she said she needed time. im dumped arent i?
2007-01-28 00:47:10 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its not a matter of you being dumped,but more of a matter if you choose that kind of behaviour
2007-01-28 02:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by meditation and mango juice 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
3 Weeks is a long time for someone that "needed time". If I had said that to my boyfriend, I probably would have opted for 1 week at most. Then I would have atleast called him and let him know where things stand.
You don't give a lot of background info so it is hard to advise you properly as to what may be going on. I don't know how long you dated or how serious it was.
Have you tried calling her? After 3 weeks especially, you have every right to do so. In fact, after 1 week you would be considered a true boyfriend to just have called an checked in on her. I understand you were probably just giving her space as she requested.
Try calling her, but at this point, don't expect much. She may not be ready for a relationship, or may feel that you deserve more. She could have had some past hurts that are unresolved, or she could just be torn in her feelings for you right now. At the very extreme, there could be someone else. Atleast do yourself the favor of calling her and just getting it all on the table. No sense in you sitting back and putting your life on hold for someone that just may not be ready for what you have to offer.
Good luck. I am sure it's hard.
2007-01-28 08:56:45 · answer #2 · answered by Singthing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily
I didn't get in touch with my bf for 2 weeks
for no particular reason .
But I don't get in touch with him every day
It's just Not my style.
And to ans future questions
Yes I do love him and am mad about him
I never asked for time.
If I needed time then I could go a month.
It depends of your gf
if she was/is the needy type who phoned you 100 times a day then yes your dumped
If shes an average girl who phoned you every day then possibly you are dumped
But if she is an independent woman with busy life and doesn't/didn't have her entire happiness invested in a phone call from you then no you might not be dumped.
Here's a thought why don't you phone her now after 3 weeks
you are obviously not pressuring her.
Just phone ask her how she is.
2007-01-29 08:35:52 · answer #3 · answered by ohcall mewhatyouwant 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
it looks like it my friend, but don't go looking for a new one yet, she might be in bed sick, and cant talk on her mobile fone yet, or she has found asomeone new and can't build up the strength of character to tell you yet, But what good would she be to enyone, if she can break your heart behind your back, Yeah ok, you're dumped, go find another, Bye Tony M
2007-01-28 10:12:52 · answer #4 · answered by tony m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the surrounding circumstances. If she hasn't recently experienced something traumatic or isn't going through a hard time [outside of you], work, school, family, etc. then I would say she's definitely over it.
If you want to be sure, call her up and make sure she's OK. If she is, then I'd say it's pretty much over. Good luck.
2007-01-28 08:56:10 · answer #5 · answered by my2cents4ya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be that she needs to think some things over.
Give her a bit more time for herself then call her and ask her what exactly is going on. It's best to hear it from her rather than jumping to conclusions.
2007-01-28 09:11:07 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES you're dumped, and if it took you this long to figure it out...any clues? In womanspeak "I need time" is the male equivalent to "let's just be friends"...it's a polite way of saying goodbye forever.
2007-01-28 08:52:30 · answer #7 · answered by anna 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my experience yes I would say so. This has happened to me but saying that they turned up at my door two months later expecting to be let back into my life with no communication at all guess what I said.
2007-01-28 09:04:16 · answer #8 · answered by charlotte e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oooh Yes
2007-01-28 08:55:46 · answer #9 · answered by miamivice666 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i hope not for your sake. She could be being honest and really just needs some time to figure out what she wants. But i think you are better off to believe that it is over and start moving on
2007-01-28 08:54:12 · answer #10 · answered by cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, sorry to say it does sound like it. Its a pity she didn’t have the courage to tell you to your face and maybe give you a reason.
Maybe this is for the best, then you can find someone who will adore you and treat you with the respect you deserve. Good luck!
2007-01-28 08:53:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋