I just want to know if I'm the only one who has done this. My grandmother's 75th birthday was Friday. Our whole family got together to have her a suprise party. Well, I had to work all weekend so I allowed my mother to take my children. This is the first time my grandmother has seen my youngest, who is nearly two years old. I trust my mom with my children, even if she can be a pain in the butt sometimes. What would you have done in this situation?
2007-01-28 00:27:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It depends how "out of the state" you are talking; a 20 min ride across the border or a 2-3 hour ride to the next state over? Is the who takes them capable and knows how to handle children? Also, depends on the age of all the children and the trust you have in the person taking them, etc. (Just because some one is related doesn't always mean they are trustworthy.) YOU have to be the judge of that, based on personal experiences, past history, and mother's instinct.
The younger the child the less further away I personally feel comfortable with, but that's just me. My older daughter frequently takes 1 1/2 hr next-state-over trips to sleep over her aunts house (my sisters). I feel very comfortable with that, but I would not let her go with a couple other family members. My younger son I personally feel is a handful just for me to take care of, so until he's older I feel more comfortable going with him.
With a grandmother's 75th birthday it sounds like a lot of relatives would have been there. What a joy it must have been for your grandmother to see her great-grandchildren! That was a very nice thing to allow your mom to take the kids and be part of the family. The only thing I would worry about is making sure the smaller children don't get overlooked in the natural chaos of a family party, making sure they eat and get thier diaper changed etc. as needed. (Let's face it - usually the child's mom is the most tuned-in to thier child's needs).
When work or other situations keep you out of the picture just make sure you feel 100% comfortable with your child's caretaker- no matter if they are just 5 minutes away or two states over - after all they are your children.
2007-01-28 00:59:55 · answer #1 · answered by icecreamrules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my daughter has been traveling out of the state without me a lot. I am deployed to Iraq, so my mother takes my daughter everywhere with her and I completely trust her. I don't see what the issue is here, if you trust your mother and I'm pretty sure it made your grandmother's day to see your youngest child, you're not an unfit parent. It's okay.
2007-01-28 01:19:58 · answer #2 · answered by Cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandparents used to come and pick me up and take me to their house 1000 miles away every summer from the time I was 4 until I was 15. When I was 16, my mom actually put me on a Greyhound and sent me to them by myself. (Okay, she felt bad about the bus, but I was routing through Milwaukee, Chicago and St. Louis to get there.)
If you trust your mom with your kids, there's really no reason you should feel about having done this.
2007-01-28 00:35:27 · answer #3 · answered by desiderio 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. If your mother is like mine and like most, she is the one person in the world next to you and the children's father who loves them beyond measure and would do everything possible to protect them. You obviously trust her, so there is no reason not to let her take them. Good for you letting your kids have the experience of their great-grandmother's birthday even if you couldn't go yourself. Brava, Mama!
2007-01-28 02:37:08 · answer #4 · answered by C C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It feels such as you're a splash hesitant and that's ok. in case you do not experience your mom and dad ought to handle the toddlers or your toddlers ought to handle being away, then now's not the suited time. perhaps in yet another 12 months. If it grew to become into basically the eating, then have your mom and dad promise they gained't do any of that as quickly as they have the toddlers. in case you won't be able to have confidence your mom and dad to maintain a promise and respecting your desires on what your toddlers could be uncovered to, then do not enable your mom and dad take them!
2016-12-17 04:24:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if thay are all right with your mom and you a comfortable with them with her relax enjoy some alone time god only knows when you will get it again i have 4 children ages 4 to 10 my mother inlaw has taken them to disney world for a week by the end of the week i was ready for them to come home but it was nice to do things with out them i got to un stress my self
2007-01-28 00:36:42 · answer #6 · answered by christina g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my mind i couldn't let my 2 year old go out of state without me even if he was with family... But if it was me and my mother was in good shape i still wouldn't let my baby go because of my mothers age and the baby needs alot of care and my mother might not be able to give him all of the care he/she needs
2007-01-28 03:40:47 · answer #7 · answered by KIKI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not like you're sending your 2 year old with the neighbors. This is the woman who seemed to raise a fully functioning, compasionate, hardworking adult as yourself. So, I think she can handle it.
If it were my mom or even my mother-in-law; I'd be cool with it.
2007-01-28 01:54:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both my kids have been out of state several times with other people. As long as the person is trustworthy, I dont see the issue.
2007-01-28 01:22:38 · answer #9 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child can always travel without you if he/she is with areliable adult.After the child is 6-7 years old he/she can travel alone between states if there is someone to lead him/her to the plane(train) and someone else to meet him/her.After the child is 10 years old he/she can travel between states without people who lead and meet him/her.
2007-01-28 00:40:21 · answer #10 · answered by Livia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋