becomes very angry and keeps crying to get what she wants, how can I make her listen to me without being harsh with her
2007-01-27 21:59:52 · 12 answers · asked by strawberry 2 in Food & Drink ➔ Cooking & Recipes
Don't give in to her demands. You are the adult. When she cries, just say (in your normal speaking voice) "No, honey. You can't have that". Just keep saying it over and over. She can hear you. Trust me, when she cries like that, it gives her a headache. After a while, when she sees that it doesn't work. She'll stop.
2007-01-27 22:03:59 · answer #1 · answered by Debi in LA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless your heart, they learn so fast....My advice is to basically ignore her until the episode passes... At 1 and a half they don't have much reasoning, more so reaction. She has learned what trips your trigger... I am guessing sometimes you give into them, maybe sometimes not? They say it takes you 200 times to correct a behavior, & beleive you me, I am a 47 year old with a 19 year old, & a 6 year old, so I can speak with experience... When my Jenna gets that way I send her to her room & make her sit on her bed until she calms down.... Try your best to stay calm, as negative energy breeds negative energy.... She's a smart little girl if she has this already.... Stick to your guns, stay calm (or fake it). They are just like us in little bodies, they try to see what they can get away with... I promise, if you take control & show her you mean business she will relent, & all without you being harsh.... They were gifts to us (or so I think most of the time!!) treat it as so... You are her mentor, you are her teacher, you are her Mama.... I say this with all sincerity, because I feel as if I haven't ever done anything right I was able to grow a life inside of me, give birth, & take care of my children... We are great aren't we....React to her the way you would want her to react to your grandchildren.....
Good luck....
Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance.
2007-01-28 06:17:02 · answer #2 · answered by Linda Jo V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if she gets what she gives, she'll soon realize she doesn't like it so much. Do not give in to her demands or you will have a monster on your hands!! A spoiled child is acceptable but a spoiled brat is not. Walk away from her until she has contained her anger, then approach. If she keeps it up, I would have a doctor intervene, may be something underlying. Never stop loving her or being patient. I know nerves can get raw and frazzled, but be patient! Good luck
2007-01-28 07:14:23 · answer #3 · answered by hotdiggetycat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is at an age where she tries to figure out communication. Kids are naturally egotistical as they don't come equipped with social skills and graces (now wouldn't THAT be nice?). There is only one way to learn about boundaries and limitations: You have to teach her.
I found that the best way is to "break the pattern": The routine is A) she wants something B) you don't give it to her C) she throws a tantrum D) you cave in and she gets what she wants. You can break this pattern by being more flexible than her - the one with more flexibility wins. Try distracting her with a song, start crying yourself, act a lunatic... play a game: who acts the most embarrassing, wins.
2007-01-28 06:33:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way would be not to scream at her, bribe her or do anything of the sort. You would also do well not to give in to her demands. For me, the best way would be to talk to her and compromise: come up with a solution that suits you both. The most important thing would be to not spoil her...it would also be helpful if you could set her limits and tell her about WANTS and NEEDS.
2007-01-28 06:49:25 · answer #5 · answered by princess_julia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not easy... but, this is just my simple view of a possible solution:
1. You have to establish the boundaries & not let her knock them down, else she will dominate you.
2. You have to involve her in simple tasks, put fun into them, & get her to help you, talk lots about them, like loading the washing machine, sorting the clothes,sitting on the floor at her level.
3. If she wants something that is reasonable, but has not done something you needed her to do you should be teaching her that you are the parent, she must also please you before she gets what she wants.
2007-01-28 06:30:50 · answer #6 · answered by John C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may think ur harsh at the time but when she is 12 and still doing it you willt hannkyourself for it now jump on top of this and show her your the parent she is the child try time out or take something off her when whe is doing these tantrum she will soon learn you mean bussiness
2007-01-28 06:08:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not bulge to his/her demand (First). Try to read him/her and expect when he/she would demand. Try and avoid that situation. Give him/her something to concentrate other than the issue he/she is in. Let him/her be creative in his/her own way. Do not force him/her with an answer. Try to question him/her. See for yourself they can be more creative than us.
2007-01-28 06:29:22 · answer #8 · answered by jp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is too small, Just try to divert her mind by engaging her in something different.
U will have to spare much time to her.
2007-01-28 11:31:32 · answer #9 · answered by AVANISH JI 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to be a companion to her and enjoy but at the same time higlight the proper things by action
2007-01-28 09:46:40 · answer #10 · answered by hari prasad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋