how can i break up with my g/f ?

Question

after a relationship last of a year by now and i think she will not take it .. i tryed to tell her so many times but i just cant break her heart .. the reason thet i want to break up with her is that after a long time being with her i discoverd that she is not the one i always imagind my self with .. and i though that i love her but the true thing is that i dont love her .. i was lying on myself .. and i dont wanna her to live in this lie anymore .. !! help me guys .. what shall i do .. every time i c her ad be prepared to tell her i just cant say it .. need assist !
Thnx

Answer 1

Most women dislike being told something negative about themselves. So, saying that "she is not the one for me" and that "she is not the one I imagined myself with"may be why she "will not take it"
First, be honest. Most women will hurl themselves into a phase of overanalyzation after a break up, so not telling the truth wont help.
Be succinct, but not heartless. Consider telling her that the relationship has run its course, you have grown apart, and rather than stringing her along, you would rather end it now, because you care about her. ( the old, it's not you, its me but less stale)
When you tell her, have something to do afterward. Meet her somewhere neutral, and then have your friend meet you in 15-20 mins. Having a short period of time will not only give you the gut to tell her, but also not allow you to be drawn into any drama involving a break up. Having a friend meet you also gives you someone else to be responsible to for action.

Answer 2

Easy way: Let it die slowly, drift off, ever so slowly over the next year to seeing her less and less, until she ends it, or you decide no you want her forever.

Hard way, meet with her, not in a public place, because there will be screaming and crying. Tell her exactly what you just wrote.

Be prepared for anything.

I will say this:
Because you are willing to spare her feelings, you probably do love her. You might just be afraid of the commitment, or not ready to settle down. I feel like you're not giving the whole story.

Also, man, hey, man to man. It's hard to find a good woman. And love is not what you think it is right now. It's more mature. So if she has the good qualities of faithfulness, loyalty, and she loves you, hell, that's a good woman to have for life.

See if you can find what is best about her. Or, really she might be too good for you. If this is because you met someone else you want to bang, and you aren't telling that, you're just a dog.

To her, your relationship is not a lie. You're the one lying. So figure out why, after a year, you don't like her as much.

Relationships change. I had one like that, loved me to death, I broke up with her, because she had what I thought at the time was a big flaw.. I regretted it for ten years.

Answer 3

You need to be honest with her and accept the fact that she is going to get hurt by this. if you run her around in circles until you are both so weary that the truth finally comes out in an angry screaming match, believe me, the hurt will be much worse.

she's gonna get hurt, and then she's gonna get over it. that's the way it goes. but if you tell her why you are breaking up with her in a tactful way - sometimes it really just doesnt work out, and your personalities aren't a good match - then she will at least have a chance of learning something from the experience and looking back on her time with you, eventually, with something besides pain and anger at you. if you don't, you'll be a jerk to her forever. i know this from experience ;)
not wanting to break her heart is sweet, but misconcieved. you can't bear to break her heart because it hurts *you* to see. but think of *her* - like i said, she'll be hurt, but then she will get over it and be able to move on, a little stronger. the honest, tactful truth will be good for her.

Answer 4

I think you should just tell her how you feel. And just tell her everything dont keep anything from her. Its not going to be a nice scene, but if you really cared for her you'll end this relationship. Cause as it drags on longer and longer both of you will only feel more hurt when it ends eventually so do it asap and you may save a friendship. Do it later you may lose both.

Answer 5

leave her by myself for now...you deserve a real answer to why she broke up with you yet for now, back off. She seems to be attempting to allow you recognize that she needs some area, so provide her that area. as quickly as you're no longer round her, she'll comprehend that she misses you or atleast needs to end the courting with some closure i'm specific. solid success

Answer 6

You're going to have to tell her everything you said on here. Its going to hurt her feelings there's no way to avoid it but you can't go on living this lie. She'll get over it sooner or later. Be honest and tell her you don't want to hurt her, but you just don't have the same feelings for her you once did.

Answer 7

Just do it! She'll get over it. If she doesn't, then she'll show you her "bad" side and you'll be glad you did it in the first place.

If you JUST don't want to make her cry, do something that'd make her want to break it off with you. Like tell her you're gay or that you think she is. If worse comes to worse, you could just stick a couple of alka seltzers in your mouth and start barking at her like crazy. That'll make her bail pretty quick.

Good luck ;)

Answer 8

sounds like a real problem you got. I would say just work up your courage and let her know the truth, that it just isn't working out for you anymore and you guys just need to be friends...... let her down gently don't say things that will really hurt her. good luck i hope the best for you!!

Answer 9

Think long way not easy to found the true love give time for you

Answer 10

Write her a "Dear Jane" letter , put it in a card. After she gets over the intial shock , than you can talk about it.