I feel I'm calling my bf quite a bit, to the point where he's probably thinking that I'll always be there. Do you think this statement is correct and if so, how can I stop him from taking me for granted?....
2007-01-28 00:01:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I only call him every 3 days!
2007-01-28 00:12:16 · update #1
I know it's hard, but please don't call him. If he really wants you, he will call, if he doesn't, forget about him, he will just use you, believe me. If you don't hear from him he will only hurt you. Move on and find someone who you don't have to worry about, you will know he wants you and you will be much happier. Good luck.
2007-01-28 00:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by chez006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you call your boyfriend so much? He probably thinks you're kinda psycho and makes fun of you about it with his friends, but he would never admit that. Anyhoo, the logical answer would be don't call him, if that's what he's taking you for granted about. Of course he'll end up calling you, that is if he cares. If he doesn't call you after the first day and you usually call him a lot, then he's probably happy he got away from you and your annoying calls. But basically, if you break it all down, you're trippin cause you feel like he's not calling YOU enough. I think my prescription for you would be to stay away from the phone for a loooonnnnng time.
2007-01-28 00:15:32 · answer #2 · answered by maya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you - if you are feeling this way, is probably because you are.
I usually only call the guy if he calls me first - to return his phone call.
Also - don't call him back right away.
Guys like to be the pursuers and like to miss you. If you are in their space too much that is when they start to take you for granted. Or they feel you are obsessed and they get turned off.
Get busy with your life, but don't just disappear - call him when you are on your way to something so you have to get off the phone with him after a few minutes. Have interesting things to talk about when you do talk to him, but then buh-bye I gotta go.
I bet you will find that he is calling you a lot more trying to track you down more often and WANTING to spend time with you.
2007-01-28 00:10:18 · answer #3 · answered by beach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're calling him too much and that will only lead to him taking you for granted even more, and in more ways. Lay off the calls so he won't think you can't live without him, but don't stop calling altogether. .
2007-01-28 00:15:14 · answer #4 · answered by J T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever you do, don't stop calling all of a sudden, cuz then he might worry that you don't care anymore.
back off a little, let him call you, but don't go more than 3 days without you calling him.
sometime ask him if he can give you a call when he gets home or something, don't straight up ASK him to call you, have a reason behind it, but give him the chance to call you to see if he is still interested.
2007-01-28 00:05:21 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seem appreciative of him, and his good qualities, without seeming needy, or making him feel like you're smothering him...always checking up on him, etc.
Show your independence, and your ability to be on your own, while also showing, when you're with him, that you enjoy the time together with him as well!
2007-01-28 00:06:29 · answer #6 · answered by sacanda_trina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your own advice - don,t ring him!
When he contacts you and asks why you havn,t rang
him just tell him you don,t want to be a bunny boiler!
Really, it,s only a problem if you make it one. If you
feel taken for granted tell him.
2007-01-28 00:06:21 · answer #7 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for one thing, play the waiting game. don't always be so available, how can he respect you if your so needy. stop calling him so much. sure he thinks he can have you anytime...be strong, not stupid....i know easier said then done, but your doing it for YOU
2007-01-28 00:09:48 · answer #8 · answered by brown eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just call if you feel like calling. If you don't feel like calling don't call.
2007-01-28 00:05:07 · answer #9 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...you have too much time on your hands....try living life instead of trying to make things happen....if he seems like he is taking you forgranted then talk to him.....otherwise, just let it be....
2007-01-28 00:07:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋