I 'm a gay christian (saved) and wondering if you think god disapproves of my boyfriend b/c he's an atheist?

Question

I know that we as christians are supposed to share our lives with those of the same faith, but I really really love this man and I don't think I should allow his atheistic outlook on life hamper my feelings for him. Do advise!!!

Answer 1

You should not be unequally yolked, as a Christian you would know this...
As for the rest, I'm not going to comment. I'm really, really tired of answering the "gay/sin" question.

Answer 2

I'm an atheist and some of the homophobic answers to your perfectly reasonable question make me very glad of this.

I'm not answering your question, but clarifying some other peoples' answers.

They claim that you can't be gay and a christian. This is nonsense. There are gay priests (Catholic and Protestant). Heck, there are peadophile priests that are protected by the Vatican...

Over the last few days there has been a lot of debate in the UK about homosexuality and adoption. And in defending its stance the Catholic church pointed out that they employ a lot of homosexuals and have no problem with them (they just felt they weren't suitable as adoptive parents because they follow the bible's family unit definition of a man and a woman. Except they don't follow that and also accept single men and women. Including homosexuals. Which left the question of what it was they were arguing...)

There are a lot of homophobic people around. And they are especially prominent amongst religious groups simply because they feel they have a sacred text they can use as justification. Funny how they tend to selectively read this book.

Answer 3

Your first priority is to your soul and your persona relationship with God. Being "equally yoked" helps grow/strengthen our faith. Religion is a fundamental difference and it will cause conflicts sooner or later. There are, of course, exceptions. Couples can (and do) have vastly separate interests and it gives them an identity outside the relationship. Be very sure his outlook will not hamper your own spiritual development and growth.

With all due respect, is it possible you posted this question to incite some of our less forgiving and merciless brothers and sisters? Why didn't you post this question on the gay, lesbians, trans site? I think you would have gotten more useful answers there. I wonder if you are not a "troll".

Sadly, your question has brought out the worst of us.

The only sin God cannot forgive is unbelief. Pray for this man you love and be an example to him, but realize your lifestyle is a sin.....as is my gluttony, some-one elses pre-marital, extra-marital sex, drug use, cheating on your taxes and many other things.

best wishes.
Love in Christ

Answer 4

Thanks to my pal Pangel for highlighting some of the horrifying answers to this question.

Be yourself and trust in your god. If you are saved, you can be a light in the world, and having found a man you love will only fan that light of wonder within you. If he is an atheist, it's possible that you have come into his life to show him the example of your love and of your faith. Perhaps not to convert him, but to show him what a Christian can be and do. Hold fast to love, and to your god - no matter what some people tell you, they are not mutually exclusive. Be blessed and loved and live your faithful life. Your god will love you still.

Answer 5

1 Cor 6v.9 Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders

because u are saved you are a new creation, the old has gone and the new has come. (2 cor 5v.17)

well my advise is for u to leave Him because the love you have for this person isn't actually love but a soul tie where your emotions are tied to his. if you really want to have your life dealt with by God...approach a christian counsellor for church leader for follow up. Surrender your whole life to Christ n renounce homosexuality, God will heal you and you will experience His perfect love which drives out all fear n covers a multitude of sins. God will restore your emotional health but i regret to say that there be sexual intercourse in the past...there may be the consequences of sin but you can face it with hope because of this new outlook on true love.

Answer 6

before everything, while you're approximately to get carry of CPR, you're subconscious how do you comprehend the perception of the guy administering CPR? Secondly, God allowed pastime to wade by way of those calamities, he did no longer deliver the concerns to pastime, devil did. God makes use of all kind of issues to bless His babies. Ever discover money on the floor? it incredibly is God somebody ever do some thing without notice to bless you? that's God. God makes use of the worry-unfastened, and the standard, and not continually the mind-blowing, to bless, and to instruct you He cares. enable's settle for it if every time the Lord helped you out, if it became on a grand scale; you would be able to desire to no longer look after it.The mega-adventure might weigh down you. If He called out to you , His majestic voice on my own would desire to furnish you a heart attack !!Moses observed the lower back of God in a shadow,and his face became consistently replaced. So God makes use of the standard to help you out, yet we as people, the self-based fleshly creatures that we can be, grow to be conceited, and self-absorbed; and fail to recollect that we can do no longer something without God. we can't by utilising ourselves do one element, and we've the audacity to have faith that we are better than the author.We have been created to worship God. God is God all by utilising Himself. we are the advent, we at the instant are not equivalent to the author.And our disrespect places us in risky territory.that's previous time for us to repent.

Answer 7

I am a follower of Christ and ... YOU ARE LOVED!
And YES ... anyone can be saved ... even homosexuals!!! You are correct.

My best friend in the whole wide world is a homosexual. I DARE anyone to try to harm him in ANY WAY, SHAPE, or FORM! He is like my brother, we even call one another family. And when people say I am sinning to love a gay guy? I ask them, "Oh, so it is wrong for him to be gay, but it is right for you to judge him and all"? I guess the oddest thing is, he is black too! And I am so white I look like a snow flake in Winter sitting beside him. I've noticed people don't yack about that, they only want to bash him cause he's gay. Oh the times ... they are a changin. Eh?

It is SO SAD that many people who say they are followers of God, end up not possessing the Love of God. My friend knows I don't think his lifestyle is right according to my beliefs, but we love one another anyway. I don't have to love his lifestyle choices to love him! That my dear sweet friend is where most believers err. They think that they are to hate the person, and to beat them over the head with what they believe. Actually the Bible says to hate the sin but not the sinner, for if we do we then are found in sin.

I want to SHARE with you what I believe, I am NOT pushing it on you. However I would like to be your friend, and to be friends you must know what one another believe, get past that, and then simply love one another. Amen?

I do believe homosexuality is a sin, I believe that if God condoned it He'd have not destroyed Sodom & Gomorrah. I also believe had He ordained men to have sex with men & women with women, He'd have made it so that they could also bare children together from intercorse. I do believe that if you are found unrepentant in this sin when you die or Christ returns, you will not be admitted entry into Heaven. But I ALSO KNOW that you CAN be saved if you are gay, however being a gay Christian you are then in a backslidden state according to the Bible. EVEN CHRISTIANS sin and backslide, but you don't hear them telling themselves they are going to hell, do not pass go, do not collect two hundred dollars! In God's eyes we are no color, creed, nationality, or sexual preference, we are His children and He loves us, and He is MARRIED to the backslider, the Word says. This means He is with the backslider, but their sin quenches His Spirit in them, and it slowly ebbs it out in other words.
OKAY ... that is my 2 cents. If you'd like you can email me yours too, then we can become friends. You can NEVER have too many friends you know? I hope I didn't offend you, that is not my intention here at all.

Have a wonderful day sweetie, knowing that not all of us are so judgemental. I am NOT being judgemental in my sharing of my beliefs, I am merely being open & honest with you, for without that there can be no true friendship. As followers of Christ we are to judge with a righteous judgement, thus I judge the sin against the Bible, BUT ... not the person.

Have an AWESOME Day!!!
Blessings & Peace be with you,
Jewel

Answer 8

As a christian you should understand god's desire for us to teach his love to those without faith.... Each of us has our beliefs or lack of, which many times derives from past experiences. I would ask you boyfriend in a non-argumentative way how he came to be a non-believer. You may find his feelings stem frompast treatment from "CIVILIZED" Christians lol.....I applaued your effort in seeking opinion as Most of it will be hard to swallow....just remember idiots outnumber homosexuals show your boyfriend faith and love and do not make the mistake of misguided judgement for his lack of belief....

Answer 9

The first and greatest commandment... Love the Lord your God with all your heart, mind, soul and strength. The second... Love your neighbor as yourself.

We as Christians seem way too quick to judge others and so "self-righteous" but does God love your boyfriend as much as He loves you? YES! Extend to your boyfriend the love that God has... unconditional... not so much because of what he is to you as much as who he is to God. Does that make sense?

One word of caution.. you mention "feelings"... feelings can come and go, but the choice to love can be a commitment that surpasses feelings.

My own struggle... when have my own efforts been enough? Would God give up on me? Why should I ever give up on someone else?

Answer 10

Many people call themselves Christians. But most of them are just with their name, as in your case. I'm sorry to say that. If you'd truly love God you'd obey his laws. Yes, God loves his children but the Bible says that there will be a destruction of the unrighteous.

Our Creator Sets the Standard

Our Creator established rules governing marriage long before governments began regulating the institution. The opening book of the Bible tells us: “A man will leave his father and his mother and he must stick to his wife and they must become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24) The Hebrew word “wife,” according to Vine’s Expository Dictionary of Biblical Words, “connotes one who is a female human being.” Jesus confirmed that those yoked together in marriage should be “male and female.”—Matthew 19:4.

Thus, God intended marriage to be a permanent and an intimate bond between a man and a woman. Men and women are designed to complement each other so they may be capable of satisfying each other’s emotional, spiritual, and sexual needs and desires.

The well-known Biblical account of Sodom and Gomorrah reveals God’s feelings about homosexuality. God declared: “The cry of complaint about Sodom and Gomorrah, yes, it is loud, and their sin, yes, it is very heavy.” (Genesis 18:20) The extent of their sinful depravity at that time was apparent when two guests visited the righteous man Lot. “The men of Sodom . . . surrounded the house, from boy to old man, all the people in one mob. And they kept calling out to Lot and saying to him: ‘Where are the men who came in to you tonight? Bring them out to us that we may have intercourse with them.’” (Genesis 19:4, 5) The Bible says: “The men of Sodom were bad and were gross sinners against Jehovah.”—Genesis 13:13.

The men became “violently inflamed in their lust toward one another, males with males.” (Romans 1:27) They had “gone out after flesh for unnatural use.” (Jude 7) In countries where homosexual rights campaigns are pervasive, some may object to using the word “unnatural” to describe homosexual behavior. However, is not God the final arbiter when it comes to nature? He commanded his ancient people: “You must not lie down with a male the same as you lie down with a woman. It is a detestable thing.”— Leviticus 18:22.

Your Accountability to God

The Bible is clear: God does not approve of or condone homosexual practices. He also disapproves of people who “consent with those practicing them.” (Romans 1:32) And “marriage” cannot give homosexuality a cloak of respectability. God’s direction that “marriage be honorable among all” precludes homosexual unions, which he considers detestable.—Hebrews 13:4.

Still, with God’s help, anyone can learn to “abstain from fornication,” which includes homosexual acts, and “get possession of his own vessel in sanctification and honor.”(1 Thessalonians 4:3, 4) Admittedly, this is not always easy. Nathan#, who formerly pursued a homosexual life-style, said: “I thought I could never stop.” But he did change with help from “the spirit of our God.”(1 Corinthians 6:11) As Nathan discovered, no problem is too big for Jehovah, who can provide the strength and help needed to meet His standards and receive His blessings.—Psalm 46:1.

Answer 11

Remember 1 John 4 : 16 'God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God and God in him'.
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