here's the deal... we've been friends for like a year. Like 4 weeks ago, we were hanging by the pool with some other friends just like every other weekend, and all of a sudden she held my hand. We made out, spent time alone etc. ( just like any couple would do ). The problem is that i didnt really ask her to be my girlfried or anything so we're still basically "friends". So 2 weeks ago i had the courage enough to go ask her... she didnt know what to say. She said she'll think about it... just yesterday she came up to me and said, " Lsn, i really like u, more than friends, but im not not so sure about us being together... especially that you are leaving to university in 5months.. so lets just stay friends"
10 min later she came to me and said that she changed her mind!! At first i thought that it was great, but 2day i realized that she isnt that happy and that she doesnt really want to go through it...
What to i do? should i end it or wat?
2007-01-28 00:47:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This girls is just not ready for a relationship. She can't even make up her own mind. Just remain as friend and process to your study, this is more important. If you guys are mean to be together it will be at the end of the day. Good luck with your study. and all the best.
2007-01-28 00:54:37 · answer #1 · answered by blurblur 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really talk to her and tell her everything you're feeling because maybe this relation may not work, but is worth a shot. Love can be tricky and put many barriers in front but both can pass by them if you guys really love each other. Talking is the best way and finding out possible solutions because the fact that you're going to college doesn't mean you wont see her or speak to her in like 4 years. You can always come visit, call her in the phone, msn, letters, and many more; it's The 20th century... Good Luck and I hope that you guys stay together because I see you really love her and it isn't suppose to end this way; without even starting.
2007-01-28 00:57:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 02:27:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get letters from self-professed Nice Guys, complaining that women must WANT to be treated like ****, because THEY, the "Nice Guy" have failed repeatedly in relationships. This is akin to the false logic that "Whales are mammals. Whales live in the sea. Therefore, all mammals live in the sea.
Nice Guys go overboard. They bring roses to a "lets get together for coffee" date. They try to buy her affections with presents and fancy things. They think they know about romance, but their timing is all wrong, and they either come-on too strong, too hard and too fast, OR, they are so shy and unassertive, that they hang around pretending to be "friends", in the hope that somehow, someway, they will get the courage up to ask her out for a "date".
This ultimately boils down to the fact that Nice Guys don't like themselves. Is it any wonder women don't like them? In order to truly love someone else, you must first love yourself. Too often Nice Guys mistake obsession for "love".
Get this Guys: INSECURITY ISN'T SEXY. IT'S A TURNOFF.
You don't have to be an ego-inflated, arrogant jerk. You just have to LIKE yourself. You have to know what you want out of life, and go after it. Only then will you be attractive to the kind of woman with whom a long-term relationship is possible.
2007-01-28 00:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just not that into you.
Save both yourselves some time and stay friends. She's not sure, but WOMEN KNOW WHAT THEY WANT. If we like a guy, dammit we know! So she maybe a little hungry for you JUST cause you're leaving. If you've been friends for a whole year, WHAT TOOK SO LONG FOR HER TO SAY ANYTHING.
Again, she probably just wanted you cause we all want what's we can't have you know. Then she DID have you and said no???!
Just be friends, she sounds like a ditz anyways.
2007-01-28 00:56:09 · answer #5 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe shes afraid of what happens when you leave for the university. Have a talk with her to find out how she really feels and whats making her unhappy. Try reasoning with her.
But if it doesnt work out, dont force it, it'll only end in hurt.
good luck
2007-01-28 00:52:41 · answer #6 · answered by randall chua 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't end it. If you're leaving for school I could understand her being reluctant to commit to being with you exclusively. Just stay being friends with her. If you're not going to be around to be her steady boyfriend it might be unrealistic to ask her to remain exclusively your girlfriend. Maybe you can still see her when you are on breaks from school. Don't push her into making a decision just stay the way you are for now.
2007-01-28 00:53:36 · answer #7 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look man that girl is crazy and there is somthing fishy about it i'm not sure but she is not even sure about her feelings and she hesitats alot she changed her mind in 10 min for god sake...any way all u need to do is to talk it over with her seriously cause it's really annoying
2007-01-28 00:56:05 · answer #8 · answered by lucifiere 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋