I was in a relationship for 5 years and at the end of 05 we separated.She has moved on and it has been a year since I've seen her.I find it hard to put myself completely into another relationship.I know there is no going back and every time I try talking with a another woman of interest about my issues,they seem to change in charater with me, like they become withdrawn.I can understand how they may feel but it gets hard to deal with by yourself at times and i'm not looking for a pity party from my friends.It would be nice to have a woman I could share my thoughts with, without her jumping ship.How does a person bring up such a topic without running off a person? Is it possible?I dout it!
2007-01-27 21:36:19 · 5 answers · asked by sarja 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-01-27 21:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by Mel 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop talking about your old relationship with potential new women. It's something you can discuss down the line when you are in an established relationship. Move on. You will quickly turn a woman off you if you bring up the past like you say you have. Put your ex out of the picture before you try & start a new relationship. Sounds like you have more healing to do first, you are not ready.
2007-01-28 05:47:13 · answer #2 · answered by Mishell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your self how you would feel about some woman talking about her ex partner during a conversation to hopefully start a new relationship. You would be Pissed off!
Get over it move on and treat it like a community dance. changing partners on the dance floor you don't tell the new partner the other peson wa such a good dancer do you? No you start afresh and for the moments they are the greatest thing in your experience for that moment. So get a grip on yourself, burn the photos and momentos and stop beating yourself up I am sure she isn't mooning around and telling other blokes she misses you. Instant disaster!
2007-01-28 05:54:43 · answer #3 · answered by Shelty K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something simbolic like throw her picture into the ocean or something like that it may help a bit.. AS for finding another woman? Don't talk to them about past relationships, a woman hates hearing about how in love you were with another, of course they'll withdraw..... Maybe go to Thailand for a few weeks... Try to have some fun....
2007-01-28 05:48:24 · answer #4 · answered by Blizzzard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not really an issue for discussion with potential new partners until you have resolved your feelings. This would be better dealt with by discussing it with friends, or a counsellor who can guide you toward closure. Anyone with baggage from a previous relationship would put off potential new partners who have dealt ith their own 'issues'.
2007-01-28 05:42:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋