It sounds stupid, egoistic, or whatever, but it's true. So, why?
2007-01-28 00:32:20 · 10 answers · asked by cmilja m 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
coming from personal experience, it's time for you to be honest with yourself. If you are indeed attracting all the "wrong men", then you are not concentrating on the right thing. For years I could not figure out what was wrong with me, because I attracted insenstive, controlling men. I finally had to take a hard look at myself and realized that I was uncomfortable with whoI was, I wasn't happy with me. That left me open and vulnerable to controlling men. I stopped myself from always having someone I was dating. I took time for myself, worked on some personal issues within myself, and realized why I wasn't happy with me. When I started making changes within myself, by myself, my friends changed, my dates changed. It wasn't until I was happy with me, that I found someone who was just as happy with me as I was. I have been married happily for 2 years now, and continue to work on issues within myself. When you start taking care of yourself first, then you will be happy with yourself. Your life will slowly start to turn around, and the men who are attracted to you will also change. I know that a lot of people think that taking care of yourself first is purely selfish, however, my theory is, if you can't take care of yourself, then how are you supposed to be able to take care of anyone else? Take some personal time for you, just because you're single and don't have a boyfriend, doesn't mean that you're worthless. It means you're strong enough and intelligent enough to know tht you have personal things to work on, and having an unsupporitve male in your life is only destructive to your self progress.
2007-01-28 00:49:15 · answer #1 · answered by mercymarie3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you finally figured out you have been attracting losers. Now why don't you sit down and look at yourself, and try to figure out what it is you are doing that attracts these loser types.
It could be because you may be acting worse than the losers you have attracted. Some men prefer to hook up with women who they consider to be of lesser quality. You might want to change the way you behave around men, and change location where you hook up with these losers. You have to do both, as you probably have a reputation that most all the men that know you have heard how you are.
My daughter use to attract nothing but losers. I finally got so tired of her whining about the way she was beeing used by guys, that i finally chewed her butt out and told her it's because she act's like she has to be just like them in order to attract a man.
So now she doesn't date very many guys, and she stopped screwing every guy that even remotely showed interest she upped her standards. Maybe you need to up your standards.
2007-01-28 00:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The wrong men are attracted to the way you act. If you act depressed and as though your ideas are stupid (like you did with this one) either ******* trying to victimize girls with low self esteem or guys who have absolutely no confidence will try to date you.
Next time you go out dress nice, act as though you have some self confidence and deserve a great guy, and eventually you will become used to doing that and it will come true. (Guys are attracted to women with confidence. The guys you don't want are attracted to those without it so just fake it until it becomes natural.)
2007-01-28 00:39:47 · answer #3 · answered by Jenine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm ... I have read some psychology books but it appears that most people look for spouse to subconciously re-create their environment in which they are 'comfortable' i.e. your environment in which u were brought up where you relate to people whom you live with or are close to you that has a impact over you, they call it co-dependencies. Might be that you want to re-examine your lifestyle. That's why you always hear people saying, i would not marry someone who is like this and that and end up being with the exact person. :P
2007-01-28 00:42:44 · answer #4 · answered by littlepurplebugz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever it is you do,wherever you hang,what kind of people you hang with will usually determine the men in your life.If these men all seem to be the same just different packaging,then change all the things you are doing and you will see change.The same actions and choices will always bring the same results.
2007-01-28 00:39:26 · answer #5 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your instincts, time will teach you what`s right or wrong for you.
2007-01-28 00:50:49 · answer #6 · answered by jamesanderson22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because your a girl and you think we're always wrong.
2007-01-28 00:39:03 · answer #7 · answered by Litldragon67 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wrong? you sure? Look an answer in yourself...
2007-01-28 00:39:16 · answer #8 · answered by simplegirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wrong men as in,smokers,dope people and etc.maybey ur sexy or something lolz
2007-01-28 00:37:21 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your fate...
2007-01-28 00:34:56 · answer #10 · answered by teen 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋