A lot of parents are taking up 2nd courses to invest in the future; Whether its a masteral, doctoral, another degree, or even a first degree, children are being left to raise by others. Are these children coping?
2007-01-28 00:56:56 · 8 answers · asked by heartstrings 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
some cultures believe it takes a whole village to raise a child. are they not doing a better thing than sitting at home on welfare. what is wrong with bettering ones future, it will pay off for those kids in the long run. besides lots of parents are full-time stay at home and their kids turn out to be worthless.
2007-01-28 01:23:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My mom did this when I was growing up. I don't feel as if I missed out on anything except maybe Martha Stewart white white gym shirts and a spotless household.
My father worked full time and took care of a lot of the household chores and did most of the cooking. They shared when it came to driving us to things like gymnastic, music lessons, ballet, sports practices ect. I saw a marriage that was a partnership and an example that getting married and having children isn't necessarily throwing your life or your mind away.
We were not raised by others. My mom didn't start this until we were already in school and after school we went to our grandma's or a babysitters house and for about an hour or two at the most. When we got older we just stayed home alone for about an hour and had to do things like make our own after school snacks. Oh no! I think it taught me independence. Children don't need mommy around all the time. I never felt neglected. My parents were always around if and when I needed them.
I know my mom got a lot of flack from stay at home mommy's in the neighbourhood, but personally, I think they were just jealous. Besides, most of their kids turned out to be needy snivelling idiots who can't think for themselves. I think there's a real problem with a kid who can't be left alone for 15 minutes after the age of 7.
2007-01-28 02:01:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a can of worms here.
It depends on the age of the child. Parents with extremely young children will see detrimental effects often in poor behavior in daycare, school. and poor grades. I'd say kids above the age of 4th are more independent, and less needy of mommy and daddy. BUT, parents must not neglect recitals, sports games,etc for their own personal pursuits.
It also depends who the "others" are who raise them. Typically, kids left with grandparents or other extend family members fare better than with strangers in daycare.
Regardless, children need love and attention to grow and thrive. If a parent neglects to provide this, there will be HUGE issues. Parents who manage their time well, and don't bite off more than they can chew, can successfully pursue advaced degrees while working. BUT...a child's well-being should be a priority.
2007-01-28 01:10:35 · answer #3 · answered by theverygrouchyladybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. It all comes to the quality time spent and not the quantity. As long as children are taken care by some responsible adults, and taken care of their needs, and given a very good example of why mom or dad is going to school, why not?
I am working, and now completing my studies thousands of miles away from my daughter. She is just 8. We always had a healthy competition as who will score A in their school. Last week when I called and told her how much I am missing her, she is the one who pointed how important the course is for me and how proud she will be when she watches me taking my degree.
A good talk with the kids, a logical explanation and importance of education at whatever the age it is, will do a lot of good to both parents and kids. A special relationship can be developed.
2007-01-28 01:28:42 · answer #4 · answered by Josephene 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as the time the parents actually spend with their children quality time and they have good caregivers then it's a good thing. What those parents are teaching their children is that a good work ethic and education are both important. They hope that once they finish school that the end result will be a better life and a better shot at financial security for themselves and their children.
2007-01-28 01:36:26 · answer #5 · answered by Jane 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The children actually do quite well. They are not doted on and pandered to which is often (but not always) the case for parents who have little to do with their time but spend it with their children.
The impact is actually good! The children see that the parent(s) find great value in education and see that hard work keeps a comfortable home. But do make every effort to explain to your child how you love them and want to secure your importance in the workplace for their sake.
2007-01-28 01:51:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
those children would have to have more self-discipline.
as their parents are not always there when they need them.
they have to do their homework themselves wth being told.
on the positive side, childern might feel proud to have such parents who are willing o learn at their age..asp teenagers..who might feel that their parents understand the world outside n feel the same way as them.
this could motivate them to be like their parents, working har al day long.
family relationships might deteriote or improve depends on whether time is set aside each day tgt..
2007-01-28 01:04:52 · answer #7 · answered by babychuckle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother was a single parent, worked a full time job and a part time job and went to school full time until I was about five. What it taught me was how to work hard and achieve goals slowly but surely.
Each kid and each family is different.
2007-01-28 06:38:58 · answer #8 · answered by kelly24592 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋