2007-01-27 21:59:38 · 24 answers · asked by T E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The only way it can negatively influence your relationship is if you focus on it or if you listen to people who may not be supportive of your relationship. As long as you two have things in common and are (somewhat) on the same wavelength, you should be fine.
2007-01-27 22:05:33 · answer #1 · answered by flygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It absolutely depends on you and her. It should not be a problem if you both are extremely compatible. Is she ready to settle down? Are you? Has she had a full past of dating miserable men/has gotten that out of her system (it usually only takes one or two men for that to be enough). Are you with her only because she is young/a trophy....or has it always been about her personality and the way you are together? Do your future plans coincide? Do you have enough similar interests to keep each other satisfied/engaged? Has she gotten partying out of her system yet? She can't even legally drink in bars yet, though she very likely already has. But see, I make assumptions. She might not even drink. But that is something that very likely could change in a year or two or ten. She has not finished growing up yet. I know a couple that recently separated. The age difference was about the same as your situation. His friends all warned him that she was too young, hadn't become who she really was yet. But she was so sweet and pretty and they were so very much in love....
That being said, many women enjoy being with older men and are compatible with older men. I don't know why. I know I prefer older guys, though 15 years is more than I have done....and even now I sometimes feel stunted by what I have supposedly given up (and the age difference is little more than six years). Yet I love my partner and am always glad that we are together....it trumps all the other worries at the end of the day. And I know of married couples with a similar age difference that do just fine.
So...It may not last forever, but it will probably still be good.
Just make sure you are on the same page before you start planning the wedding and kids and retirement package. You can not generalize things about relationships because the people that are involved in a relationship are unique....therefore the relationship itself is unique. And you cannot predict the future and all the million of things that can occur...so don't try. If you are committed to each other, then don't worry. It will only bring problems to your relationship, not solve possible future ones.
2007-01-27 22:21:02 · answer #2 · answered by teddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married to a man that is 15 years my senior. I don't think an age difference can have a negative influence on any relationship that is based on trust and love, just like any other relationship. In my case, I was ready for a relationship with someone who was done with all the partying and game playing I was seeing in guys my own age. There is more a sense of stability in having an older man, who knows what he wants in a relationship. If you both are comfortable with the age difference, it can become a wonderful lifelong relationship. Hope this helps!!!
2007-01-27 22:07:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if you let it be a negative influence. if you do love each other then age should not be an issue. I'm 23 and my partner is 33 and we have learnt to laugh at the silly differences but I would not change it for the world. Ignore what anyone else says, do what makes you both happiest.
2007-01-27 22:06:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a matter of fact it doesn't and it shouldn't at the time being... and possibly never ahead from now so long as you are in agreement on most of what you are faced with on daily basis...
Should the relation develope to a deeper relation; i.e., Marriage, then there will be some concerns of course... We cannot ignore it, nor can we hide it...
Look at both of you 30 Years from now, and weigh things over in all aspects....
Things will be totally different and your perspective will definitely be changed on almost everything around you...
She will be at her Optimum Stage in everything, where as you will be slow & negative to the same degree / level
Better decide on the kind of relation you both intend to maintain throughout the years, then ask you question to yourself rather than us...
No hard feelings....I'm being honest & sincere for both your sakes...
2007-01-27 22:14:08 · answer #5 · answered by FOREVER AUTUMN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why?
If you make a permanent commitment, don't forget that by the time she's 40 you'll be 55. MUCH better than being 40 together. A lot of the trouble in such relationships comes from women fading out sexually far earlier than men.
2007-01-27 22:06:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only negative effect would come directly from you. If this is weighing heavily on your mind, perhaps you should have considered it BEFORE you decided to make this a 'relationship' and let it go after the screamin' and shoutin' was done! The only limitations you should feel are those you choose to apply to yourselves...if you want to be happy, you will be!
2007-01-27 22:08:12 · answer #7 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 52 and my wife is 25, we have been together for 5 years and have had absolutely no problems with our relationship. Age gap's don't usually become a problem when two people are mature.
It's when other people start interfering in the relationship is when problems arise.
2007-01-27 22:08:41 · answer #8 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
T E i think that your friends will call into effect your level of maturity for dating a girl that young . The fifteen years will not matter in twenty, but for now people will talk. Just an observation here.
2007-01-27 22:07:12 · answer #9 · answered by dragunov 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
other than the fact that she might not know what she wants or is not ready to settle down... not really, if you are both open minded. I was 35 with a girlfriend that was 23, it worked out pretty well.
2007-01-27 22:05:22 · answer #10 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋