On thursday my Mother-in-law began end of life care at a nursing home in a city about 150 miles away. My daughter is there visiting some friends, her mother is at the nursing home with the grandmother. My daughter told my wife by cell phone, that she came to visit her friends and that she didn't feel a need to see her grandmother even for a minute, this is her weekend off from work and she's going to enjoy it.
She's a pharmacy technician, 25 years old, and is hanging with some of her loser friends this weekend less than 2 blocks from the nursing home.
Is she wrong not to atleast come and say goodbye to her grandmother. I'd like to beat her a ss down when she gets home for showing such disrespect.
2007-01-28 00:48:06 · 4 answers · asked by michael_trussell 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Her brother flew in from the east coast over a thousand miles away to see his grandmother before she passes. She could go at any moment.
2007-01-28 00:49:01 · update #1
I am so sorry that your mum in law is near her end and I am even more sorry to read that your daughter, her grandchild is refusing to see her even knowing that she is dying and she is visiting friends nearby. There must be some very serious misgivings earlier in her youth to make her act like this.
2007-01-28 01:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by Sooty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter is acting selfish, so it seems. But maybe she is using this tactic to stay away from seeing her grandmother, because the prospect of losing her, scares her? This is only a suggestion, but I know some people aren't very good with the whole "goodbye" thing and prefer to remember things the way they were. Maybe you should ask your daughter if this is the case. If so, then try explain how important it is for her grandmother to see her now, and you understand it might be upsetting for her, but a sacrifice is called for.
If, on the other hand, this is not the case with your daughter and she really doesn't care and is being just plain selfish, then a good butt kicking might not be a bad thing. Good luck either way.
2007-01-28 01:15:20 · answer #2 · answered by salstick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How lots to cost her? Why might you cost her to do you a prefer? If she's keen and arranged to look after your toddler, she would be able to regularly do it for unfastened, inspite of the shown fact that it may well be considerate which you will furnish her a sprint money to cover the expenditures she would be able to incur (gasoline for her motor vehicle, any factors she'll prefer if she watches him in her very own residence). inspite of the shown fact that be sure you furnish to pay usual rates for childcare -- provide her the prospect to refuse you money incredibly than purely assuming that she'll do it for no longer something.
2016-11-01 12:07:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is there bad blood between your daughter and mother -law? I didn't talk to my moms parants for years because their selfish, controling, hateful SOB's. I only went to see him when he was onhis death bed only cause mom made me. If it's only cause she'e shelfish and doesn't want to lose out on her pary time time then tell her not to come home, she' no longer welcome.
2007-01-28 01:13:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋