they pick on me alot and they say you dont have brains your not gona get enywhere they hardly let me ever stay at pelopes places and eveytime doing somthing they wana no what it is i hate it and they wana know who friends and all that. they ruin my life. no wonder im not verry soical able. i want my own life it dosent seem that i can a life its like stalker parents i dont no what two do plz help?
2007-01-27 23:35:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try ignoring them and...try to do the things you consider best for you...don't mind them too much...you have got 1 life, don't waste it on their bad opinions...or maybe they just want what's best for you and they don't have other ways to show you what would be right for you in their opinion.
2007-01-27 23:41:14 · answer #1 · answered by teen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you now Goth Girl? We have a saying here in the Philippines that goes this way, "Kung ano ang puno, ay siya ring bunga." In English, "A mango tree would always bear a mango fruit." The next time anyone in your family calls you brainless, tell them in a mild manner and subdued voice, that you are a family anyone from your family would not be that different from each other. Or yet tell them a Mango tree will not bear any other kind of fruit, but Mango no matter what. But the best thing for you to do is just, to go about learning what you should. And use it when the time comes.
2007-01-28 00:05:55 · answer #2 · answered by Happyman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.K.First you don't hate your family and they don't hate you.Second you're going through what every child and every set of parents go through which is a lack of understanding on both sides:a lack of communication on both sides and a lack of appreciation on both sides.
You've got to understand that Goth is completely alien to them just as they seem from another planet to you.
The key is for you to show them that despite your weird (to them) form of dress,your weird (to them) friends you are responsible and mature.To be treated as an adult you must first behave like one.To be credited with maturity demands maturity in the first place.This doesn't mean you can't be yourself and have your own set of friends.
OK-lecture over.It is wrong of your parents to say you've no brains.Parents have a responsibility too and included in this is the responsibility to build up their child's confidence and self belief.
Other contributors to this site are saying "Don't worry-you'll soon be old enough to walk out and do your own thing".
That is true but it also implies a breakdown of a relationship between you and your family.They don't want that,I'm sure and neither do you if you are really honest with yourself.
You can have fun but the old adage always is a useful one.
-With extra privilege comes extra responsibility-
Show you parents the latter and they'll give you the former
2007-01-28 00:12:36 · answer #3 · answered by bearbrain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate is a very strong word. So your the different one in your family and it's good to be, your a little more independent than they know, but they are just trying to look out for you. Your family love you, they are shown interest in your life even if you don't want them to. All family say mean things to each other and do mean things, you just have to try and forgive and love them. Family is unconditional love. I know sometimes we get really ticked off with them and I'm sure they feel that way about us sometimes too.
Just think of all the good times you have had with them and the things they do for you and help you with. They mean well in their own special way.
Hope this gives you a different view.
2007-01-27 23:50:47 · answer #4 · answered by MJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey i'm in the same boat as you...I'm in college and well I live with my momma still b/c I didnt want to dorm, incase I got stuck with someone I wouldnt be able to get along with and also I rather be home than staying at school 24/7...anyway when I go out with my friends, I have to write down all of my friends phone numbers for my mom...and then if shes never met them b4 or can't remember them they have to come into my house and introduce themselves or re-introduce themselves and then I'm allowed to go, but I have to call and check in like every hour or else she'll call me...
I'd suggest telling your parents how you feel...dont be to harsh or rude about it...just say "hey, mom and dad I'm not a baby anymore...I dont stick pennies up my nose...I go to school...I have friends now, I need to grow up...and go out into the real world and learn about myself...but I can't do this unless you trust me enough to let me go...and try new things...without worrying about me"...something like that...but make sure you tell them that you love them and you will always be there baby...stuff like that is reassuring....GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-27 23:45:49 · answer #5 · answered by icingonthekake99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some times a family will do things like be all up in your business but they do love you they are only doing these things to help you under stand what it is like out in the real world I don't understand why they are telling you that you have no brains that's when you need to go to your room or out side cool down tell your self I'm going to be somebody some day . I'm going to tell you this and I hope that you remember this .....When we are younger we fight with our parents all the time but when we get older we fight like hell to keep them . they are only looking out for you making sure that you are okay try and talk let them know that there hurting your feelings Good luck God bless you and yours
2007-01-27 23:57:55 · answer #6 · answered by Libra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goth, sweety, don't let em get you down...I WAS just like you, they called me stupid, I write now from my big fat condo on the water that is paid for...whos stupid now?
Just do your own thing and don't look to them for your confidence cause it does not sound like it will come from them.
I am pretty sure that their comments come from love, beleive it or not, parents are like that when they are worried, really, I am sure they love you and don't want you to mess up that is all, but they don't understand how much it hurts to always be "the loser"...if you can sit down with them and have a calm and sane conversation , telling them that it hurts you maybe they will listen...good luck to you, remember the only opinion that matters about you is yours...keep your chin up...
2007-01-27 23:44:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you live in your parents house, you play by the rules and if you are of age, move out. Your parents just want the best for you and are trying to teach you something!
2007-01-27 23:46:17 · answer #8 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
poor u....u know there are 2 solution...
first to be easygoing to ignore their words completely,,,make their words free to air
second if they all say that u have to discover the real reason of that words...
third(i said 2 only..coz u dont have to follow this solution)...u can be adapted with their stupid words
2007-01-27 23:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a job? Are you old enough to make it on your own? If not such it up and Soldier on pilgrim...
2007-01-27 23:43:19 · answer #10 · answered by Wat Da Hell 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋