My father just died a couple of hours ago,he was in hospital at the time with a blood and urine infection.Can anyone help me make sense of it?
2007-01-28 01:16:24 · 10 answers · asked by havanadig 6 in Health ➔ Other - Health
first, my condolences. (ive been here)
and secondly, i doubt as if youll make sense of it for a while, there is no rhyme or reason why you8r dad was taken, it happens that way. we all feel a greats sense of injustice and betrayal... its not your dads fault, he was obviously poorly. its not the doctors or nursing staffs fault either, as they undoubteldy did everything they could.. we all have to go, and its never at the most opportune moment... and it leaves a gut wrenching hole in your life...
and there isnt a cure, or remedy. it happens to us all. it happened with our parents and their parents before them... and our kids have it to look forwards to...hopefully in their old age...
my dad died 11 years ago.. that feeling, it never ever passes, it sort of fades into the general background, and we get on with our lives as best we can.
dont expect to find any answers in the bible or religion... its just mumbled platitudes and waffle....
you want to chat; e mail me. dont bottle it all up and try to deal with it alone...for down that road lies madness. i know.
2007-01-28 01:33:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am terribly sorry about your dad.
Was it septicaemia? This is blood poisoning when the body can no longer remove the toxins effectively from the blood. I think you need more answers as to his exact cause of death, this will help you to understand more. Go to the hospital and arrange to have a chat with one of the professionals caring for your dad.
His death will take you on a difficult journey, don't bottle anything up. Reactions can vary from numbness, nothing or complete collapse mentally.
Those who feel nothing may feel guilt for not feeling.
The important thing is to let your feelings wash over you as painful as they might be, they are there to get you through this process.
Very best wishes.
2007-01-28 01:29:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry to hear your bad news. No one can give advice on how to make sense of death for someone else, it's a very personal journey and you will go through a thinking and grieving process over the next while. Whatever you come out with at the end of, will be your own 'sense of it'. it depends on your own beliefs and how you felt about your father. All the best to you.
2007-01-28 01:26:18 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Our reasoning can not help you at this time, there is no WHY to it these things happen and the hardest part of all is getting on with what life still has to throw at you, hopefully you have a family to help and support you who will also need you to help and support them and I wish you all the strength you need to get through the next month or so
2007-01-28 03:13:50 · answer #4 · answered by SAM GIB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Investigations will get you some reasons, some explanations: but the life departed, you cannot get back. Sorry you lost your father: find consolation in the fact that his time has come, he died in bed (a peaceful end), he was cared for till end. Condolences!
2007-01-28 01:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by swanjarvi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry about the loss of your father. Try and sit down with your dad's doctor and have him explain to you as simply as possible (meaning no big medical word) what exactly happened and what caused his death. I will say a prayer for your family.
2007-01-28 01:26:42 · answer #6 · answered by Grianagh 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your father, talk to the doctor and find out why this happen, there is alot of things that don't make sense. my dad was told he was a diabetic and was treated for it for 5 years and it turned out to be cancer. all I can say is dig deep into it. and again Im sorry about your lost.
2007-01-28 01:26:57 · answer #7 · answered by misty blue 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no. it is not sensible.
my father died (years ago) on the operating table after perfectly successful heart surgery. they couldnt stop the bleeding.
perhaps we would feel better if they had died in a more sensible way like having safes dropped on them but i doubt it.
time helps.
2007-01-28 01:27:00 · answer #8 · answered by karl k 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are many things many people will say, basicly,Im sorry,but he's gone,babys are born,people die,thats just life,so make the most of it.
2007-01-28 01:25:10 · answer #9 · answered by big burts bollox 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
god bless his soul..known why or how will help do nthn
2007-01-28 01:25:54 · answer #10 · answered by skepti m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋