your own family is full of complete strangers? Eventhough you live at the same house but you just feel like they're people you're stuck with. Why do I feel like this specially with my parents? We rarely fight but we're not passionate either. I can't remember the last time I hugged my father! I disagree with them and they annoy me alot but I'm not the one to pick up fights, specially fights that I know will end in vain and well lectures. Why do I feel like this? What's wrong? I'm 19 btw.
2007-01-28 00:52:25 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Well, it is somewhat normal to feel distanced from parents at that age since you feel you have a right to live the life your way and they feel you are not mature enough to decide everything and try to guide you. Teenage rebellion is common, but if you feel any other symptoms and feel dissociated in general from society, see a doctor and discuss your symptoms.
2007-01-28 00:59:53 · answer #1 · answered by Swamy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. i come from a family of 11 kids (yes, 11 kids!!!!!) and i'm the baby of the bunch at 31 yrs old. i felt completely alone, even with all those people in one house. I wasn't close to Dad either, and finally found out why. Communication almost never happened in our house either, and when it did, it was a fight. Those fights u mentioned are probably bcuz no one learned how to PROPERLY communicate (you, obviously are the exception!!). So, the problem can be fixed, but someone has to suggest getting help. Not just for one person, but the whole family, bcuz everyone is affected by it. hope this helps.
2007-01-28 09:04:36 · answer #2 · answered by thundergnome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This does happen to every human being on this Earth, even though you probably feel as if you are alone in this. It is all a part of the experience of growing up and pulling away from your family in order to find your own place in life.
I am glad that you and your parents do not fight, but you all need to sit down and discuss the fact the you just seem to be plodding along in a "passionless" fashion. Believe me, having gone through the same type of things as a teenager and then going through them again as a parent; I have seen and experienced both sides of this.
You have to believe that all parents try to do the best that they can for their children, and are trying to prepare you for you life. I don't know how many times my parents reminded me that things would change when I had children of my own and they were one hundred percent right.
My husband and I practically fell over a few times when our son and daughter became adults and returned to tell us that they were glad that we had taught them certain things, or refused to let them participate in certain things when they were growing up; as they now have their own families and have the same feelings and anxieties that we all deal with.
They is really nothing "wrong" with your relationship with your parents, you are getting to the age where you are going to be moving out on your own and/or attending college and they don't want you to make many mistakes with your life. All humans make mistakes and bad decisions, the important part is that you use these times as a learning experience.
My parents are no longer on this Earth, and I wish I could give them one more hug, or just talk to them every day. The world was actually a lot safer place when I was growing up, and they had a lot less to worry about than your parents do now. I am sure that the things that they are trying to make sure you understand are coming across as lectures because they want to make sure that you "get it."
The parent-child relationship is generally a difficult one, no matter what the age you are...in your parents heart you are still to be loved and protected. How happy would your Dad be if you just gave him a hug one day, instead of arguing or blocking out the "lectures".?
You could sit down with your parents and try to have a real adult talk with them and tell them that you know they are trying to protect you and prepare you, but they do not need to lecture you; just talk to you as an adult. You may actually began to think in a more adult manner, and they will relax just a bit which will be helpful for all. Best of luck to you and your family. Your parents will always be your best and closest allies, that is one of the strengths of family.
2007-01-28 09:29:31 · answer #3 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some families are not the touchy feely types.Making a person feel distant.It should help if you tell them you Love then and give out hugs once in a while.Hugs to you.
2007-01-28 09:06:21 · answer #4 · answered by thresher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see your family doctor and describe your feelings. ASAP!
It can't be good to feel that way!
Most of us are not qualified to know.
If it's depression it is treatable.
Good Luck ! Along with my prayers
2007-01-28 09:01:08 · answer #5 · answered by LucySD 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋