My first husband died and i remarried. I wonder if it is proper to wear his wedding rings alone with my new ones? They are really nice rings
2007-01-28 01:31:03 · 23 answers · asked by adahen2 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
My first husband passed away almost 29 years ago. My second husband can't even be bothered to re size my wedding set. I haven't been able to wear second husbands set for 7 years.My Aunt told me that my current husband should be re sizing my rings and not me.
2007-01-29 01:02:08 · update #1
I do not know the demeanor, nor the complexity to which you and your husbands personalities are made up, so I do not know if this would be appropriate in your case or not..but, in most cases I do not see this as being appropriate behavior. Why not have a talk with your current husband about this matter If you are now wearing your deceased husband wedding rings, why not put them away in the back of your dresser drawer in a beautifully lined velvet box; if your current husband mentions the absense of these, tell him that you took them off as a matter of respect for him. If he truly understands the need for you to wear them and expresses this, with no negative feeling present what so ever, then just slip them back on, which would be a rarity. It is important to honor those, who we love/loved that have passed, but your deceased husband would want you to do all that you could to make sure that the future had every opportunity to flourish with your new husband. He would never, in any capacity, want to stand in the way. Do what your heart tells you to do.
2007-01-28 02:00:10 · answer #1 · answered by amber 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, I would not, the rings are a symbol of a marriage that has ended.
I might consider wearing the wedding band on a chain, or having the rings stones and metal refashioned into something else.
My mother got a new engagement ring after many years with a very inexpensive one. She kept the setting from the old ring, and took out the tiny diamond, and put it in a new setting for my 16th birthday. I still have both. The jeweler had a catalogue with many rings with empty spots for the jewel, I got to pick it out.
Most husbands would object, or at least get their feelings hurt if you wore the rings. If yours doesn't mind, give him a big hug and kiss, he's a rare one. Do you have kids from the 1st marriage? Old enough to care if you wear their father's ring? It might be comforting to them if they know their father is still close to your heart, or it might be a comfort to you.
So, I vote on a chain around your neck, or have it remade for yourself, or a child, or just put them away.
Just a thought, but if you have more than one jewel, and more than one child, you could make a little something for each.
2007-01-28 01:50:08 · answer #2 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rings are a symbol of your first marriage, so wearing them, even on your right hand, is kind of pushing it.
However, it's not at ALL in appropriate to have them made into something else - a pendant, set into a bracelet, etc. A good jeweler will helpyou design something beautiful and meaningful to you. It's a nice way to keep the memory of the one you lost close to you.
2007-01-28 04:15:42 · answer #3 · answered by sylvia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know some people that have had rings like this melted down and made into new settings using the existing stones. They are still technically the originals, but they don't look like wedding rings.
2007-01-28 01:42:19 · answer #4 · answered by marchhare57 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this poor guy you married has to compete with a ghost
he will never be better than your deceased husband
so NO never wear them around him
i dated and got close to a widow never married was thinking of and then she started with deceased husband stuff then the kids and how much the look like act like him
do not put your husband thru that do not wear them
you may loose your 2nd chance at love
2007-01-28 01:42:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say NO. Despite their beauty, the ring symbolizes your commitment to your first husband. Therefore, not appropriate to wear with the rings for your current husband.
2007-01-28 01:35:00 · answer #6 · answered by Thoroughbred 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it is not proper. It means that you still are married to him.
When you remarry you vow that you will be loyal to your new husband and no one else so do not wear the old rings.
2007-01-28 01:39:00 · answer #7 · answered by couchP56 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wear mine on the right hand. Even though he passed away he was still an important part of your life and I do not see anything wrong with still wearing them on the other hand.
2007-01-28 01:41:20 · answer #8 · answered by butterfly234 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew a Lady , who had the same problem. She had her set of rings made into "other jewerly", That way she "felt" respectfull to her first hubby & not Disrespectful to her 2nd. & peolpe did not ask her STUPID 7 PERSONAL questions. I thought this was a Way-Cool , way to handle it !!!
2007-01-28 01:52:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help about a husband?
2016-10-26 12:55:53 · answer #10 · answered by Broderic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋