why does it happen with me only????

Question

Theres a guy I love a lot!! hes my best friend and we chat everyday
but he likes some1 else. and I feel very hurt whenever he tells me about her.
what shud I do? tell him? or will he avoid me after I tell him?
I'm damn confused! plz. help.....

Answer 1

Talk to him honest... At least you will escape the pain of his talks about her... but.... perhaps you will lose conversations to him... your choice... good luck

Answer 2

I think you should tell him how you feel. Make sure you let him know that he is your best friend and that you do not want that to change. But you also need to let him know that you love him and that it hurts you when he talks about this other girl. If he loves you even as a friend he will listen and he will do whatever it takes to keep from hurting you. This does not mean he is in love with you. That only he can tell you, but if he loves you at all he will not walk away from you. He might not talk to you or see you for a little while but that could just mean he never considered that you would love him and he has to examine his feelings. Let him have the space and be patient. But above all else, be prepared to lose him. I would like to be able to tell you that you won't but honestly it is a possibility that you must take into consideration. Either way you are taking a risk. Is this risk worth it to you in order to stop the pain and win all or lose all? Only you can answer that. I will tell you that I took this same risk and have been happily married to my best friend for years.

Answer 3

He may avoid you after you tell him. If you are really close friends though he may just be flattered but turn you down. I think if he did like you back he probably would have tried to make some moves by now. Telling him may change his view of you. The question is if you are willing to risk the friendship for something more? It really depends on his maturity and how he will take it.

Asking him to not talk about her is hurtful, but you wouldn't be a good friend if you didn't let him share his happiness with you. Good luck!

Answer 4

Well, that could be heartbreaking, and this situation hasn't happened only to you, so don't feel left out. Friendship can be a beautiful thing, and having a guy for a best friend can be great! Yes, I am sure it does hurt when he talks about her, but he feels he can talk to you about her because YOU ARE friends. Try to take your heart out of it for awhile and see how you feel. If the feelings are still strong, and he hasn't yet pursued her, then maybe it's time to let him know how you feel, but once you do, don't be hurt if he tells you that he doesn't like you in that way. Or, it could be a good thing, but in life if we don't take chances, then we will never know. Keep your chin up!

Answer 5

I wonder what would happen if you started talking about a guy YOU like - maybe you could pick a really cute and popular guy and try it out to see what he does...

Or make it like a joke and don't be attached to what he says.

Say something like - you know - we are such great friends - we will probably get together when we are .... whatever age....

You have to get in there and be confident - don't worry about what he does. BE SASSY! Hang out with another guy and see what he does - he might start seeing you differently - then you will know. If he doesn't have YOU to talk to about this girl - then whatever will he do???

Whenever you feel hurt - that is the time to start being sassy. Boys love sassy. They might not LIKE sassy - but they LOVE sassy. It shows confidence.

Answer 6

Tough one.
Be true to yourself is the best thing you can do.
you say you LOVE him so take the chance
Otherwise you will always wonder the what if's
and thats no way to live

But know only he will be able to know the result of what such a declaration would lead with your friendship.

When I think of love, I think of NEED to be with this person.
DO ANYTHING FOR THEM
And if you are ready to do that, then he deserves to know that.

And after you profess your Love for him, let him know if he doesnt feel the same way, then you value his friendship so much that you needed to tell him, but you always will be there for him

Thats the honest answer for both of you
Then let fate decide
Good luck
may the best woman get the man

Answer 7

In my opinion you should tell him how you feel about him, but dont go all emo and start bawling if the answer isnt what you expect. Maintain your composure in front of him no matter what. Dont make him start avoiding you by creating a fuss about it. I know its hard but if you want to keep the friendship. That'll be the way to go.

Answer 8

LOL -

I married my first wife this way.
I used to always talk to her about an old girlfriend that I really liked. and then one day the old gf was having a party I really wanted to go - but not alone, so I explained the situation to the other girl and asked her if she woudl join me at the party just so I woudl not go alone.

we went. had a good time.
went out a few more times
got married.

neat, huh?

problem is we also got divorced.
so we never really built a proper foundation.

talk to the guy - tell me you like him but the other girl has to go. you or her!!

Answer 9

You might tell him how you feel. He may reject you simply because he's in a relationship. On the otherhand he may want to get to know you better. He may then start to avoid chatting with you but in anycase you should talk to him. Good Luck.

Answer 10

Tell him right away. Hiding your feelings can hurt a friendship. Now, have you made up your mind if you wish to keep this guy as a friend or do you want him for yourself? This you must decide!

Answer 11

tell him, you'll never know unless you do, maybe you can get him before him and the other girl get to involved, and if he is your best friend you can talk it out if it doesn't work out, but at least you'll have closer if it don't and can move on, or best case scenario he feels the same way and he's scared to tell you. take it from another guy, if you don't make the 1st move he probably won't.