I have a co-worker who flirts with me occasionally. He finds ways to ask me questions and looks at me a lot. He also has a girlfriend, which at first made me doubt whether he was just being friendly with me or was actually flirting. To tell the truth, I'm still not sure but on New Year's Eve we were at the same place and he caressed my shoulder and made eye contact as his girlfriend was looking away... At first I was being cordial, but now I'm trying to avoid him. Anyway the problem is I don't know whether I should tell my boyfriend about him or not. My boyfriend lives in another city and always gets worried about how people behave when he's not around. We have an honest and serious relationship but at the same time I don't wanna get him worried... What do you think I should do?
2007-01-27 22:36:24 · 19 answers · asked by JustAGirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I were you, I'd tell my boyfriend, theres no need in hiding anything that's not wrong, especially where ur in an honest & seriouse relationship, & it's something u would want your bf to tell you if it happened to him.
& about this creep, if he keeps on doing this, tell him to stop, if he still doesn't get it through his head that ur not interested, tell his GIRLFRIEND!
I'm sure SHE can deal with him her own way!
Best of luck!
2007-01-27 22:52:34 · answer #1 · answered by CupCake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to talk to someone about this pickle you're in and you think your bf is able to offer better advice/understanding/etc., then it'd be a shame if you *couldn't* talk to him without him freaking out.
If you start your story saying something negative about the guy whose flirting with you, such as, "There's this creep I'm trying to avoid....", that might help him not worry.
The #1 reason guys worry about other men's behavior is because their gf will fall for guy #2. Let him know that won't happen, and telling him *should* be OK.
2007-01-27 22:55:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey just tell that guy that u have boyfriend and try to sort out the problem on your own, do not make the mistake by telling your boyfriend about it because he is in another city, in any way he wont come to your office and will fight with that guy or may be say something to him, in fact he will be problem after knowing the situation. So better not to tell him, BUT yes try to speak to your senior about that guy. And just stop talking to him or may be just tell him if he does it again you are gonna speak to his girlfriend about it. ALL THE BEST DEAR......
2007-02-04 20:55:41 · answer #3 · answered by Nidaa27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to handle it yourself. Throughout your life you will encounter happenings like this and you need to know how to take control of these situations.
First I would tell the co-worker that his behavior is making you uncomfortable and to stop. If he complies, then there is no need to say anything to your boyfriend.
If the co-worker continues to touch and/or caress you, then would go to your superior.
Lastly, if your superior does nothing about it, then I would let your boyfriend know.
2007-01-27 22:44:22 · answer #4 · answered by Pom♥Mom Spay and Neuter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell the guy who is flirting with you that you are not interested as you are already dating someone else. I wouldn't tell your man just yet as the other guy might get the message and you would only upset the apple cart. If he doesn't get the hint, and the flirting gets too much, then advise him that if he doesn't let up you will have to report him for sexual harassment.
2007-01-27 22:46:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wld suggest speaking to this co-worker, tell him you dont appreciate him flirting with you as you are in a serious relationship. Jst let him no that you arent interested in him. Regarding your boyfriend, i wld not tell him yet. By telling him at this point will jst cause him to worry unnecessarily. If the co-worker persists then i wld tell your boyfriend. Gud luck
2007-01-27 22:50:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was once in your shoes. Always stay within close distance with this flirt's girlfriend. That'll keep his behaviour in check without actually confronting him about his dirty deeds. If you'll ask him about his dirty deeds, he'll deny and become defensive. That'll only make you shoot yourself in your own foot. Use body language to show him that you aren't interested in him. If he looks in your direction, glare at him and then look away. If he touches your shoulder, shrug his hands off.
As for your boyfriend, you should tell him about this man and tell him what you'll do to safeguard yourself. You shouldn't hide such information from him.
2007-01-27 22:43:38 · answer #7 · answered by citrusy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your co worker to leave you alone. let him know you are in a serious relationship and how you dont appreciate his gestures. If he continues to bother you talk to your boss. That is sexual harrassment and you shouldnt have to work in that type of environment. Also the next time he touches you slap his face, that will wake him up.
2007-02-04 22:22:14 · answer #8 · answered by helen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If nothing else has happened there is no need to tell your boyfriend. The problem seems more to be with this guys' behaviour. If he does something you don't like, tell him you'd prefer he doesn't repeat the behaviour. Set some boundaries, then if he oversteps you could tell your boyfriend if you can't deal with it yourself.
2007-01-27 22:41:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told this new man about your current boyfriend? That might be a good way to start. Otherwise, try to be polite but firm with him. Don't go overboard though- You do have to work with the guy.
2007-01-27 22:39:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋