I m in a committed relationship with a man for the past 1 yr and I really love him. I am the first girl in his life.however I have had a failed relationship once in life and i was ditched. Now my bf is planning to go for his higher education for 2 yrs.My parents wnt me to get married however he has assured that we wil unite.However I m scared of trusting him coz of the previous experience! Do u think a long distance relationship works? what shud i do to figure out whther he wil change or not!
2007-01-28 02:00:21 · 13 answers · asked by niks 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you truly love this guy and he has the same feelings for you, it doesn't matter how many miles are between you. Don't dwell on the past because then you start thinking bad thoughts and you will start hesitating and get paranoid on your relationship now then trouble starts when it shouldn't. Take each day as it comes. Patience is a virtue. A person cannot be changed unless they themselves want to be changed. But what is the reason for his change? Are you sure it's him that needs the change and not you? If the trust and the faith isn't involved in your relationship then I'm afraid you are going to have problems. You have to have one with the other to make a relationship work. If you don't then why persue the relationship? And why are your parents pushing the issue on getting married? This should be yours and his decision not theirs unless you are a minor. If you had trusted your boyfriend prior to his decision then you should continue the trust now.You should support him on his decision. I think what he's doing to earn a higher education is great and he needs encouragement not negative issues. Good luck.
2007-01-28 02:26:15 · answer #1 · answered by shuggabhugga05 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well,
I'll start off by saying that I'm in a long distance relationship, we got engaged a month ago on tuesday. It's not easy, I will tell you that right now. It's expensive, it's heartbreaking, and it requires a lot of trust in your partner. I've known my guy for a year now, we spend time on the phone with eachother every night, we see eachother about every two months, sort of alternating who goes to see who. It's hard at the end of the trips though, we are usually both in tears at the airport. I guess you have to follow your heart. Good luck!
2007-01-28 02:05:57 · answer #2 · answered by Cami M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im in a long distance relationship myself and they do work. As long as you trust him, then let him do his thing. If he gives you reason not to trust him, then you need to have a serious talk with him. It sounds like you have the trust issues just because of what happened to you in a previous relationship. Whiles hes gone, make sure y'all have a lot of communication and see eachother as often as possible. Get a webcam and use that when you cant see eachother in person. they really do help out a lot.
2007-01-28 02:11:35 · answer #3 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My personal opinon is that long distance relationships dont work. once a cheater always a cheater... unless hes devoted to change. Why are your parents telling you to get married?? you shouldnt get married until u are well and ready. It shouldnt matter if your 45. gt married when you are reasy. cause if you dont want to get married, adn you are just doing it for your parents.. then its not goin to work at the end. you should be happy that he's going for higher education. tell him that whenever he's done with his schooling and neither one of you are seeing anybosy that you will see what happens then... you dont want to be on "lockdown" while he's in school!!
2007-01-28 02:08:24 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I do not think a long distance relationship works. I have had one and I was the one to end it. It just couldn't work. Besides, I did not really love him, so...
2007-01-28 02:06:30 · answer #5 · answered by narcissa_bl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he's urs,he's 4ever urs as far as love is concerned.be patient to wait 4 him 4 only 2 yrs.u've to contact him constantly by sms,phone,email n correspondence 4 maintaining ur relationship.sometimes u've to go there personally to show ur care n love.
2007-01-28 02:11:54 · answer #6 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you shouldn't let your parents control anything for starters, if you are the first girl he's really been with, i wouldn't really count on that staying that way, especially long distance wise....as my old lady tells me, " A man is only as faithful as his options.".
2007-01-28 02:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by hatedheretic 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Break it off with him and see if he comes back in two years.
2007-01-28 02:04:01 · answer #8 · answered by Gasman 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmm ... nah LDR they don't work. there are exceptions but very very few succeed.
2007-01-28 02:05:12 · answer #9 · answered by littlepurplebugz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont trust men they cant be trusted
2007-01-28 02:04:43 · answer #10 · answered by rehad 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋