My mother is an alcoholic, and has gone to jail so many times that i've stopped counting. Living with her is living hell. I live 3-4 days a week with my boyfriend and his family, which is great.(we dont have sex i have to much respect for his parents). i dont want to put up with my mothers crap anymore and i want to live witth the family that cares. how do i go about properly doing this, and better yet... telling the wicked witch of the west, ie;my mother.
2007-01-27 22:40:49 · 12 answers · asked by tylrbee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Go to court to become an emacipated minor.
2007-01-27 22:43:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you did not give an age, it varies. I'm assuming you are not of legal adult age in your state. If you are, just move out.
Go to a court, and ask the court clerk about getting emancipated from your parent. Certain states have a certain age you have to be.
If you cannot get a court to order emancipation, and you are under age, you could be arrested for being a runaway.
It might take some money, or it might be some kind of filing fee.
You might want to see a lawyer.
Start looking for a job, too if you are not in school. Once you make this decision, you'll be living an adult life, no going back.
I did more or less the same thing, by joining the Military at age 18.
I didn't return to the city I was born in, until 10 years later, for a short visit.
2007-01-28 06:48:12 · answer #2 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand your feelings toward your mom, I too have an alcoholic mother. Growing up and even into my adult life, I had to deal with my mother's alcohol problem.
The best thing you can do is find an ala-non meeting where you live so that you have a support network to help you. Your boyfriend's family is another source of support. I'm not sure if they are aware of your mother's problem (I'm guessing they must at least have some idea what's going on). As someone else suggested, contact the local courts and see what you have to do to get emancipated.
Your mother needs to get herself treatment, but only she can do that. She is very sick. At the same time, you don't deserve the hell she is putting you through.
I strongly believe alcoholism is hereditary, thus you need to be aware yourself of the same kinds of behavior. When and if you start drinking (if you haven't already) always remember what your mom is going through and know that it isn't the solution to your problems. I'm sure you've already learned that from her though.
Good luck!
2007-01-28 07:50:04 · answer #3 · answered by milwaukiedave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now, tylerbee! Being angry and saying all those nasty words about ur mom is not gonna solve your problem. So u have to decide this matter maturely understanding the state ur mother is in at the moment. I know it is hard for u to live with her, but she is the one who brought u up! So leaving her and start living wth ur bf isn't the solution to get rid of this nightmare. Just face it! It's good that you enjoy livin with ur bf's family and they care about u!But u gotta tell yourself that under these circumstance ur mom needs help. If u leave her to live alone then she can do something very bad indeed like commit a suicide. So at the current, ask help from your bf and go see a psychatrist or a psychologist. Explain about ur mum's problem and i'm sure she'll help. Also talk to ur mom about this issue and tell her the harm she is doing herself and how this is influencing her health! I hope she realises what bad she is doing!Cheers!
2007-01-28 07:03:30 · answer #4 · answered by glossy div@ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how old you are,find a relative that is aware of your situation and that may be able to become your legal guardians.See if your bf parents can help you with this process.Don't let this stop you from doing whats important in your life like school.Good Luck. And try praying...it works!
2007-01-28 06:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by sarja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First get to Al Anon then get to a good psychatrist or psychologist (insurance will pay) and with them create a plan for your life! I wish you the best!
2007-01-28 06:45:14 · answer #6 · answered by christy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should not utter such bad words for your mother. she is the lady who has brought u to this world and u should be thankful and greatful to her. try to understand her state for being alcoholic and try to help her to get out of it. u can also take help of doctor or NGOs. if u r able to get rid of it...your all problems will be solved.
2007-01-28 06:47:22 · answer #7 · answered by s l 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go to court and live with ur bf!! dont go back home .. or if u can talk to ur mom abt it again and tell her that ur gna go live with ur bf coz u cant put uo with this and ...
2007-01-28 06:48:36 · answer #8 · answered by gurlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIND SOMEWHERE YOU CAN LIVE THEN TAKE HER TO COURT. I AM SURE YOU CAN GET A FREE LAWYER.GOOD LUCK
2007-01-28 06:45:15 · answer #9 · answered by fdebbie2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth & that you gonna leave her anyway.
2007-01-28 06:50:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋