Hi there not sure which place to put this particular topic but i am dating a wonderful man and he is in london i am in lincs, we have talked about him moving here which was originally ok but tables turned now i think he would like me to move there, also his friends have mentioned about it to me, now i have 2 children and think its a massive step especially to london! busyness! and commuting etc and kids ..... dont know what to do at all!!! scared in a nutshell.
2007-01-28 00:03:24 · 6 answers · asked by thegoodnightlady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all I don't think you can go on heresay. You say he is wonderful so there should be no reason in he world you cannot sit down and talk about it. You may find he is still willing to move up to you. Also providing the relationship has been going on awhile and is secure you may need to weigh up some other things. Will he be the breadwinner? If so what are the opportunities for him in Lincolnshire? Do you have a career? Depending on ages of children how will it effect them? How do your children feel about this person? How does he feel about taking on your children? Just some of numerous questions you will need to ask between you before anything is set in stone.
2007-01-28 00:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one big step in life. If its only him to move then I don't see why he cant move up to you and see how things go. You are the one who would have to up root your children. I would talk to him and tell him your concerns about moving. Not sure how long you have been dating but if he really wanted to be with you and the children he would move to be with you and then get a bit more serious about each other and once you know its going to work move back down to London as a family. This is one of the hardest things to do in life.
Good luck and i hope you find happiness with your partner.
2007-01-28 01:13:37 · answer #2 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 19 I moved from Devon to live with my bf in Essex, he wouldn't move to Devon as he had a well paid job in London. It was a huge step but one I thought I might regret if I didn't take. 2 years later we both moved to Devon with our 6 month old daughter. see, things can work out, they did for me you just have to give it a try. Talk to your kids and explain to them that there may be a small chance you might move back if things don't work out. If you do move make friends as fast as you can, i didn't and really struggled and get to know your area too. best of luck x
2007-01-28 02:05:00 · answer #3 · answered by suckaslug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with your heart, if it dosent work out you can always come back. make sure you explain it through with the kids, if they are happy then go, just think if you dont try it will you spend the rest of you life regretting it??? plus depends on how long you have been in a relationship with him? my partner has just moved down south we have a four yr old daughter, i cant go with him yet i have a 16 yr old who dosent want to go, i am going in Dec, and yes i am scared in case it dosent work out, we have been together 7 years, i am in a mess at the moment its all i can think about. but i love him and our daughter misses him so much, and i will go, no matter how hard i find it to do it,,, good luck x
2007-01-28 01:42:14 · answer #4 · answered by ann_jacques 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends how long you've known this guy, if its less than a year i would not uproot 2 kids and move in with him. if he has no kids it would be easier for him to move.
give the relationship time and if its still working out then condsider it.
2007-01-28 00:26:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta do what you think is right for you and you alone.
2007-01-31 21:10:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋