My family thinks that I will one day regret my life and the way I am raising my kids because I don't believe in Christianity. My kids know my family, but I don't let them get close or spend to much time alone I don't want my kids around people that think that mommy is going to hell. Even if my family doesn't say anything... all their standards of right and wrong are everywhere and my kids pick up on them and realize that we do 'wrong'. I don't want my kids getting close. Am I wrong? Would you feel the same? If my kids choose that when they are older, then fine. But when they are young, I don't think I should be undermined as a parent, even subtlely.
2007-01-27 22:15:58 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
my kids come home with ideas of right and wrong. And with my family there is only room for one right.. that is them
2007-01-27 22:29:37 · update #1
I agree with you and I am the same way. Religion can be poisonous and best off avoided if you and your family cannot agree. I would keep my children away if they are being fed religious propaganda.
2007-01-28 01:26:01 · answer #1 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family is too important to deny them a relationship . Explain to your kids that all people have their beliefs and they are entitled to them but it doesn't mean they are right. If you are going to let them choose when they are older then you need to expose them to all religions. Not a great representation of Christianity but it is family. Just talk to your kids before they go that these are their beliefs but not yours. They don't have to believe it or even form an opinion yet. Most time will be taken up though with just everyday fun stuff. Have a talk to your family if you feel you have to and explain that you feel you will have to limit there contact if they tell your kids you will go to hell. This should be enough to stop that. But please don't cut out your family for their beliefs
2007-01-27 22:54:33 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation! If you think your family is telling your kids that you live a life of evil and they won't stop, despite your requests (you MUST talk to them about it), you'll have to keep your kids away.
When I was agnostic, I asked my family not to push any kind of religious agenda and they respected my wishes. I never wanted to keep my kids away from their grandparents, aunts, uncles or cousins! Now that I am a Christian, I ask the atheists in my family not to push *their* agenda on the kids (they seem more intent on their agenda than the Christians in my family ever did). If they do that, then I have to keep my kids away from *them*.
So far, I've been lucky by communicating my desires with both sides. I hope you have the same luck.
2007-01-28 02:33:28 · answer #3 · answered by C C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are absolutely right & have my backing 100%. I would only allow for visits where i am present & would leave swiftly at the first sign of critiscism. I have a similar family who think i'm the worst mother in the world, when infact i'm very into my kids & have a very stable life - they only need to put you down to make themselves feel better. Stay away as much as possible.
2007-01-27 22:28:12 · answer #4 · answered by Mishell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. Its a tough one.
But if they arent saying anything directly to the children, then I think you really should let your children get to know their family. Your children are going to encounter a lot of different value systems as they grow up, and you cant restrict all influences on them! I mean, even the "simpsons" cartoon gives a strong christian message.
Perhaps you could explain to your children that your believe something that others may not. Dont underestimate a childs intelligence after all, they do have the ability to think for themselves.
2007-01-27 22:26:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes I would. I don't have anything to do with my family but I have never kept my daughter from being with them. My daughter has always known what is truthful about her mom and what isn't. Besides when people tell me I'm going to hell I tell them "that's ok, want me to save you a seat on the bus going?" In otherwords..."sticks and stones".
2007-01-27 22:24:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. I wouldn't want my kids to come in contact with such people. First, children are sensitive beings and mother is the central figure of their world and listening to such views harms their own self-image.
2007-01-27 22:24:35 · answer #7 · answered by Winter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you should ever stop your kids seeing there family, but if you feel that they will have some power over them and they will turn them against you mabey you have a good reason.
but if they seem to think your satan or something you should speak to them. just dont use your kids against them as a weapon because its just not fair on the kids
2007-01-27 22:29:40 · answer #8 · answered by creme8888 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 15:25:56 · answer #9 · answered by hayakawa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-27 22:36:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋