you should just move on... and, as corny as it sounds, it's actually true: it's called a breakup because it's broken,(or something like that)!!!
2007-01-28 10:27:42 · answer #5 · answered by prettyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We'll, firstly, he never said it was a male friend's house after the club... keep that in mind. I would believe the girl on myspace. Maybe he told her about you or she found something with your name or picture on it and confronted him. She may have made him choose you or her. Who knows what exactly went on. If things were truly meant to be between the two of you, things will work themselves out. Don't waste all your energy in hopes of getting back together or else you are destined to have a depressing, lonely year ahead of you. Get back out there and explore. And as corny as this may sound, "there are plenty of fish in the sea."
2007-01-28 10:10:45 · answer #6 · answered by Annoy1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go about your day as if he is no longer your concern. Stay busy with family, friends, school. Him and any girl friends down the road are just a speck of dust in this huge universe. Even though your heart hurts now, don't give him any more importance than that. In no time at all you will be with someone else and will kick yourself for pursuing a relationship with someone who broke up with you.
2007-01-28 10:08:10 · answer #7 · answered by ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down and talk to him and tell him what's going on. If u love him then u should give him the benefit of the doubt but don't be stupid to believe him 100%, u got to snoop around and see how he behaves around u and observe every detail. Do u believe deep down inside that he loves u? Do feel that he wants to be with u or do u feel him distant from u? I mean u can't make him be with u just cuz u love him that would make the relationship really sour let him be and if he wants to be with u and really loves u he will come back on his own but don't pressure him cuz u will only make things worse and u will push him away from u and u will lose him.
2007-01-28 10:20:03 · answer #8 · answered by Elizabeth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably mentioned to her (in some intimate moment) that you are on MySpace (maybe because he didn't understand it, or didn't like it) ---you know us women, she hunted you down and couldn't wait to tell you what was going on....she hoped by doing so you would break up with him and then she could have him all to herself. I say, they make a good pair, and you should move on. He'll break your heart over and over if you let him, find a good guy, one that doesn't feel the need to be loved by many women in order to feel worthy ---they are out there, but you have to look closely, because there are not many of them. Just remember, "You're too good for him" and move on---he's not worth the effort.
2007-01-28 10:08:40 · answer #9 · answered by XOXOXOXO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
:( what can I say, must be terrible on you. Give it more time and then text him to see if he is interested to talk about things. If his answer is no, then I think just leave it.
As for the other girl, don't give it too much thought. might be true or not but I guess that is not important since the relationship is already broken. knowing might just add more salt to the wound. tough to move on but i guess that's the best way
2007-01-28 10:09:28 · answer #10 · answered by littlepurplebugz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋