Do women actually want a gentleman?

Question

Of course they say they do.
Women say they want the kind, compassionate guy who listens to them and puts them on a pedastel. Yet it seems more often than not, women are drawn to guys who treat them like dirt.

Ladies, care to share some insight with a truly confused guy?

Answer 1

I don't even have to read the responses from women to get this one. This is so unfair. Women complain "double standard' when guys want to screw a bunch of girls but marry a virgin, and they are right to. But this is where many women have a double standard.

Many of them will sound like this: "We want to be treated like queens. Most women like bad boys and not clingy guys because there's lots of excitement. But when they wake up, women like nice guys."

Translation: after she's f*cked every greasy outlaw biker in town for 15 or 20 years and dropped a few of their kids out, *then* she wants a good guy to come along and be responsible and pay all the bills and raise another man's children.

You made your bed, now sleep in it. If you go for the bad boys and live the wild life and get burned by them and have all the ankle biters in tow, don't expect to be treated like any kind of queen except queen of the trailer trash.

You can almost see them holding up signs: "I'm done screwing every guy I've known for 2 hours on the front lawn of keggers. Now I want to 'settle down' with a nice guy who will get zero sex from me because 'those days are over' but he'll raise my kids and get me out of debt. Signed, Princess A s s Tattoo."

Answer 2

Yes and no. Guys sometimes take this gentlemen basis to a part that sometimes can get us sick and disgusted in many occasions. Even though is nice to have someone so kind and so active and caring about what it is you they may not know what are they doing. For example, there is some girls that don't like anyone paying for their food or things they buy because they consider this an insult or are to shy, some don't or are in between; this means that sometimes you should ask her what type of gentlemen or in what way should they like to be treated and flattered because sometimes is not the right way. And about the guys that treat girls like dirt, maybe is not the way it seems. Besides every girl under their skin desires a bad boy and there's nothing bad on having one!!! XD

Answer 3

I think that all women say it, but they don't really start meaning it until they get a little older and have experienced some things.

Naturally when you're young the exciting and fun thing is usually the bad boy. Young women love excitement and fun. Once you've been there and done that you realize there are things that you may want that bad boys can't or won't do.

I'm 28, I seriously have no desire to be with anyone that doesn't treat me with the respect and love I deserve. No bad boys for me!

Answer 4

Guess yes, because me as a girl i'd preferred a gentleman.
But some are in search of the cool ones, yes they prefer the ones who will listen to them. But most of the time they get tired of being treated like a baby.
Hey the guys which I think u think treat them like dirt are in the contrary what women take to be nice fellow, for a short time.
But if the question is of mariage then a gentleman will mostly fit all women.

Answer 5

You almost have it!

I think, and I'm not speaking for all women of course, but we like a MAN to come home to. I wouldn't want a sensitive wheepy whiney guy! Give me a tough, steak-eating man!! If someone breaks into my home in the middle of the night, I DON'T WANT TO HAVE TO GO SEE! Let my protector go! He's the man! haha!

On the other hand, we need to 'wear the pants' half the time. So women should do things like change the oil or tires on their own. I think all women should know that crap! I do! But a relationship has got to be a partnership too.

Answer 6

One problem with a "gentleman" is that he often wants a "lady"... and both of those can often be dreadfully phony and shallow positions to hold. :) Not all women SAY they want a gentleman or to be put on a pedastol... most of us just want respect, to be appreciated and loved. Kindness, compassion and strong listening skills are all good things, but they don't make the whole man, nor the whole relationship. Add to the mix an nice dose of Passion! Sometimes she wants to be swept off her feet. :)

Answer 7

They want a gentleman, but not a wimp who puts them on a pedestal. There's a difference.

There are also some women who will interpret decency as weakness, even though a man is strong and moral. They'll also interpret a phony like "the fonz" as being strong. Don't try compromise your principles - they're not all airheads.

Answer 8

Yes I can safely say that we do. But we dont want a push over that lets us treat them like dirt. Dont be a gentleman to the point of stiffling your own thoughts and feelings.Still be yourself. Being a gentleman dosent mean giving in to a womans every whim and desire. It about respecting us.

Answer 9

Only intelligent, mature women do honey!

What's wrong with Nice Guys? The biggest problem is that most Nice Guys (tm) are hideously insecure. They are so anxious to be liked and loved that they do things for other people to gain acceptance and attention, rather than for the simply pleasure of giving. You never know if a Nice Guy really likes you for who you are, or if he has glommed onto you out of desperation because you actually payed some kind of attention to him.

Maybe he's a NICE GUY!

They are so desperate to please that they put aside their own needs, and place the object of their desire on a pedestal. Instead of appreciating her, they worship her. We are only human, and pedestals are narrow, confining places to be -- not to mention the fact that we tend to fall off of them.

Answer 10

Women want a guy who will treat them like a princess. Initially women seem to be drawn into the bad boy image and persona, but in the end, they need and want somebody reliable, dependable, loving and respectful. I've gone through my share of assholes, and found the man of my dreams to whom I am happily engaged, and he is a gentleman. Don't go looking for love, love will find you. It's how it happened for me. Just remember that in the end the good guys will win. :)